Guest guest Posted January 8, 2002 Report Share Posted January 8, 2002 Charlene, I found your message regarding your visit to orthopedist on 1/7/02 interesting because I was told same thing regarding " soft tissue involvement " at my right wrist when I saw orthopedist several weeks ago. He told me name of condition is synovitis which is inflammation of synovum (spelling?) -- soft tissue that supports joint and the tendons and muscles surrounding joint. He further explained that there are many nerve endings in this type of tissue which, when inflamed, results in the transmission of signals through central nervous system to brain, making synovitis extremely painful. I can attest that the cortizone shot administered that day into top of hand very near wrist was most painful area in which I ever received an injection of the dozen or more I have received in other areas over the years. Additionally, when I received and read latest edition of ARTHRITIS TODAY, January - February, 2002 (see www.arthritis.org to review) last week there was a short article on page28 under listing " good news/bad news " entitled 'MRI and Synovitis' (good news) stating that MRI may help doctors in diagnosing inflammation in the hands of people with RA. Apparently, MRI (magnetic radiative image--please correct me if R stands for something else as I am unsure now that I write it) was found to be more sensitive than clinical examination in diagnosing synovitis (inflammation of the joint lining) in a study which involved 12 people with active RA. Article went on to list two joints that MRI is particularly helpful with diagnosis: the metacarpophalangeal (MCP) joint which is the knuckle closest to the palm of the hand; and the proximal interphalangeal joint (PIP), which is the joint in the middle of each finger. I plan to share this article with the orthopedist on my return visit next week and ask whether MRI would be helpful in diagnosing and obtaining treatment for toes and joints where they attach to foot--the only thing that will relieve pain in this area for me is prednisone/methylprosolone, etc. which I avoid taking unless the pain becomes absolutely intolerable (usually when weather changes from warm to cold, especially when drop in temperature is sudden or more than 20 degrees). Also, glad to hear you are doing so well on the antibiotic treatment and that you are able to focus more on your 13-year old daughter--I agree that September 11 has motivated all of us to re-evaluate priorities, but feeling better sure helps us to follow through on new perspective on life! [ ] Bummed Out Big Time!!! > Went to see an orthopedic doc today since the pain in my right hip get really ugly after I complete a Tae Kwon Do classes or stand on my feet continuously (like I did yesterday for my grandbaby's first birthday). I think the doc is excellent. I was surprised because he (and 4th year medical student he had in the room with him) knew all about PA and it's numerous symptoms and body system effects. He said the increased pain could be due to soft tissue involvement that sometimes occurs with PA (new symptom that I was unaware of, but makes a lot of sense). He said we need to get X-rays. Unfortunately both his rad techs were out today so... I'm going to have to go back for a follow up appointment in 2 weeks and then we'll discuss treatment after that. When I got home and opened my mail box, there was a letter from the life insurance company that provides the group life through my employer. I had wanted to increase the amount of insurance I have since I just bought a house and have a 13 year old to raise. I didn't want to leave my adult daughter and the 13 year old with a financial burden if I take a sudden dirt nap before the teenager reaches adulthood. The group life insurance carrier refused to let me increase my insurance due to the PA! Thanks a lot! > > I've been feeling pretty good since starting the antibiotic protocol. I have felt guilty about writing anything since I seemed to be doing so good. Also, was very busy doing the activities for the holidays ( wrapping gifts and baking). Also have been trying to give my 13 year old daughter a lot more quality time. We're all we have. I think the events of September have made re-evaluate my priorities. > > BEST WISHES FOR A WONDERFUL AND HEALTHIER NEW YEAR TO ALL YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE!!!! > > Charlene > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2002 Report Share Posted January 8, 2002 Charlene, Re very painful hip, I developed the same about eighteen months ago and it flares regularly. Xrays revealed no joint problems. It has been diagnosed as chronic trochanteric bursitis due to PA. Occasionally, I have to have a cortisone shot to ease it. Deep tissue massage by a physiotherapist has also helped when it is bad, but boy it really hurts when she digs into it. The phsiotherapist also tried hot packs which did no good and then switched to cold packs which.surprisingly, helped relieve it. So I keep a cold pack in the freezer at home and use it when necessary. I also use Votaren Emulgel which is a topical nsaid available over the counter in pharmacies here in Australia. I awoke this morning with some pain in the hip and treated it as above and it is ok now. Regards, Gordon [ ] Bummed Out Big Time!!! > Went to see an orthopedic doc today since the pain in my right hip get really ugly after I complete a Tae Kwon Do classes or stand on my feet continuously (like I did yesterday for my grandbaby's first birthday). I think the doc is excellent. I was surprised because he (and 4th year medical student he had in the room with him) knew all about PA and it's numerous symptoms and body system effects. He said the increased pain could be due to soft tissue involvement that sometimes occurs with PA (new symptom that I was unaware of, but makes a lot of sense). He said we need to get X-rays. Unfortunately both his rad techs were out today so... I'm going to have to go back for a follow up appointment in 2 weeks and then we'll discuss treatment after that. When I got home and opened my mail box, there was a letter from the life insurance company that provides the group life through my employer. I had wanted to increase the amount of insurance I have since I just bought a house and ha! > ve a 13 year old to raise. I didn't want to leave my adult daughter and the 13 year old with a financial burden if I take a sudden dirt nap before the teenager reaches adulthood. The group life insurance carrier refused to let me increase my insurance due to the PA! Thanks a lot! > > I've been feeling pretty good since starting the antibiotic protocol. I have felt guilty about writing anything since I seemed to be doing so good. Also, was very busy doing the activities for the holidays ( wrapping gifts and baking). Also have been trying to give my 13 year old daughter a lot more quality time. We're all we have. I think the events of September have made re-evaluate my priorities. > > BEST WISHES FOR A WONDERFUL AND HEALTHIER NEW YEAR TO ALL YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE!!!! > > Charlene > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2002 Report Share Posted January 8, 2002 Regarding message sent earlier today to Charlene--MRI stands for Magnetic Resonance Imaging. