Need some advice regarding friends...

July 15, 2009

Hi all,

I need some advice from the experts :-)...because people not in our position

really don't get it...My 10yr old AS son is fairly high functioning, but very

immature and definitely lacking social skills.

Just to give some background, in the last school year his best friend (who was

in the same class, which is a mainstream/team class and lives across the street)

basically dumped him, didn't like him anymore and tried to turn other kids

against him too. (I was totally beside myself and depressed so I also need help

personally dealing with this). Things improved in the Spring, they played in

groups together at school, but not with each other at home anymore. So now it's

Summer and our development has a pool. We don't go every day, but they do.

Things have been ok for the most part, I talk to the mom now a bit (we were

friends before all this) and they have played together a little bit in the past

2 weeks at the pool.

Now it seems that this kid wants no part of ds when other kids are at the pool.

Yesterday my son was sooo excited to see him (they arrived after us) and this

kid completely ignored him.. My son was basically stalking him, standing there

asking him to play, so we left shortly after. I explained to ds that he didn't

want to play to which he insisted he did, but he had to do swimming races first.

You all know how explaining those siuations can go, in one ear and out the

other. It broke my heart to see him just being ignored, and ds was NOT happy to

leave, he almost threw a tantrum. So what to do, go back? Try to council ds

to leave the kid alone? (which is amost impossible) Or just stay away when they

are there? Any advice is appreciated!!

Kelli

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