RE: [SPAM] spouse not understanding asperger daughter

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I believe my dh would be like that if I hadn't sent him an email...LOL,,,that sounds nuts but let me explain.

When everything became overwhelming to me and I knew in my heart something was not right for our dd and I started searching for help I sat down and wrote everything out. by this time she was 6 and so my writings went back to when she was 18 months old. I was and still am our dd's main care giver and I tend to try and handle things myself,,,this was my first mistake because after I sent my writings to my dh via email he called me from work that day and asked me for a dinner date,,when we sat down at the restraunt the first thing out of his mouth was "I had no idea",,,it dawned on me how true this must be because to me it was in my days work and I took it upon myself as a mom to "fix" things when my children needed fixing. Since that time I have made sure I include him every step of the way and also get his opinion on how to handle certain situations.

I don't know if this is the same for you or not, but as moms we seem to take our role as caregivers very serious and tend to leave the other parent out of somethings. In making these changes, it has given my dh the opportunity to deal with some situations with our dd that leaves him shaking his head and searching for answers. My dh was the one who said "we need to have our dd tested for Aspergers". I didn't jump on it right away because I thought the whole issue for her was attachment/abandoment issue,,,,but now I see what he sees.

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[sPAM] ( ) spouse not understanding asperger daughter

My husband just doesn't understand our 11 yod. He just can't seem to see past her behavior and see she is not always acting out on purpose. She can't help it. She is not having fun and hates it when she hurts others by the way she acts. It is a real issue in out family. He also suffers from depression (maybe bi polar). I am always in the middle. I feel that I am her only advocate. I wish he was there for me and her. Sometimes he is, but mostly he is not. Anyone else going through this also?

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good for you, Lynne. From: lbanks8928@...Date: Tue, 11 May 2010 08:39:58 -0500Subject: Re: [sPAM] ( ) spouse not understanding asperger daughter

I believe my dh would be like that if I hadn't sent him an email...LOL,,,that sounds nuts but let me explain.

When everything became overwhelming to me and I knew in my heart something was not right for our dd and I started searching for help I sat down and wrote everything out. by this time she was 6 and so my writings went back to when she was 18 months old. I was and still am our dd's main care giver and I tend to try and handle things myself,,,this was my first mistake because after I sent my writings to my dh via email he called me from work that day and asked me for a dinner date,,when we sat down at the restraunt the first thing out of his mouth was "I had no idea",,,it dawned on me how true this must be because to me it was in my days work and I took it upon myself as a mom to "fix" things when my children needed fixing. Since that time I have made sure I include him every step of the way and also get his opinion on how to handle certain situations.

I don't know if this is the same for you or not, but as moms we seem to take our role as caregivers very serious and tend to leave the other parent out of somethings. In making these changes, it has given my dh the opportunity to deal with some situations with our dd that leaves him shaking his head and searching for answers. My dh was the one who said "we need to have our dd tested for Aspergers". I didn't jump on it right away because I thought the whole issue for her was attachment/abandoment issue,,,,but now I see what he sees.

Lynne Bankswww.americanadoptioncongress.orgSouth Dakota State Representative

www.adoptionscams.netAsk me how to protect yourself from being scammed in adoption!

[sPAM] ( ) spouse not understanding asperger daughter

My husband just doesn't understand our 11 yod. He just can't seem to see past her behavior and see she is not always acting out on purpose. She can't help it. She is not having fun and hates it when she hurts others by the way she acts. It is a real issue in out family. He also suffers from depression (maybe bi polar). I am always in the middle. I feel that I am her only advocate. I wish he was there for me and her. Sometimes he is, but mostly he is not. Anyone else going through this also?

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