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2002 Report Share Posted January 10, 2002 My husband had joint involvement, his cartilaghe was " eaten up " by the arthritis and he had to undergo hip replacement surgery. Sadly, his doctors found out about it when it was already too late to try and mitigate the deterioration. The reason: he was very active and since he has had PA since he was 13 years old, and hence, dealing with pain for over 20 years now, he sort of didn't pay much attention to the " little bit of extra pain " he was noticing ... until it became unbearable. I wonder if any of you has had this sort of experience: getting so used to be in pain and to flare-ups, that you sort of don't pay that much attention to the " extra " pain anymore. Btw, I have been a member of this group for almost a year now, I just don't participate that much, as I am not the one suffering from PA. I joined to learn about the condition and how others are coping with it. Regards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2002 Report Share Posted January 10, 2002 -Yes, definitely I get/got use to the pain, I know it is there... but more-or-less just 'accept' the pain and try to just 'deal' with whatever seems to be the more serious problem at the moment. This is the very reason that I have delayed taking MTX each of the 4 times, knowing my immune system will drop, I will catch 'something'(as I just got over bronchitis again), and figuring I can toletate the pain and avoid other problems that come with all the possible medications... Anyway, my Orthopedist is the one that finally was very direct/honest with me... told me 'point blank' that in 10 years or so I would slowly end up with all sorts or joint replacements by being so 'brave' with the pain now. That the destruction of the joints will definitely occur and very often cause irreversible damage. So, my response is that I am always trying to 'cope' (and sick of it), but more than that I am not always sure of when to complain and when 'not' to... sometimes I am told it is just a tendon or just wait and see, so I don't want to " ...cry wolf... " so often that I outwear my welcome with my doctors when something is more serious and painful... I find it very hard to differentiate what is more serious than others. I do know that pain is good in the sense that it lets us know something is wrong, so usually I just relax a joint by using it less, rest more until I am better, splint smaller joints to stabilize them a while, etc. Very seldom do I take pain killers, I am more afraid of not feeling the pain and overusing an affected joint that is 'screaming out' to me to let it rest. Plus, I am afraid of getting use to pain killers, so I use them sparingly and 'listen carefully' to what my pain(s) are trying to tell me. Pain, in my experience, is very exhausting... I realize after many years that I am simply exhausted because of living with chronic pain, I adapted to it (whether it is good or bad). Most recently I didn't even think I had bronchitis, I wasn't coughing (although my sinuses were a bit congested and my voice was hoarse...)and just thought my chest was 'aching/painful' because of the arthritis... so that's why it is good to have a check when in doubt... Does anybody else feel like this, like they are 'living in pain'? #2 -- In @y..., " minina62 " <mygroups62@h...> wrote: > My husband had joint involvement, his cartilaghe was " eaten up " by > the arthritis and he had to undergo hip replacement surgery. Sadly, > his doctors found out about it when it was already too late to try > and mitigate the deterioration. The reason: he was very active and > since he has had PA since he was 13 years old, and hence, dealing > with pain for over 20 years now, he sort of didn't pay much attention > to the " little bit of extra pain " he was noticing ... until it became > unbearable. > > I wonder if any of you has had this sort of experience: getting so > used to be in pain and to flare-ups, that you sort of don't pay that > much attention to the " extra " pain anymore. > > Btw, I have been a member of this group for almost a year now, I just > don't participate that much, as I am not the one suffering from PA. > I joined to learn about the condition and how others are coping with > it. > > Regards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 I have had PA for 7 years and am also active: surfing, backpacking, fishing, kayaking, etc. At first it was really hard but then I just became adjusted to a certain level of pain. I can't really remember what life was like without some pain so I may be doing the same thing as your husband. Pain is something that can't really be measured. During flare-ups I usually hit the predisone and ride it out with that. I have been taking gluclosamine chodrotin (spelling?) and MSM for the past 5 years as well as lots of Motrin and/or Aleve, but you are still constantly living with some level of pain. Is there a test or can x-rays tell if your cartilage is damaged? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2002 Report Share Posted January 11, 2002 Hey #2: Living in constant pain can be very exhausting over time. " No pain, no gain " may have its place but in my experience with PA this philosophy usually backfires. The destruction is the scary part..all they have are band-aids. Does prednisone stop the destruction? Is it better than methotrexate? Does it cause P flares? Later Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 Debbie, I agree with your experience, that this 'pain' philosophy usually does backfire with us who have PA... I am always careful not to overexert inflamed joints and do take NSAID's and Pain killers when needed. But, in general, PA is more-or-less chronically painful and I have to live with it, more-or-less....without further injury to my joints, of course. I have never taken steroids, except for the local injections into joints that are so inflamed that I have no other choice... except possibly waiting for the joint to explode or be amputated due to lack of circulation... ) ... anyway, the MTX has always helped, but have never been on it for more than 4 months at a time... each time had to stop due to bronchitis and once pneumonia... because it lowered my immune system. Previous messages have mentioned that all other meds. either haven't been successful or I had terrible side-effects. You asked if prednisone stopped the destruction... it did in the sense that it reduced the swelling and therefore the added pressure to the individual joints... but long-term use of local steroid injections will surely create problems in itself... by making that joint susceptible to necrosis, opening it up for future infections... not sure of all the specifics... but my Orthopedist tried to explain it to me... that's when I most recently went back on the MTX... still waiting to get over the bronchitis so I can continue it again. Thanks for your message. #2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 YES!YES!YES!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 Hey #2: Hope your bronchitis clears out and your MTX can kick back in. I have been taking Ampicillin to keep my psoriasis in check....are you taking any antibiotics? Did you ever try to Minocycline? Thanks Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 Thanks for your reply, . Everything that you expressed sounds very familiar to me, as I often ask him questions. I learned a lot when he underwent his hip replacement surgeries. I truly was wondering if this was something that everyone afflicted by PA goes through. He does take pain medication, though. I still remember when he had to undergo the second surgery and was told that he had to stop taking all pain medications except for Tylenol. It has been one of the most grueling experiences we've been through as I could see the pain in his face 24/7. He did not complain a lot, but he even needed a cane to be able to walk during that week. All of you are truly admirable, brave people. Regards, Mireya > -Yes, definitely I get/got use to the pain, I know it is there... but > more-or-less just 'accept' the pain and try to just 'deal' with > whatever seems to be the more serious problem at the moment. This is > the very reason that I have delayed taking MTX each of the 4 times, > knowing my immune system will drop, I will catch 'something'(as I > just got over bronchitis again), and figuring I can toletate the pain > and avoid other problems that come with all the possible > medications... Anyway, my Orthopedist is the one that finally was > very direct/honest with me... told me 'point blank' that in 10 years > or so I would slowly end up with all sorts or joint replacements by > being so 'brave' with the pain now. That the destruction of the > joints will definitely occur and very often cause irreversible damage. > > So, my response is that I am always trying to 'cope' (and sick of > it), but more than that I am not always sure of when to complain and > when 'not' to... sometimes I am told it is just a tendon or just wait > and see, so I don't want to " ...cry wolf... " so often that I outwear > my welcome with my doctors when something is more serious and > painful... I find it very hard to differentiate what is more serious > than others. I do know that pain is good in the sense that it lets > us know something is wrong, so usually I just relax a joint by using > it less, rest more until I am better, splint smaller joints to > stabilize them a while, etc. Very seldom do I take pain killers, I > am more afraid of not feeling the pain and overusing an affected > joint that is 'screaming out' to me to let it rest. Plus, I am afraid > of getting use to pain killers, so I use them sparingly and 'listen > carefully' to what my pain(s) are trying to tell me. > > Pain, in my experience, is very exhausting... I realize after many > years that I am simply exhausted because of living with chronic pain, > I adapted to it (whether it is good or bad). Most recently I didn't > even think I had bronchitis, I wasn't coughing (although my sinuses > were a bit congested and my voice was hoarse...)and just thought my > chest was 'aching/painful' because of the arthritis... so that's why > it is good to have a check when in doubt... Does anybody else feel > like this, like they are 'living in pain'? #2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 In his case, the X-rays showed the damage. Up to then he had been jogging (he even participated in a marathon shortly before they found about the carthilage damage), and horsebackriding (the Olympic kind, with the fence jumping). He was limping though, and he attributed it to his arthritis and to being in bad shape. At the time he was living in CA. When he came back to NY he had to find himself a new rheumatologist. He had not had X-rays done in maybe a year. He was the doctor who found about it. How has the glucosamine been working for you? We just started taking it about a month ago. Regards, Mireya > I have had PA for 7 years and am also active: surfing, backpacking, fishing, kayaking, etc. At first it was really hard but then I just became adjusted to a certain level of pain. I can't really remember what life was like without some pain so I may be doing the same thing as your husband. Pain is something that can't really be measured. During flare-ups I usually hit the predisone and ride it out with that. I have been taking gluclosamine chodrotin (spelling?) and MSM for the past 5 years as well as lots of Motrin and/or Aleve, but you are still constantly living with some level of pain. Is there a test or can x-rays tell if your cartilage is damaged? