Re: ANOTHER Tired of It Day

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Keep your calm! Great job!

From: tandypierce <tandypierce@...>Subject: ( ) ANOTHER Tired of It Day Date: Saturday, November 13, 2010, 8:46 PM

I read here daily but don't always comment and when I do it seems I am always venting!It's just one of those days that I am so tired. Tired of feeling "picked apart" by my Aspie over ever tiny, small detail of the world. Tired of being asked a question incorrectly by my Aspie and then yelled at and berated when my answer doesn't match what she is thinking, but didn't communicate. Tired of my Aspie telling me that when I wrote a "birthday" on the calendar that it's not really her birthday that day, that her birthday is on Monday,it's her PARTY that is on that day, mom (i.e., mom are you so stupid that you wrote her "birthday" instead of her "party"?). Tired of my Aspie pulling out all of the stops on me today and doing every tiny, little irritating action she can against me in order to get me to react/respond/retaliate. Whew! I am HAPPY to say, though that I have not let it make me react to her. I've remained calm but firm. And she

may be earning an early bedtime!

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Kudos to you! Keep up the great work! It is a roller coaster ride ...and you will be going up soon!

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: tandypierce <tandypierce@...> Sent: Sat, November 13, 2010 8:46:43 PMSubject: ( ) ANOTHER Tired of It Day

I read here daily but don't always comment and when I do it seems I am always venting!It's just one of those days that I am so tired. Tired of feeling "picked apart" by my Aspie over ever tiny, small detail of the world. Tired of being asked a question incorrectly by my Aspie and then yelled at and berated when my answer doesn't match what she is thinking, but didn't communicate. Tired of my Aspie telling me that when I wrote a "birthday" on the calendar that it's not really her birthday that day, that her birthday is on Monday,it's her PARTY that is on that day, mom (i.e., mom are you so stupid that you wrote her "birthday" instead of her "party"?). Tired of my Aspie pulling out all of the stops on me today and doing every tiny, little irritating action she can against me in order to get me to react/respond/retaliate. Whew! I am HAPPY to say, though that I have not let it make me react to her. I've remained calm but firm. And she may

be earning an early bedtime!

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My daughter is the same. I think it is also a mother/daughter thing as much as an Aspie thing.From: tandypierce <tandypierce@...> Sent: Sat, November 13, 2010 8:46:43 PMSubject: ( ) ANOTHER Tired of It Day

I read here daily but don't always comment and when I do it seems I am always venting!

It's just one of those days that I am so tired. Tired of feeling "picked apart" by my Aspie over ever tiny, small detail of the world. Tired of being asked a question incorrectly by my Aspie and then yelled at and berated when my answer doesn't match what she is thinking, but didn't communicate. Tired of my Aspie telling me that when I wrote a "birthday" on the calendar that it's not really her birthday that day, that her birthday is on Monday,it's her PARTY that is on that day, mom (i.e., mom are you so stupid that you wrote her "birthday" instead of her "party"?). Tired of my Aspie pulling out all of the stops on me today and doing every tiny, little irritating action she can against me in order to get me to react/respond/retaliate.

Whew! I am HAPPY to say, though that I have not let it make me react to her. I've remained calm but firm. And she may be earning an early bedtime!

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Well, I have a son...and he pretty much gets along better with his father now. I am stricter and tell him NO. So he and I are not always in the best ways.....but then again...he is 15 so it is AS, Teenager Stuff and boys at this age tend to lean more to their dads (I believe). I truly believe our children (and most other kids) are better outside the home ...better behaved. Once, home...all the stuff they held in all day at school is unleased at the ones they feel safe and comfortable with ....and that is us.

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: sandee C <irsandee@...> Sent: Sat, November 13, 2010 10:40:20 PMSubject: Re: ( ) ANOTHER Tired of It Day

My daughter is the same. I think it is also a mother/daughter thing as much as an Aspie thing.

