Guest guest Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 My son is 6 and has been potty-trained for almost 2 years. It was a struggle to get him there, but by 4ish he finally complied, and by 4.5 we even threw out the night-time Pull-Ups and went full on underwear. For a while we constantly reminded him and checked in with him to see if he had to go but for the past year or so we have relied on him to identify his own needs, and he has done so flawlessly. Until the past week -- last week he had three accidents over two days, and yesterday he had a fourth. The first three occured while he was sitting on the couch playing with his Spiderman laptop (a gift from my mother-0in-law I wish we never received) -- he was so engrossed that he didn't even seem to notice until he stood up. The fourth was yesterday - we were at a restaurant and my husband was reading him a story across the table. I watched him and recognized a look on his face that can only be described as the look he gets while he's going to the bathroom, so I interrupted the story and asked if he had to go. He said he would go after the story - my husband quickly wrapped up the book, but when he stood up his pants were already wet. This is very concerning to us, but not so much for my son. He calls them " accidents " and swears it won't happen again, but four times in a week really worry me. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you hadnle it? We are worried that we're not responding the right way, but we're not sure if it's best to be angry, consoling, understanding or strict about it. Would love any suggestions you may have. Heidi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 Yes, I have experienced this. My son is 13. The best thing I have found is to develop a routine. Make sure that he goes as soon as he gets up, before a meal, before a trip or other activity and before bed. This will then start to sink in and become part of his day. We started this at the suggestion of a therapist he was seeing when he was 4. You are right. When their mind gets so engrossed in what they are doing at that moment, they forget about all other things including that they have to go to the bathroom or eat (still a challenge for us). Hang in there. The routine does work as long as you are consistant. Janice in Wisconsin ---- hguarino <heidi.guarino@...> wrote: > My son is 6 and has been potty-trained for almost 2 years. It was a struggle to get him there, but by 4ish he finally complied, and by 4.5 we even threw out the night-time Pull-Ups and went full on underwear. For a while we constantly reminded him and checked in with him to see if he had to go but for the past year or so we have relied on him to identify his own needs, and he has done so flawlessly. > > Until the past week -- last week he had three accidents over two days, and yesterday he had a fourth. The first three occured while he was sitting on the couch playing with his Spiderman laptop (a gift from my mother-0in-law I wish we never received) -- he was so engrossed that he didn't even seem to notice until he stood up. The fourth was yesterday - we were at a restaurant and my husband was reading him a story across the table. I watched him and recognized a look on his face that can only be described as the look he gets while he's going to the bathroom, so I interrupted the story and asked if he had to go. He said he would go after the story - my husband quickly wrapped up the book, but when he stood up his pants were already wet. > > This is very concerning to us, but not so much for my son. He calls them " accidents " and swears it won't happen again, but four times in a week really worry me. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you hadnle it? We are worried that we're not responding the right way, but we're not sure if it's best to be angry, consoling, understanding or strict about it. Would love any suggestions you may have. > > Heidi > > > > ------------------------------------ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 Interestingly, that's what we had been doing until several months ago. Probably the right time to kick that routine back into play. On Wed, Jul 15, 2009 at 1:22 PM, <janices@...> wrote: Yes, I have experienced this. My son is 13. The best thing I have found is to develop a routine. Make sure that he goes as soon as he gets up, before a meal, before a trip or other activity and before bed. This will then start to sink in and become part of his day. We started this at the suggestion of a therapist he was seeing when he was 4. You are right. When their mind gets so engrossed in what they are doing at that moment, they forget about all other things including that they have to go to the bathroom or eat (still a challenge for us).Hang in there. The routine does work as long as you are consistant. Janice in Wisconsin ---- hguarino <heidi.guarino@...> wrote:> My son is 6 and has been potty-trained for almost 2 years. It was a struggle to get him there, but by 4ish he finally complied, and by 4.5 we even threw out the night-time Pull-Ups and went full on underwear. For a while we constantly reminded him and checked in with him to see if he had to go but for the past year or so we have relied on him to identify his own needs, and he has done so flawlessly. >> Until the past week -- last week he had three accidents over two days, and yesterday he had a fourth. The first three occured while he was sitting on the couch playing with his Spiderman laptop (a gift from my mother-0in-law I wish we never received) -- he was so engrossed that he didn't even seem to notice until he stood up. The fourth was yesterday - we were at a restaurant and my husband was reading him a story across the table. I watched him and recognized a look on his face that can only be described as the look he gets while he's going to the bathroom, so I interrupted the story and asked if he had to go. He said he would go after the story - my husband quickly wrapped up the book, but when he stood up his pants were already wet. >> This is very concerning to us, but not so much for my son. He calls them " accidents " and swears it won't happen again, but four times in a week really worry me. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you hadnle it? We are worried that we're not responding the right way, but we're not sure if it's best to be angry, consoling, understanding or strict about it. Would love any suggestions you may have. >> Heidi>>>> ------------------------------------ >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2009 Report Share Posted July 15, 2009 My son was potty trained at about 3 1/2 and fully (nighttime) by age 4 and yet at somewhere around age 7 going the the bathroom (urine only - thank goodness) became too much of a chore for him so he started to pee on the floor in his bedroom and playroom. In his case he didn't want to leave what he was doing (transitioning problems) so ignored it as long as he could and then a choice (impulsively) not to go to the bathroom but to go to the most convenient spot. I would question whether or not he is really not aware or if he is making an impulsive desision to just go and deal with the consequences later. Of course there are some medical conditions that could be at play here also. He could have a urinary tract infection. My sugestion (aside from checking with a docter) would be to make him stop what he is doing and go every hour. You can explain that if he can't pay attention to his bodies signals than you (as a parent) must help him with that. If he is doing it consciencely he will so realize that it is easier to go when needed than to be forced to go every hour. Vickie > > My son is 6 and has been potty-trained for almost 2 years. It was a struggle to get him there, but by 4ish he finally complied, and by 4.5 we even threw out the night-time Pull-Ups and went full on underwear. For a while we constantly reminded him and checked in with him to see if he had to go but for the past year or so we have relied on him to identify his own needs, and he has done so flawlessly. > > Until the past week -- last week he had three accidents over two days, and yesterday he had a fourth. The first three occured while he was sitting on the couch playing with his Spiderman laptop (a gift from my mother-0in-law I wish we never received) -- he was so engrossed that he didn't even seem to notice until he stood up. The fourth was yesterday - we were at a restaurant and my husband was reading him a story across the table. I watched him and recognized a look on his face that can only be described as the look he gets while he's going to the bathroom, so I interrupted the story and asked if he had to go. He said he would go after the story - my husband quickly wrapped up the book, but when he stood up his pants were already wet. > > This is very concerning to us, but not so much for my son. He calls them " accidents " and swears it won't happen again, but four times in a week really worry me. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you hadnle it? We are worried that we're not responding the right way, but we're not sure if it's best to be angry, consoling, understanding or strict about it. Would love any suggestions you may have. > > Heidi > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2009 Report Share Posted July 16, 2009 Hi,Yes, it has happened to my daughter several times when she was having petite seizures. Does it happen when your son is walking? Make a journal of when it happen and what you son was doing and how he reacted to it, then take him to the doctor to eliminate health's issues.Several health problems can cause a situation like that, I hope you have a good doctor.Good Luck Re: ( ) 4 accidents in a weekInterestingly, that's what we had been doing until several months ago.Probably the right time to kick that routine back into play.On Wed, Jul 15, 2009 at 1:22 PM, <janices@...> wrote:> Yes, I have experienced this. My son is 13. The best thing I have found is> to develop a routine. Make sure that he goes as soon as he gets up, before a> meal, before a trip or other activity and before bed. This will then start> to sink in and become part of his day. We started this at the suggestion of> a therapist he was seeing when he was 4.>> You are right. When their mind gets so engrossed in what they are doing at> that moment, they forget about all other things including that they have to> go to the bathroom or eat (still a challenge for us).>> Hang in there. The routine does work as long as you are consistant.>> Janice in Wisconsin> ---- hguarino <heidi.guarino@...> wrote:> > My son is 6 and has been potty-trained for almost 2 years. It was a> struggle to get him there, but by 4ish he finally complied, and by 4.5 we> even threw out the night-time Pull-Ups and went full on underwear. For a> while we constantly reminded him and checked in with him to see if he had to> go but for the past year or so we have relied on him to identify his own> needs, and he has done so flawlessly.> >> > Until the past week -- last week he had three accidents over two days,> and yesterday he had a fourth. The first three occured while he was sitting> on the couch playing with his Spiderman laptop (a gift from my> mother-0in-law I wish we never received) -- he was so engrossed that he> didn't even seem to notice until he stood up. The fourth was yesterday - we> were at a restaurant and my husband was reading him a story across the> table. I watched him and recognized a look on his face that can only be> described as the look he gets while he's going to the bathroom, so I> interrupted the story and asked if he had to go. He said he would go after> the story - my husband quickly wrapped up the book, but when he stood up his> pants were already wet.> >> > This is very concerning to us, but not so much for my son. He calls them> "accidents" and swears it won't happen again, but four times in a week> really worry me. Have any of you experienced this? If so, how did you hadnle> it? We are worried that we're not responding the right way, but we're not> sure if it's best to be angry, consoling, understanding or strict about it.> Would love any suggestions you may have.> >> > Heidi> >> >> >> > ------------------------------------> >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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