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2002 Report Share Posted January 12, 2002 -Thanks for your message Debbie, I just finished a course of Augmentin 375 mgs. yesterday... still feel like I have a drippy nose, but my chest seems clear. My rheumy wants to have a chest xray done and to check me before getting me back on MTX... my joints are already getting worse just missing my one week dosage while on the antibiotics... ( In a previous message 'someone' mentioned that previously affected and damaged joints were now not as painful... I have also had that experience. My L ring finger was my 1st joint affected, it was swollen and very painful (typical sausage appearance... ugh) for at least 2 or 2 1/2 years... but ever since I have never had a problem with it... BUT I am very careful with all my joints now, I don't cut with scissors, cut vegetables, etc. I don't want to affect other joints with any more stress than necessary... I remember how upset I was not to be able to wear my wedding ring for so long, now I had it made 1 1/2 sizes larger... I get funny looks sometimes, looks like I stole someone else's ring, I wrap a bandaid around the back to keep it from falling off... I have had too many 'ring cutting' experiences in the emergency room(s) to even think of wearing a proper fitting ring ever again ! My feet are another story... I can avoid using my hands more than I can my feet (as all of you, of course... ), but since I can't avoid walking and bearing weight on my feet...so, needless to say, the foot and toes never really get a good enough rest to recover like my fingers. My newest affected joint is middle and side of my R 'middle' finger... it is amazing how much I didn't realize I used that part of my finger... cutting my food with a knife, brushing my teeth, brushing my hair, writing with a pen or pencil, and especially hurts when I am holding a mug of tea... Sorry, this went on and on... but over 10 years of experiencing P and PA I had forgotten so much of my medical history of events until I was reminded daily with all your messages and concerns, etc. I use to be upset about psoriasis, now it doesn't bother me a bit... PA has taken center stage to everything else. It really consumes every moment of our lives. It makes me so happy to read touching and concerned messages from the SPOUSES of us with PA... bravo for your support and understanding. I have an interesting question.... does anyone ever feel at a loss when they have a 'good' day (i.e.- less pain, less worry, less anxiety, etc.)? I certainly do, I find myself thinking " Wow, I feel great now... but how long will it last... " I feel as if I shouldn't deceive myself and think it is overwith, because if I do I will most certainly be more upset when the pain sets in again and I may have overdone it when I was feeling good.... paying for it later. Well, I am tired now, it is 11:30 p.m. and I must wake up at 4 a.m. to get my daughter off to the airport... returning to University... and I know I have 'rambled on' enough for now. #2 Oh, Debbie, I have never tried Minocycline... but I will look it up, thanks again. (sorry for this loooooong message...) -- In @y..., djfl77@a... wrote: > Hey #2: > Hope your bronchitis clears out and your MTX can kick back in. I have been > taking Ampicillin to keep my psoriasis in check....are you taking any > antibiotics? Did you ever try to Minocycline? Thanks Debbie > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 14, 2002 Report Share Posted January 14, 2002 #2 wrote: I have an interesting question.... does anyone ever feel at a loss when they have a 'good' day (i.e.- less pain, less worry, less anxiety, etc.)? I certainly do, I find myself thinking " Wow, I feel great now... but how long will it last... " I feel as if I shouldn't deceive myself and think it is overwith, because if I do I will most certainly be more upset when the pain sets in again and I may have overdone it when I was feeling good.... paying for it later. , I have been feeling better the last couple of weeks (thank you Enbrel). Still in pain, I am sure I will always be, but tolerable. I got a yoga tape for Christmas. I made the mistake of trying it out. I couldn't get halfway through the tape. That night I started flaring. The next day I woke up feeling horrible. Such a disappointment. I felt like saying, " silly you for thinking that your body might get back to normal. " I don't think I will ever be able to be as active as I once was. Lately I have been so fatigued it is painful. I fall asleep at work. I fall asleep when I am driving. I sleep at least 8 hours every night and that still isn't enough. I get so tired it is physically painful to keep my head up and my eyes open. I know this isn't normal. As you have said before about forcing yourself to go out and then overdoing it. Well, I can never get the strength to force myself. I really worry that my marriage will suffer because of my horrible disease. I have only been married for almost 2 years now. I know my husband loves me and he puts up with me. I am thankful for that. I am scared that one day he is going to get sick of me being sick and leave. He tells me that I have a bad temper and sometimes I treat him badly. He thinks that I try to control him. Maybe I do. Maybe I feel like I can't control my life so I unconsciously try to control his? None of it is intentional, then again it never is. I love him desperately and don't want to lose him. I sometimes feel as though I have lost myself. He tells me that I have changed - which is true. I am not the happy carefree person I used to be. I am emotional, stressed, hurting, never wanting to do anything, frustrated, angry and sometimes taking it out on him. I don't mean to. I think part of it is the steroids, part of it is always feeling bad and partly being unhappy with where I am in my life. I used to thrive off excitement. I feel so bored with my life but I can't bring myself to do anything about it. I am actually jealous that he goes out when he wants and can do whatever he wants. He tells me that it is unfair - that just because I don't want to go out doesn't mean that he has to stay at home with me all the time. I agree, but it is still frustrating. He tells me it isn 't his fault I don't want to go out but how can I make him understand that it isn't that I don't want to go out - I feel like I physically can't. He says it isn't his fault that I am sick - well it isn't my fault either. He tells me that I am a changed person - that I am boring now. I think so too but what can I do? I miss the way my life was before I was sick. I don't want to sit here and feel sorry for myself, and I don't expect anyone else to either. I just feel like if I don't do something to change my life soon I will suffocate. I can't imagine living the rest of my life like this - this is no way for a person to live. I feel like I am stuck in the body of an old person. All these medications, they do more harm than good. And I am so fed up with all these doctors. I am so afraid that if I continue this way that I will die young. My body has already been through so much, I can't imagine what it will be like when I am my mother's age. I know a lot of people have it much worse than me and my heart really goes out to them. Nobody deserves to live like this. I am sorry. I really rambled on. I guess you can