Panicked...!! Need advice for tonight...

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Ok so I’m really not sure who’s more stressed out, me, or my Aspie boy. LOL There’s a girl in his class who’s invited THE ENTIRE CLASS over for a “sleepover birthday partyâ€. I’m not concerned about that, her parents are fun, and they’re sleeping in a tent in the garage (it’s pouring outside), and are going to roast weenies and marshmallows, etc. ANYWAY… is SO excited to go. And that’s part of what’s stressing me He doesn’t want to take his blanket, because “no one else will have one†(and yet he cannot sleep without it.). He’s glad one girl is coming, because “He told her already that he’ll probably cry a lot at this birthday party, and she helps him calm downâ€. He “doesn’t want to take his stuffed animal, because he doesn’t want people to pick on him†(and yet stuffed dogs are one of his MAJOR obsessions, and he, again, takes GREAT comfort from them, has since age 1, and can’t sleep without them). Add to all that with the fact that he struggles GREATLY with the boys in his class, and from what I know, they’re ALL going, and ALL spending the night… that they are all into “entertainment bullying†with , that he’s got it built up in his head that it’s gonna be “GREATâ€â€¦ and I’m petrified of him spending the night, and having things fall apart !!! This is the child (who’s 9yrs old, btw), who cannot go to play at someone’s house without calling and asking me to come and get him at least 4 times. This is the same child who, when we’ve been trying to offer him a little independence, has shown us time and time again that he’s just not ready for it… and will often “go along with†whatever anyone tells him to do, in a desperate attempt to be accepted. OK so tell me to calm down. 1. I am THRILLED he’s even interested in going.2. I am glad he seems more calm than I clearly am :P3. I’m worried about the fact that he gets TIRED around 9pm, and will usually head up to bed himself – and I KNOW the kids aren’t going to let him sleep tonight. He did express concern about this yesterday Tell me I’m being neurotic and should relax?? How do I approach this situation?!!! Ok – party starts at 7pm tonight our time… hopefully someone can knock some sense into me before then the neurotic? LOL =)