Re: Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

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::::::::::::::::: I truly identify with this statement:

"My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat."

My daughter doesn't do anything wrong in the school (the 4 days she was allowed to go- she is still 4yrs old and 1 1/2 yrs away from K), but everytime I bring something up in ARD I am told "oh yeah my kid does that" and well, that is a normal behavior for her age.... It is annoying...

Carolyn

From: jenuhferr <jenuhferr@...> Sent: Sun, March 20, 2011 11:11:18 AMSubject: ( ) Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory. My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class, recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored. Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher. So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.' My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!) and her crappy "behavioral

plan" basically says she is "bossy." I don't think they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to something I can print up for her? She says she's read "all cats have aspergers." I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough. But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I want to be fair here. My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat.Thanks for advice and any info!6yo Aspie

girl

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,I too have a 6yro girl with Asperger's, very High functioning also. I just went to my daughter's IEP last week. I had a similar situation with them telling me the same exact things of "My child does that", "that's normal for a... child", I too put them into their place. They showed me a picture of her, "Very happy in class, because we made a pizza". I of course had to explain to them that the picture they were holding had her "forced smile". They were shocked. My problem is that my daughter does not show her "meltdowns" at school. I their eyes she is the "ideal student", she is such a rule follower, she is very quiet, extremely smart, etc. She is just a little shy, and tends to cry when their are some changes in the schedule, unannounced. They even feel that Socially, she is fine for a Kindergartener. Grrrrr!What I have to come to realize about school systems, is that they the people that do our IEP's are basically "sales people" for the school system. their job is to not give more services than THEY deem necessary. They want to boost you up, so you are so very happy, and excited to hear your child's progress, that you are caught off guard, and agree to things that you didn't want to agree to. i.e. not getting services that you had. The other HUGE thing that I have learned about all of the people in our IEP, is that they do not know specifically about Asperger's, especially in girls. Girls act differently with it. Maybe you could express to your teacher(s) that your daughter, maybe needs some friends at that time. Giving her space might not be what she needs from her friends. Teacher's maybe yes. Sometimes a friend(peer) can do a lot for your child. Your child is more than likely NOT a brat. They probably just need to educated about Asperger's. My daughter too can come across like that sometimes. I am glad to hear that your teacher's, and your daughter let you know about situations that happen at school. I have found out about several situations with my daughter, in a report card, not from the teacher. Communication from the Teacher's is lacking for me. The biggest thing is that you know your daughter, better than anyone, and you need to be her advocate.

From: jenuhferr@...Date: Sun, 20 Mar 2011 16:11:18 +0000Subject: ( ) Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory.

My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class, recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored. Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher. So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.'

My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!) and her crappy "behavioral plan" basically says she is "bossy." I don't think they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.

Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to something I can print up for her? She says she's read "all cats have aspergers." I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough.

But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I want to be fair here.

My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat.

Thanks for advice and any info!

6yo Aspie girl

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"All kids do that" is such a common thing to say to us during meetings. The problem is, our kids are kids. I mean, obviously they are not aliens and will do things that kids do normally. (duh!) But how they deal with it, learn from it, can control it, etc. - all that is different and that is what distinguishes our kids from other kids.

Any behavior plan that says, "bossy" on it is probably not that great of a BP. Who wrote the BP up? Does it study her throughout the day and find reasons for why she is doing what she is doing - i.e. why she is bossy? That is the goal of having an FBA done in the first place. We already know the behaviors are problems so just writing a report that names them - "bossy", "slow", "Brat" or whatever, does nothing to help design an appropriate BP. Does the BP specifically tell them to ignore her when she is melting down? If it does, then you should request a new BP and first have someone do an FBA to determine why she is having problems and how to best help her. Obviously, she isn't coping well and ignoring her isn't fixing the problem. So they need a new plan. If you can request to have an expert in autism behavior do the FBA, all the better.

If you are wondering what is really going on, I would go visit and find out. Observing her in classes can help you determine what is really going on.

Roxanna

May those who love us, love us

And those who don't love us,

May God turn their hearts

And if he can't turn their hearts,

May he turn their ankles

So we will know them by their limping!

( ) Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory.

My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class, recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored. Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher. So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.'

My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!) and her crappy "behavioral plan" basically says she is "bossy." I don't think they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.

Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to something I can print up for her? She says she's read "all cats have aspergers." I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough.

But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I want to be fair here.

My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat.

Thanks for advice and any info!

6yo Aspie girl

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went to my daughter's IEP last week. I had a similar situation with them telling

me the same exact things of " My child does that " , " that's normal for a...

child " , I too put them into their place. They showed me a picture of her, " Very

happy in class, because we made a pizza " . I of course had to explain to them

that the picture they were holding had her " forced smile " . They were shocked. My

problem is that my daughter does not show her " meltdowns " at school. I their

eyes she is the " ideal student " , she is such a rule follower, she is very quiet,

extremely smart, etc. She is just a little shy, and tends to cry when their are

some changes in the schedule, unannounced. They even feel that Socially, she is

fine for a Kindergartener. Grrrrr!