say I am having a bad day.... take care, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 -Dear , I can tell you are definitely having a very bad day... PA is like that... you never know what the next day will bring, how you will feel and what you can do considering how much pain you have or how many joints are aching, etc. I am wondering how old you are and if you have children...? I suppose I am lucky that I was already finished with all my pregnancies and raising all 4 of my children (at least the youngest was a few years old before my scalp showed signs of psoriasis, and eventually my 1st joint, my L ring finger, started to show signs of the PA)... at least I didn't have to carry around the weight of pregnancy and then babies and toddlers when my PA got worse. My husband and I have known each other since we were 19, dated 4 1/2 years, and just celebrated our 20 anniversary... anotherwards, we have been through so much together before all my physical problems began. I am not sure where I am leading to, but you said you have been married for 2 years... but, already your husband doesn't seem to be very supportive. We all have different situations, so I can't judge how your relationship is with him... I hope it is better than it sounds to be. Not being able to exercise without further damaging myself has been a very important point for me, I know everybody needs exercise to stay healthy... esp. women with the increase of osteoporosis, etc. I am so anxious to do 'something', but I always end up getting worse... even Yoga is exhausting and painful for me. I also get exhausted very easily... maybe from medications, the PA, too much thinking about all my problems, lack of exercise, who knows what else... but, I have decided to 'listen' to my body and rest as much as I need. I don't feel guilty anymore, I use to feel lazy... but this site has given me so much support...I know I am not alone and others are the same... I am not lazy and I am sick and I do need to take care of myself... because, if I do not then no one else will... that is life. Anyone who says they are 'okay' or 'dealing well' with PA is not really, I find this very hard to believe. Having PA is sad and very frustrating, for our partners it is difficult as well... I wish I could get my husband to read more from this site... he would understand more about me and what I am living with. Poor guy, I think he really thinks I am going to suddenly be okay again and back to my 'old' self... I now know I never will be, yes, it is sad, but it is a fact. I don't have all the answers... I would love to wake up tomorrow and find out all this was a nightmare, but it is real. It is almost midnight for me (Amman-Jordan), I am 8 hours ahead of Texas (my real home) time... so I am really getting sleepy. I know how it feels to not want to go out, but sometimes you just have to push... maybe make a compromise and go to a place that you will both enjoy, more relaxing, less noisey, whatever it is you enjoy... but I do know if I were not to make attempts to go out....my marriage would not have lasted until now. We have 4 wonderful children, we have been through more than 24 years together, so this is my motivation to keep on pushing ... otherwise, PA will 'swallow you up'. My mom had Multiple Sclerosis, was in a wheelchair as long as I can remember, and spent her last 10 to 15 years mostly in bed. She was always quite cheerful (although inside she had her many sad moments) and therefore 'attracted' so many friends that always stayed by her side...if she had not had such a happy disposition all our lives would have turned out differently... my dad took great care of her, we (myself and my siblings) helped out and loved her as she was, and we took her out as much as possible... BUT, had she been negative our lives would have been terrible and I am sure the marriage would not have lasted ... she died peacefully in her sleep 11 years ago. She knew she was loved, we knew she loved us to have gone on with smiles for so many years when we knew she was suffering. I don't know what else to say to you... my husband has known me for so long and knows I am sick... he wants me to be better and be back to my 'old self'... but we also are still trying to accept the reality that PA is serious, I have tough decisions to make over if and what medications to take... and the consequences to my overall health. He knows I am afraid... but I have no anger, not even towards the PA... Logic tells me it will do no good. So, I take one day at a time... my major dilemma is trying to take some focus off myself and pay more attention to my husband. He is also affected by my illness. Only seldom do I feel sorry for myself, this site and all it's wonderful members have helped me in so many ways... take time to go through as many of the old postings... you will learn a lot from all their messages, by sharing we help each other to help ourselves. I wish you the best of luck. I also have bad days, we all do. Take care of yourself, #2 -- In @y..., " Sa " <lesliesa@r...> wrote: > #2 wrote I have an interesting question.... does anyone ever feel at a loss > when they have a 'good' day (i.e.- less pain, less worry, less > anxiety, etc.)? I certainly do, I find myself thinking " Wow, I feel > great now... but how long will it last... " I feel as if I shouldn't > deceive myself and think it is overwith, because if I do I will most > certainly be more upset when the pain sets in again and I may have > overdone it when I was feeling good.... paying for it later. > > , > > I have been feeling better the last couple of weeks (thank you Enbrel). Still in pain, I am sure I will always be, but tolerable. I got a yoga tape for Christmas. I made the mistake of trying it out. I couldn't get halfway through the tape. That night I started flaring. The next day I woke up feeling horrible. Such a disappointment. I felt like saying, " silly you for thinking that your body might get back to normal. " I don't think I will ever be able to be as active as I once was. Lately I have been so fatigued it is painful. I fall asleep at work. I fall asleep when I am driving. I sleep at least 8 hours every night and that still isn't enough. I get so tired it is physically painful to keep my head up and my eyes open. I know this isn't normal. > > As you have said before about forcing yourself to go out and then overdoing it. Well, I can never get the strength to force myself. I really worry that my marriage will suffer because of my horrible disease. I have only been married for almost 2 years now. I know my husband