Guest guest Posted August 3, 2010 Report Share Posted August 3, 2010 Thank you ladies for so many of your ideas and worries and fears and hopes that you bravely share through this group....you help me so much to not feel alone as I travel this complex road with my child.....janetFrom: " " < > Sent: Tue, August 3, 2010 7:29:30 AMSubject: ( ) Digest Number 11548 A support list for parents of children with Asperger's Syndrome or HFA. Messages In This Digest (9 Messages) 1. Speech Pathologist From: wilma1866@... 2a. Mel) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy From: SISTER FIRE 3a. Re: Bed wetting 2-3 times a night..... From: Elinor Mullin 4a. Re: What do you do to keep your sanity? From: KVAMP777@... 4b. Re: What do you do to keep your sanity? From: Roxanna 5.1. Re: Newbie From: bridget 6a. Re: Social curiosity book From: Debora Bradfield 7a. Re: What Happens After High School? From: Barbara Pinckney 8a. Need Advice From: wilma1866@... View All Topics | Create New Topic Messages 1. Speech Pathologist Posted by: "wilma1866@..." wilma1866@... wilma1866@... Mon Aug 2, 2010 7:32 am (PDT) Yeah, I finally found a great speech pathologist in Northern NJ!!! Just needed to vent some good news for a change!!! Back to top Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post Messages in this topic (1) 2a. Mel) Girls Aspies and Being Boy Crazy Posted by: "SISTER FIRE" baptism_by_fire_2000@... baptism_by_fire_2000 Mon Aug 2, 2010 7:34 am (PDT) My daughter is going through this right now. I would be happy to talk to you privately about some of the things we went through. SISTER FIRE NEED PRAYER?: http://www.ourchurc h.com/view/ ?pageID=38489 OUR PODCAST: http://emperorsflam e.mylifeministri es.org IT'S A JUNGLE OUT THERE, SO PUT ON YOUR FULL ARMOR.  From: bucaroobonzai2003 <bucaroobonzai2003> Subject: ( ) What do you do to keep your sanity? Date: Saturday, July 31, 2010, 11:28 PM I've been having a rough run lately. I have virtually no family support, and get almost no breaks away from my Aspie son. So any suggestions on keeping sane and relaxed. - Back to top Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post Messages in this topic (9) 5.1. Re: Newbie Posted by: "bridget" beanniferj@... beanniferj Mon Aug 2, 2010 11:03 am (PDT) Thank you - I will be sure to let my friend know what to watch for! Thank goodness you figured out what was going on in time - it must have been very frightening. Bridget From: Roxanna <MadIdeasaol (DOT) com> Subject: ( ) Social curiosity book Date: Saturday, July 31, 2010, 7:01 PM  I wondered if anyone has read this book yet --> "Socially Curious and Curiously Social" I think I am going to get it this fall sometime. It's by Winner and I usually really like her stuff. But I wondered if anyone has had their hands on it and could provide an opinion? I would also like to let everyone know that on our web page at groups, we have a book review application. Anyone who wants to review books that they have read related to our common interests is welcome to do so! I need to make time to do it myself but I know, we are all so busy. Roxanna Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again. Back to top Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post Messages in this topic (2) 7a. Re: What Happens After High School? Posted by: "Barbara Pinckney" b-pinckney@... pinckone Mon Aug 2, 2010 1:50 pm (PDT) you are a very wise woman, Roxanna. I always find myself nodding (and sometimes smiling) all through your posts. From: MadIdeasaol (DOT) com Date: Sat, 31 Jul 2010 15:34:54 -0400 Subject: Re: ( ) What Happens After High School? I just read a post at this topic and it's just leaves me so flabbergasted. I don't know what to say - this is just not reality. I only wish life was so simple that we could order up what we want in advance. Even with my own NT kids, I have learned to compromise (i.e. shut up) what I felt was a more appropriate future with what they have decided to do. lol. I mean, they have their own thoughts on the subject of their futures. You'd think they would defer to my unending wisdom as the mother. But no! They even make decisions without consulting me first, the little br...er...darlings. And off they go, waving good-bye and living their lives. big sigh. I would only wish it were that easy with my boys who have HFA. I'd give up wishing and hoping for my ideal version of their life if they would only take over the task and move towards their own dreams as well as most NT kids can do it. At any rate, I disagree with the post that said that parents often do not aim high enough for their kids. I have found the opposite to be true in most cases. Most of us aim very high and we want the most choices available as we