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> What I have to come to realize about school systems, is that they the people

that do our IEP's are basically " sales people " for the school system. their job

is to not give more services than THEY deem necessary. They want to boost you

up, so you are so very happy, and excited to hear your child's progress, that

you are caught off guard, and agree to things that you didn't want to agree to.

i.e. not getting services that you had. The other HUGE thing that I have learned

about all of the people in our IEP, is that they do not know specifically about

Asperger's, especially in girls. Girls act differently with it.

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> Maybe you could express to your teacher(s) that your daughter, maybe needs

some friends at that time. Giving her space might not be what she needs from her

friends. Teacher's maybe yes. Sometimes a friend(peer) can do a lot for your

child. Your child is more than likely NOT a brat. They probably just need to

educated about Asperger's. My daughter too can come across like that sometimes.

I am glad to hear that your teacher's, and your daughter let you know about

situations that happen at school. I have found out about several situations with

my daughter, in a report card, not from the teacher. Communication from the

Teacher's is lacking for me.

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recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored.

Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports

from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize

what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know

that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher.

So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.'

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> My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!)

and her crappy " behavioral plan " basically says she is " bossy. " I don't think

they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.

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> Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her

about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to

something I can print up for her? She says she's read " all cats have aspergers. "

I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough.

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making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I

want to be fair here.

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> My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP

meeting saying " oh all kids to that " or " MY kid does that. " I did put them in

their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's

just a brat.

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I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son, then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!

I can send you a copy if you like.

Geneva

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2009 Guard Up What Is Aspergers sheet.doc

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Individualized education planSent from my iPadOn Mar 20, 2011, at 8:14 PM, "eduardomx@..." <eduardomx@...> wrote:

I'm sorry. What is IEP?

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> What I have to come to realize about school systems, is that they the people that do our IEP's are basically "sales people" for the school system. their job is to not give more services than THEY deem necessary. They want to boost you up, so you are so very happy, and excited to hear your child's progress, that you are caught off guard, and agree to things that you didn't want to agree to. i.e. not getting services that you had. The other HUGE thing that I have learned about all of the people in our IEP, is that they do not know specifically about Asperger's, especially in girls. Girls act differently with it.

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> Maybe you could express to your teacher(s) that your daughter, maybe needs some friends at that time. Giving her space might not be what she needs from her friends. Teacher's maybe yes. Sometimes a friend(peer) can do a lot for your child. Your child is more than likely NOT a brat. They probably just need to educated about Asperger's. My daughter too can come across like that sometimes. I am glad to hear that your teacher's, and your daughter let you know about situations that happen at school. I have found out about several situations with my daughter, in a report card, not from the teacher. Communication from the Teacher's is lacking for me.

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> My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class, recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored. Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher. So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.'

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> Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to something I can print up for her? She says she's read "all cats have aspergers." I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough.

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Ditto! Ugh!

From: Carolyn Weisbard <ccweisbard@...>Subject: Re: ( ) Informing K teacher about meltdowns? Date: Sunday, March 20, 2011, 3:36 PM

::::::::::::::::: I truly identify with this statement:

"My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat."

My daughter doesn't do anything wrong in the school (the 4 days she was allowed to go- she is still 4yrs old and 1 1/2 yrs away from K), but everytime I bring something up in ARD I am told "oh yeah my kid does that" and well, that is a normal behavior for her age.... It is annoying...

Carolyn

From: jenuhferr <jenuhferr@...> Sent: Sun, March 20, 2011 11:11:18 AMSubject: ( ) Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory. My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class, recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored. Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher. So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.' My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!) and her crappy "behavioral

plan" basically says she is "bossy." I don't think they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to something I can print up for her? She says she's read "all cats have aspergers." I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough. But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I want to be fair here. My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat.Thanks for advice and any info!6yo Aspie

girl

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Hi ,

I have a 9 1/2yr old grandaughter that was just diagnosed with Aspergers

Syndrome. I had her evaluated when she was 4yrs old for Sensory Integration

disorder, and she was diag with that. It was effecting all of her senses. I

cannot even begin to explain to you about her meltdown's how bad that were. We

did get her into early intervention was she was around 3 1/2 yrs old, thank God

that helped her so much. She started in special ed in Kindergarden, and was

transition into reg class in the second grade. She out grew most of her sensory

issues except for her picky eating problems. We were sort of surprised when we

received her diag from the neuropsych dr, but I knew there was something that

was not right with the social part of her personality. The point I am getting

to, I never, never thought she would ever stop these meltdowns, they were

horrible, but she has. Once in a while she has a mild one, but not very often.