From: tandypierce <tandypierce@...> Sent: Sat, November 13, 2010 8:46:43 PMSubject: ( ) ANOTHER Tired of It Day

I read here daily but don't always comment and when I do it seems I am always venting!It's just one of those days that I am so tired. Tired of feeling "picked apart" by my Aspie over ever tiny, small detail of the world. Tired of being asked a question incorrectly by my Aspie and then yelled at and berated when my answer doesn't match what she is thinking, but didn't communicate. Tired of my Aspie telling me that when I wrote a "birthday" on the calendar that it's not really her birthday that day, that her birthday is on Monday,it's her PARTY that is on that day, mom (i.e., mom are you so stupid that you wrote her "birthday" instead of her "party"?). Tired of my Aspie pulling out all of the stops on me today and doing every tiny, little irritating action she can against me in order to get me to react/respond/retaliate. Whew! I am HAPPY to say, though that I have not let it make me react to her. I've remained calm but firm. And she may

be earning an early bedtime!

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With the correcting thing. We get that a lot. My 7 year old aspie is

constantly correcting everyone's grammar. I have a four year old and babysit

my four year old niece and three year old nephew and he constantly corrects

their grammar and speech mistakes. I have tried to explain to them that they

are younger and they will learn that stuff eventually but he just can't seem to

stop correcting them. I just hope they are capable of ignoring him and don't

become self-conscious or anything lol!

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> I read here daily but don't always comment and when I do it seems I am always

venting!

>

> It's just one of those days that I am so tired. Tired of feeling " picked

apart " by my Aspie over ever tiny, small detail of the world. Tired of being

asked a question incorrectly by my Aspie and then yelled at and berated when my

answer doesn't match what she is thinking, but didn't communicate. Tired of my

Aspie telling me that when I wrote a " birthday " on the calendar that it's not

really her birthday that day, that her birthday is on Monday,it's her PARTY that

is on that day, mom (i.e., mom are you so stupid that you wrote her " birthday "

instead of her " party " ?). Tired of my Aspie pulling out all of the stops on me

today and doing every tiny, little irritating action she can against me in order

to get me to react/respond/retaliate.

>

> Whew! I am HAPPY to say, though that I have not let it make me react to her.

I've remained calm but firm. And she may be earning an early bedtime!

>

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I agree with someone else who responded and said this is very much a mother/daughter issue as well as AS issue. lol. Teen girls can be so difficult for us mother's. I'm sure there are exceptions but where? lol. They think we are dumber than dirt as they get older and don't mind letting us know it! It's such a dance - asking what we think, then telling us our opinion is stupid and wrong - this goes on for YEARS! Then you will see, much like an arc curves back to the ground, they will experience more of life and suddenly realize you are not such a dummy after all. lol. I have a 29 yo dd and she was really difficult from about 17 yo to 21 yo, when I suddenly grew smart again. lol. Now I have a 19 yo dd who knows it all once again. They are good kids but it can really make you go crazy to have to deal with that all the time. hang in there. I'm sure with an AS dd, it can be double the fun, like everything to do with our kids!

Roxanna

"I

predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them." - Jefferson

( ) ANOTHER Tired of It Day

I read here daily but don't always comment and when I do it seems I am always venting!

It's just one of those days that I am so tired. Tired of feeling "picked apart" by my Aspie over ever tiny, small detail of the world. Tired of being asked a question incorrectly by my Aspie and then yelled at and berated when my answer doesn't match what she is thinking, but didn't communicate. Tired of my Aspie telling me that when I wrote a "birthday" on the calendar that it's not really her birthday that day, that her birthday is on Monday,it's her PARTY that is on that day, mom (i.e., mom are you so stupid that you wrote her "birthday" instead of her "party"?). Tired of my Aspie pulling out all of the stops on me today and doing every tiny, little irritating action she can against me in order to get me to react/respond/retaliate.

Whew! I am HAPPY to say, though that I have not let it make me react to her. I've remained calm but firm. And she may be earning an early bedtime!