loves me and he puts up with me. I am thankful for that. I am scared that one day he is going to get sick of me being sick and leave. He tells me that I have a bad temper and sometimes I treat him badly. He thinks that I try to control him. Maybe I do. Maybe I feel like I can't control my life so I unconsciously try to control his? None of it is intentional, then again it never is. I love him desperately and don't want to lose him. I sometimes feel as though I have lost myself. He tells me that I have changed - which is true. I am not the happy carefree person I used to be. I am emotional, stressed, hurting, never wanting to do anything, frustrated, angry and sometimes taking it out on him. I don't mean to. I think part of it is the steroids, part of it is always feeling bad and partly being unhappy with where I am in my life. I used to thrive off excitement. I feel so bored with my life but I can't bring myself to do anything about it. I am actually jealous that he goes out when he wants and can do whatever he wants. He tells me that it is unfair - that just because I don't want to go out doesn't mean that he has to stay at home with me all the time. I agree, but it is still frustrating. He tells me it isn 't his fault I don't want to go out but how can I make him understand that it isn't that I don't want to go out - I feel like I physically can't. He says it isn't his fault that I am sick - well it isn't my fault either. He tells me that I am a changed person - that I am boring now. I think so too but what can I do? I miss the way my life was before I was sick. I don't want to sit here and feel sorry for myself, and I don't expect anyone else to either. I just feel like if I don't do something to change my life soon I will suffocate. I can't imagine living the rest of my life like this - this is no way for a person to live. I feel like I am stuck in the body of an old person. All these medications, they do more harm than good. And I am so fed up with all these doctors. I am so afraid that if I continue this way that I will die young. My body has already been through so much, I can't imagine what it will be like when I am my mother's age. I know a lot of people have it much worse than me and my heart really goes out to them. Nobody deserves to live like this. > > I am sorry. I really rambled on. I guess you can say I am having a bad day.... > > take care, > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2002 Report Share Posted January 15, 2002 Hi and and and everyone, , I’m sorry you are having a bad day. I like you feel too young to have PA. I know that sounds ridiculous. I feel too old to be 30. Last year I almost fell apart, both physically and emotionally. I was lucky that I was able to pull myself out of the deep depression I was in. My PA and fibro were both flaring and had been for some time. My liver was starting to disagree with all the meds… I was 29 and I was at a point where I had to sink or swim, or more poignantly, do or die… literally. If my attempts at exercise and revising my diet had failed… well I can’t even imagine that… , I share your fears. I feel like I’ve already been through sooo much that I can’t imagine old age. Over the last few years I isolated myself. I physically couldn’t go out and enjoy myself. Now, I can… yet still I don’t. I have no interest. I can’t imagine dating again. I can’t imagine getting married. I lie to myself and my family telling everyone I’m not interested. I know I need to be sociable again. I used to be very sociable…. I was good at it and I enjoyed it. I can’t imagine meeting a woman now…. First getting by my stutter and psoriasis… then trying to explain my lack of a life over the last couple years. How can I be a good husband??? I would want a wife… not a nurse. I’m relatively healthy now… I exercise religiously; I work 5-6 days a week… I have the energy levels to do what I want, and the level of pain I’m in is manageable for me. But what about tomorrow??? What about 30 years from now??? I’ve already been so close to death, my body has taken so much abuse…. I’ve trained myself to not think about tomorrow, but how can I not???? I was once very ambitious. I’ve taught myself to enjoy solitude, but I know things could be better. I know I need to be more sociable, but I can’t get myself to do anything about it. I was diagnosed with PA as a child. I was too young to know what it all meant and ignorance was bliss. Now that I’ve experienced what PA can do to me, I’ve changed. I miss the carefree me. I miss the pre-depressed me. I wanted to empathize, not complain… I hope everyone is doing as well as can be expected. Better even!! Good night all and good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 : You sound exactly like I used to sound when I was on prednisone. Are you taking prednisone? I mean, I sometimes still get those feelings, but the depression over the changes in my life becomes magnified when on the steroids. Also, I have found that a mild dose of Paxil helps your frame of mind. Remind your husband how much you love him...and life...and do something to improve your attitude (as difficult as that is) if you can't improve the physical symptoms. There are changes in meds or you could see a psychologist. I do both sometimes. Remember, we are all with you, but only you can change your mental status. I sincerely know how you're feeling. I've been there many times, especially when I get desperate for some pain relief and go back on prednisone (it really makes me CRAZY!). Have better thoughts today. ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 , I know my age has a big aspect in all my whining. I am only 24. I have no kids yet. We weren't planning on having children until we are older. The thing that scares me is that I won't be able to have children. I was only briefly on MTX (thank God), but I am on so many other meds now. I can't imagine stopping everything to get pregnant. I mean if I feel this bad now, I would probably be stuck in bed my entire pregnancy without meds. I know there is no use in worrying about this stuff now but it is still stuck in the back of my head. I also worry that I won't be able to get pregnant - that all these medications will somehow render me sterile. The worst is all this talk about heriditary and genetic - I mean what if I do have kids and I give them this horrible disease? I wouldn't want to bring this on anyone, especially a child. My husband tries to be supportive. He is only 22 so age plays a big part. I mean how many people our age worry about health problems? I don't think he fully