potty training

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Does he have sensory issue? the out of sync child would be a great read if you think he does. From: becky.desimone <becky.desimone@...>Subject: ( ) potty training Date: Monday, January 4, 2010, 8:59 PM

My husband & I take care of our 3 1/2 yr old grandson 3 to 4 days a week and he was recently diagnosed with asperger's (a lot of things make sense now). Of course I would like to get him potty trained in the near future but at this moment I would be happy if he would let me change him without first screaming & throwing himself on the floor. Eventually, he willingly takes my hand and we go in his room to change him. He never minded it when he was younger. I always sang songs to him and he smiled while I changed him.

He's so sweet most of the time but does meltdown over small issues and since he has difficulty communicating, we have a hard time figuring out what the problem is.

He'll start ECDD pre-school soon and we're hoping for improved communication. I'm reading a book and trying to understand the syndrome so I can help him. It breaks my heart to see him struggle so any advice will be appreciated.

t/u

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> From: becky.desimone <becky.desimone@...>

> Subject: ( ) potty training

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> Date: Monday, January 4, 2010, 8:59 PM

His primary sensory issue is difficulty with changes in routines. His

psychologist said he didn't see any other sensory issues. New shoes are a huge

trama each time. He is mostly calm & happy at our house partly because we do

have a lot of routine to his day and partly because his baby brother isn't here.

At home they are preparing to move in a new house and he seems to already have

more anxiety (hand flapping & meltdowns). Yesterday he was putting a pillow on

the baby's face. He has to be watched closely at home or he'll hit the baby;

that's why we have the other grandparents' watch the baby now.

He mostly uses echolalia to communicate. He speaks in the third person and

mixes up his pronouns when he uses them. He is often in his own world reciting

dialog from a movie or words to a book. He acts them out and puts his own name

in place of one of the characters sometimes. It's very hard to get his

attention.

I will check out the book you mentioned.

Thank you

Becky

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> My husband & I take care of our 3 1/2 yr old grandson 3 to 4 days a week

and he was recently diagnosed with asperger's (a lot of things make sense now).

Of course I would like to get him potty trained in the near future but at this

moment I would be happy if he would let me change him without first screaming &

throwing himself on the floor. Eventually, he willingly takes my hand and we go

in his room to change him. He never minded it when he was younger. I always

sang songs to him and he smiled while I changed him.

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> He's so sweet most of the time but does meltdown over small issues and since

he has difficulty communicating, we have a hard time figuring out what the

problem is.

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> He'll start ECDD pre-school soon and we're hoping for improved communication.

I'm reading a book and trying to understand the syndrome so I can help him. It

breaks my heart to see him struggle so any advice will be appreciated.

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> t/u

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My daughter is 3 1/2 and high sensory processing issues and communication impairment.

Potty training was very hard for us, but once I decided it had to be done, I spent 3 days with her in the living room with the potty and a doll that pees. I showed her a couple times that the doll peed on the floor and told her she could train the doll and tell her how to do it. It was like role playing. But she of course was scared and threw painful cries that broke my heart, yet I know I had to help her figure it out consistently and supportingly. So after the 3rd day of reading lots of stories and playing near the potty, and watching her cues, know that she eventually had to go, she did it and she loved the praise and was proud of herself. She was trained 100% by that point and never had an accident because she is perfectionist and loves rules. Maybe these ideas will work for your grandson.

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Thank you. I was kind of thinking that he wouldn't be ready for some time yet

and I wondered what age other AS kids were trained. I guess we're lucky that he

loves a bath. Thanks for your help!

Becky

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> > My husband & I take care of our 3 1/2 yr old grandson 3 to 4 days a week and

he was recently diagnosed with asperger's (a lot of things make sense now). Of

course I would like to get him potty trained in the near future but at this

moment I would be happy if he would let me change him without first screaming &

throwing himself on the floor. Eventually, he willingly takes my hand and we go

in his room to change him. He never minded it when he was younger. I always

sang songs to him and he smiled while I changed him.

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> > He's so sweet most of the time but does meltdown over small issues and since

he has difficulty communicating, we have a hard time figuring out what the

problem is.

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> > He'll start ECDD pre-school soon and we're hoping for improved

communication. I'm reading a book and trying to understand the syndrome so I

can help him. It breaks my heart to see him struggle so any advice will be

appreciated.

> > t/u

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My son is 4 1/2 and trained shortly after his 4th birthday. Prior, we had spent

countless hours with books and videos on the subject because advance knowledge

is very helpful for him. 'Elmo's Potty Time' video was his favorite, but is

guarnteed to drive adults crazy, lol. He would go through periods of willingly

sitting on the potty (but not going) to throwing a fit and refusing to. This

lasted over a year or so. He eventually got it, but just took a lot of time and

patience. Another thing that helped immensley is we finally got rid of his

chronic constipation. I am sure this was a hinderance on him knowing the feeling

of having to go and being able to push or let it out on command. I just mention

that in case your grandson has any issues like that.

About the meltdowns when changing him, that definitely could be a transition

issue. He doesn't want to stop what he is doing to go get changed. Also could be

a control issue the same as other kids have around this age. One other idea is

that something may have happened to put him off on it that you are not even

aware of. Like a rash that caused pain when wiping, etc. My son went through a

month of freaking out about taking a bath and we never did figure out the cause,

but eventually enough time passed that whatever the trigger, his memory of it

finally faded.

Definitely keep reading; there's tons of good ideas out there and one will work

for him eventually!

TJ

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> My husband & I take care of our 3 1/2 yr old grandson 3 to 4 days a week and

he was recently diagnosed with asperger's (a lot of things make sense now). Of

course I would like to get him potty trained in the near future but at this

moment I would be happy if he would let me change him without first screaming &

throwing himself on the floor. Eventually, he willingly takes my hand and we go

in his room to change him. He never minded it when he was younger. I always

sang songs to him and he smiled while I changed him.

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> He's so sweet most of the time but does meltdown over small issues and since

he has difficulty communicating, we have a hard time figuring out what the

problem is.

>

> He'll start ECDD pre-school soon and we're hoping for improved communication.

I'm reading a book and trying to understand the syndrome so I can help him. It

breaks my heart to see him struggle so any advice will be appreciated.

> t/u

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