can possibly get. But many times, it isn't aiming low but finding a compromise between what we wish and what will realistically be able to happen. I'm not sure either, why some jobs would be considered so beneath consideration. Some jobs were listed in a post as if they were not worthwhile and I don't agree with that. I think once our kids get to the older ages like 17 or 18, we parents have moments where we would sell an arm just to assure they will not be living in our basement forever. lol. And not all kids, even those with AS, have high IQ's. And as you pointed out, having a high IQ is only one factor of many. It doesn't guarantee a lot. Dream, but have some sense of realistic expectations added to those dreams. Who wrote the post not long ago that just said it all so well - how sometimes the kids who are not having many problems in the younger years suddenly hit a wall in the older years where their social problems really surge forward. I can't remember the post and I had wanted to save it too. It was really good and accurate and I can't describe it all myself. Maybe I will find it here as I read posts and repost it. Roxanna Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again. ( ) What Happens After High School? I have never posted anything before but want to share information with parents who have children graduating high school soon. Our son Nick has Aspergers; a learning disability in math and a low IQ along with symptoms of OCD. He went through our public school system as a regular student with remedial help. When Nick began his senior year we started worrying about what he would do after school. My husband started researching universities that have "special programs". Let me tell you there aren't many. He visited one in Illinois and was very impressed, so he kept looking. In February of his senior year he & Nick visited Eastern New Mexico University at Roswell. My husband was impressed with the director's compassion and her assurance that their program would help him two ways: 1. He would leave with a job skill and 2. He would learn to live on his own. At that point Nick had never spent more than a week away from us and to decide to send him over 1,400 miles away to school was a little unnerving to say the least. But we applied and in August of 2007 we put him on a plane (something else he had never done on his own) that would land in Dallas. He would then have to transfer to the plane that would take him to Roswell. I would be kidding if I said he made it entirely on his own, or that he wasn't neurotic about doing that, but he called his dad and my husband who flies a lot walked him through every step of the way. The first year he lived in a dorm-like setting and took the stock & inventory program. Our hope was when he finished he would be able to find employment at someplace like Wal-Mart or Sam's in our home town. Fast forward to today. He asked to do a third year and the Ace Hardware he did a practicum at has hired him, and he and his first year roommate now live in an apartment on campus. They are responsible for buying groceries and keeping their apartment clean. They must pass weekly checks in order to keep their privileges. He has made the Dean's list every semester which has helped him to have faith in himself. When he returns home next year my husband & I are certain he will find a suitable job and eventually be able to live on his own. My point in sharing this information is to say, there is life after high school! If anyone would like the list of the three schools we found please let me know. Back to top Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post Messages in this topic (24) 8a. Need Advice Posted by: "wilma1866@..." wilma1866@... wilma1866@... Mon Aug 2, 2010 4:43 pm (PDT) My child was diagnosed with OCD & Aspergers. The OCD is being helped a bit with Luvox, but I still have the problem of her staying in her own world all of the time. She could stay in the house all day long and not even go out for days. She has been like this since 2. I just wonder what they could give her to shake her out of this. She is house bound and I am so at a loss after 10 years of trying. Back to top Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post Messages in this topic (2) Recent Activity 18 New Members Visit Your Group Stay on top of your group activity with Toolbar Need traffic? Drive customers With search ads on Group Charity City Year Young people who change the world Need to Reply? Click one of the "Reply" links to respond to a specific message in the Daily Digest. Create New Topic | Visit Your Group on the Web Messages Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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