understands. Sometimes I don't think I fully understand. He has always been very social. So was I. Now I live like a hermit. I never leave the house. Work (even though I have a desk job) and taking care of the house (I mean our tiny apartment) takes enough out of me. I just don't have the energy...I have been wanting to go back to school but I am not sure I can. I work full time and I have a hard enough time keeping up with that. I don't think I could make it to classes too. It seems like whenever I try to do too much I get sick. My immune system is so messed up. I have never been big on exercise. I have been lucky that I am small and have never really needed too. I know it is important. I was told by an orthopedic doctor years ago (after a car accident) that I needed to exercise to keep my muscles in my neck and back strong and that I would probably have to do it for the rest of my life. Well how can I if it hurts too much? What is worst is getting the energy to do it. I think my husband has the same view as yours - that if I keep taking my meds one day I will get better and this will all go away. Men always want to think that they can fix things. I don't think he understands that I can't be fixed. As much as I wish that one day I would wake up and be ok, I am afraid that things will only get worse. Isn't that how this disease progresses? More and more joints get affected...so it has been with me. I know I have to accept it (I still have a hard time doing that). My husband and my mom always say I have to learn to live with the pain - I don't want to but I guess that they are right. If that is even possible. I am angry about having PA. I know that it won't do any good. It's not fair, that's life, things could be much worse - but it still stinks. I am feeling better today. Thanks for listening. I really don't know how I would cope if it wasn't for this group. Family, friends - they try to understand but they really can't. Sorry for this being so long. Thanks, P.S. I am from Texas too (Houston area). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 Hi - I understand your anger at PA. I was in my 30's when diagnosed and took it hard, so in your 20's is just that much worse. I don't know how long you've had PA, but usually (as with any grieving process) anger is a natural reaction on the road to acceptance. I've accepted now that life isn't fair, and PA isn't fair, but unfortunately, no one ever promised me that life would be fair. It's difficult to come to grips with the reality (especially at a young age) that your life will have to be modified. But I've really found that since I accept that now and make the most of the good days, that I'm happier than I ever was before PA. I know that sounds weird, but I think for me, it has made me appreciate so much more in my life and not take things for granted. I hope that you can come to that point. I'm not saying don't be aggressive in your fight with PA, I'm just saying that I sort of try to live my life now by the serenity prayer where I ask for help to change the things I can, peace of mind to accept the things I can't change, and the intelligence to know the difference. Wishing you peace, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 , Yes, I am on prednisone. I have been on it for a year and half now (daily - doses ranging from 5-15mg). I desperately want off it but I can't find a rhuemy who agrees with me. I feel like I am on an emotional rollercoaster. I am getting a new dr. (this is the 3rd one). I hope she will get me off the prednisone. I have tried to stop taking it but I flare horribly. I can't take NSAIDS because I have an ulcer from the prednisone. I tried celebrex and vioxx and they did nothing. Enbrel helps but not enough. My GP prescribed me ativan once but it did nothing. He told me that prednisone can cause psychosis - just what I need. I'll ask about an anti-depressant. I am already on so many meds. I hate to add another one but maybe it would help. Thanks, >>> mamacin@... 01/16/02 02:28AM >>> : You sound exactly like I used to sound when I was on prednisone. Are you taking prednisone? I mean, I sometimes still get those feelings, but the depression over the changes in my life becomes magnified when on the steroids. Also, I have found that a mild dose of Paxil helps your frame of mind. Remind your husband how much you love him...and life...and do something to improve your attitude (as difficult as that is) if you can't improve the physical symptoms. There are changes in meds or you could see a psychologist. I do both sometimes. Remember, we are all with you, but only you can change your mental status. I sincerely know how you're feeling. I've been there many times, especially when I get desperate for some pain relief and go back on prednisone (it really makes me CRAZY!). Have better thoughts today. ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 Dear , I am from Dallas (but my husband loves Houston, I have many friends in Houston and the surrounding suburbs and towns... even Bay City)... it is almost 1 am for me and I am exhausted, but couldn't resist responding to your response. I am feeling great today... don't worry too much about things you can't control, this site is really a great source of knowledge...so really read through lots and lots of previous postings. In these past 2 months I really have to give credit to all this site's support for some improvements in myself... both psychologically and physically. I feel I am in more control of what I decide concerning my PA and my 'life', decisions concerning medications, combinations of medications, and so on. I feel 'validated' in all my feelings concerning my life with PA, even the best doctors cannot help us as much as we can help each other if we really listen. My doctors are great, my dad is a doctor, and all show sympathy... but they don't know how we feel, they can't really imagine the extent of pain we are living with or how frustrated we are every day... they just can't because they don't have or live with PA... we do. Because I 'look' healthy they think my 'pain' is minimal... it is major, they think I should be content with a Tylenol ! Ha, I might as well take a deep breath of air. For many years I just beared the pain... only giving in every once and a while by going to the emergency room in tears, because of so much pain. I felt I had to get use to it... until THIS SITE let me know that often painkillers are needed, and sometimes more than at other times. Even now my Rheumy will look at a joint that is so painful and tell me it's not that bad, it is not hot or warm... or, maybe comfort me by telling me he has seen worse with other patients... is that suppose to comfort me ? I can go home miserably in tons of pain and feel good because someone else 'looks' worse in his eyes... I am really tired, I could ramble on and on for hours. But, mainly I just wanted to let you know that there are good times ahead... don't get too 'down', you are young and have so much ahead of you. We are all here for you, research is going on... hopefully something great is on the horizon for all of us with PA. Good luck, #2- -- In @y..., " Sa " <lesliesa@r...