My daughter still does something called brush and press. This was something that

they taught her at OT. It really calms the kids down. Does your child have

sensory issues? If so maybe you should learn how to do this, it really helps

them to calm themselves. Also, the social worker at school should be teaching

him how to calm himself and take control of himself and regroup. I know my

grandaughter has had a few incidents in school this past month where she was

going to walk out of the room, the teacher asked her if she wanted to talk with

the social worker. She stopped got a hold of herself and went back to her desk.

I hope this info helps you. I truly believe the meltdowns do get better, my

granddaughter is living proof of that.

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> Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've

been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or

ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she

started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory.

>

> My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class,

recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored.

Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports

from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize

what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know

that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher.

So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.'

>

> My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!)

and her crappy " behavioral plan " basically says she is " bossy. " I don't think

they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.

>

> Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her

about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to

something I can print up for her? She says she's read " all cats have aspergers. "

I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough.

>

> But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one

making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I

want to be fair here.

>

> My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP

meeting saying " oh all kids to that " or " MY kid does that. " I did put them in

their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's

just a brat.

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> Thanks for advice and any info!

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> 6yo Aspie girl

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[Guest guest]

As I was reading this topic because of my own son's meltdowns in Kinder. I

really found your handout very useful. Thanks for that.

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> I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a

new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son,

then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific

situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted

form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the

Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role

playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!

> I can send you a copy if you like.

> Geneva

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> I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a

new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son,

then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific

situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted

form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the

Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role

playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!

> I can send you a copy if you like.

> Geneva

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Thank you for posting that, it's great!

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I personally would love to have a copy if you wouldn't mind sending it to me. tcavins@...

From: leds62@...Date: Mon, 21 Mar 2011 19:22:08 +0000Subject: ( ) Re: Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

As I was reading this topic because of my own son's meltdowns in Kinder. I really found your handout very useful. Thanks for that.>> I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son, then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!> I can send you a copy if you like. > Geneva>

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If you'd be so inclined I'd love to see this as well. We're recently diagnosed and I'm feeling sorta lost. Our psych isn't being very helpful in helping us help our son cope (and cope ourselves) and if you've got a list I'd love to see it. I do really well with if this happens do this type instructions:))From: miller23232323 <miller23232323@...>To:

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> I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son, then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!

> I can send you a copy if you like.

> Geneva

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Thank you for posting that, it's great!

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Its so frustrating isn't it? These comments people make to us about our children are not helpful at all.

Yeah, it's normal until it's not normal anymore! It starts to become more noticeable as they get older. I got the same comments for 3 years also. My son missed out on alot of opportunities for early intervention. At 3 yrs old our montessori teacher (the only one on our side then and ever since) made a statement that I still hear in my head now - now it makes sense. She urged me to keep pushing, keep advocating for whatever it was that my son was struggling with. She said "it won't be noticible now to friends, family or even some professionals. His quirky ways, his inquisitive nature, he moodiness... it can be perceived as "cute" or acceptable for only so long. There will be a time when people won't allow for excuses or make exceptions for your son when the expectations are raised simply because of his age." sigh.... it all makes sense now.

( ) Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory. My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class, recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored. Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher. So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.' My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!) and her crappy "behavioral plan" basically says she is "bossy." I don't think they are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to something I can print up for her? She says she's read "all cats have aspergers." I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough. But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one making things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I want to be fair here. My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP meeting saying "oh all kids to that" or "MY kid does that." I did put them in their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's just a brat.Thanks for advice and any info!6yo Aspie girl

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Wow, thanks, Geneva, your document is awesome.

Liz T.

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Great document! Geneva, could I share it with another group?

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> I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a

new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son,

then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific

situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted

form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the

Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role

playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!

> I can send you a copy if you like.

> Geneva

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excellent document!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love it... It will be very helpful to me as well. Thank you so much for sharing it!

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Great document! Geneva, could I share it with another group? >> I have a three page MSWord document that i give to people whenever we have a new caretaker, for a club or camp or school. The first page describes my son, then the next 2 pages describe WHAT TO DO and WHAT NOT TO DO for specific situations: Anger, Anxiety and Denial/Arrogance. I list options in bulleted form, along with how these manifest in Aspies. This is info straight from the Tony Attwood guide to asperger's. The fantasy camp (foam swords, D & D type role playing outside) used my document to train their staff in aspergers!> I can send you a copy if you like. > Geneva>

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, feel free to take attachment, change it or use whatever you need, no copyright issues with me!

Geneva

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Wow, thanks everyone for the kudos for my document! Makes me feel warm inside.

Geneva