How do you want teachers to phrase the questions?- was good teaching solutions and examples of triggers

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,I really like the insightful nugget below, but need some further ‘teasing out’ of a solution.  As a mainstream 7th grade Spanish teacher, I frequently deal with socialization issues from all students.  I sometimes frame it this way “From a fifty-four year old’s perspective, that sounds bizarre, I don’t understand what you just said.â€Â  Normally students will tell me that in a movie or song or TV show that just came out, everyone says X and it means Y.  AH!  We all go on, not problems or hurt feelings or punishments doled out. Now, thinking about what you just wrote, I suspect that saying something like that might put some students on the defense, and be a trigger.  (Cringe, I really work on my teaching craft, and that is my way of seeking to first understand, not setting off a student) Can this group help me to come up with a list of neutrally worded questions that you use as you act as your child’s translator and that you wish teachers would use?ThanksEC Bernardwww.ecbernard.org I just feel that so many times our children are misunderstood because of the way questions are asked of our children. I feel that if a child is " in trouble " or did something wrong that they need an advocate with them (ie: me) to help them understand what is being said and or asked until more teacher's and administrators gain knowledge of Asperger's.Bottom line, a trigger for my son is being misunderstood and communication difficulties due to literal/black and white thinking.