> wrote: > , > > I know my age has a big aspect in all my whining. I am only 24. I have no kids yet. We weren't planning on having children until we are older. The thing that scares me is that I won't be able to have children. I was only briefly on MTX (thank God), but I am on so many other meds now. I can't imagine stopping everything to get pregnant. I mean if I feel this bad now, I would probably be stuck in bed my entire pregnancy without meds. I know there is no use in worrying about this stuff now but it is still stuck in the back of my head. I also worry that I won't be able to get pregnant - that all these medications will somehow render me sterile. The worst is all this talk about heriditary and genetic - I mean what if I do have kids and I give them this horrible disease? I wouldn't want to bring this on anyone, especially a child. > > My husband tries to be supportive. He is only 22 so age plays a big part. I mean how many people our age worry about health problems? I don't think he fully understands. Sometimes I don't think I fully understand. He has always been very social. So was I. Now I live like a hermit. I never leave the house. Work (even though I have a desk job) and taking care of the house (I mean our tiny apartment) takes enough out of me. I just don't have the energy...I have been wanting to go back to school but I am not sure I can. I work full time and I have a hard enough time keeping up with that. I don't think I could make it to classes too. It seems like whenever I try to do too much I get sick. > My immune system is so messed up. > > I have never been big on exercise. I have been lucky that I am small and have never really needed too. I know it is important. I was told by an orthopedic doctor years ago (after a car accident) that I needed to exercise to keep my muscles in my neck and back strong and that I would probably have to do it for the rest of my life. Well how can I if it hurts too much? What is worst is getting the energy to do it. > > I think my husband has the same view as yours - that if I keep taking my meds one day I will get better and this will all go away. Men always want to think that they can fix things. I don't think he understands that I can't be fixed. As much as I wish that one day I would wake up and be ok, I am afraid that things will only get worse. Isn't that how this disease progresses? More and more joints get affected...so it has been with me. I know I have to accept it (I still have a hard time doing that). My husband and my mom always say I have to learn to live with the pain - I don't want to but I guess that they are right. If that is even possible. I am angry about having PA. I know that it won't do any good. It's not fair, that's life, things could be much worse - but it still stinks. I am feeling better today. Thanks for listening. I really don't know how I would cope if it wasn't for this group. Family, friends - they try to understand but they really can't. Sorry for this being so long. > > Thanks, > > > > P.S. I am from Texas too (Houston area). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2002 Report Share Posted January 17, 2002 Thanks . I know being angry won't change anything. My life has never been easy. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger and as my best friend told me, I am a survivor. I have gotten through many rough points in my life and I will get through this too. I guess what makes this so hard to accept is that it won't go away. That permanency is what gets me. It is just frustrating. It would be so nice to just have a break. A vacation from my body. I bet that has been said before. I am seriously going to look into getting some kind of therapy or something. I went a couple of weeks to see a psychologist when I first got diagnosed but I will be honest - I get a lot more out of this group (and for free ;-)). Thanks again and take care, >>> TADEL630@... 01/16/02 03:50PM >>> Hi - I understand your anger at PA. I was in my 30's when diagnosed and took it hard, so in your 20's is just that much worse. I don't know how long you've had PA, but usually (as with any grieving process) anger is a natural reaction on the road to acceptance. I've accepted now that life isn't fair, and PA isn't fair, but unfortunately, no one ever promised me that life would be fair. It's difficult to come to grips with the reality (especially at a young age) that your life will have to be modified. But I've really found that since I accept that now and make the most of the good days, that I'm happier than I ever was before PA. I know that sounds weird, but I think for me, it has made me appreciate so much more in my life and not take things for granted. I hope that you can come to that point. I'm not saying don't be aggressive in your fight with PA, I'm just saying that I sort of try to live my life now by the serenity prayer where I ask for help to change the things I can, peace of mind to accept the things I can't change, and the intelligence to know the difference. Wishing you peace, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2002 Report Share Posted January 17, 2002 In a message dated 01/17/2002 3:14:41 PM Eastern Standard Time, lesliesa@... writes: > I guess what makes this so hard to accept is that it won't go away. That > permanency is what gets me. - I agree. That's the hardest part. But for me, with good medical care, enbrel, vioxx, and vitamins, sometimes I can have a really good day and almost feel like the PA is on vacation. Hopefully, you will have a nice long remission and feel that way too. I think that I will always go in and out of partial remissions, but I can deal with that (I guess I don't have a choice anyway, huh?). So I'm hoping for you that you'll soon get some relief and have a few days where you can feel like your old self and instead of sending your body on vacation, send the PA packing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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