Guest guest Posted April 1, 2010 Report Share Posted April 1, 2010 Hello , you are not the only one to struggle making friends. I'm a nt and have moved over 15 times and find it hard to make friends for so many reasons.I see from your email that you used army in address. Are you military? My husband is and my oldest son has suffered from the constant moves our family has made. One helpful suggestion is to join a club or group that shares your interests. For example, a stamp collecting club, a walkers club, a book group, or a gardening group. Think about the things you enjoy doing and check out where there is a group for that interest. You could consider trying www.Meetup.com You can search interests and see if they exist in your area. I would also suggest finding some books about making friends, Books can give helpful suggestions. You should find out if your local library offer e-books so you could read them directly from your computer. Good luck and if you ever want to chat, let me know. I'd enjoy trying to help you. Regards, On Thu, Apr 1, 2010 at 8:28 AM, Whiting <armymansfieldbrat@...> wrote: I was diagnosed with Aspergers when I 18. I have always had problems with making/keeping friends. I have 1 friend that I have known since I was 14 but she lives 3 hours away. My question is how do older aspies find friends? I want friends. My biggest fear is that I will end up all alone. I know it will never happen because my family (brothers and mothers side) will never let it happen but it is a fear. Any help will be appricated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2010 Report Share Posted April 1, 2010 , My father is active duty and has been since 1974! I still live with them so I can stay on Tricare. Thanks for the sugestions. I am in school for photography and looked on that website and found a photography club on Ft. Sill! Thanks, From: <doyourecycle@...> Sent: Thu, April 1, 2010 10:38:52 AMSubject: Re: ( ) How to find friends Hello , you are not the only one to struggle making friends. I'm a nt and have moved over 15 times and find it hard to make friends for so many reasons.I see from your email that you used army in address. Are you military? My husband is and my oldest son has suffered from the constant moves our family has made. One helpful suggestion is to join a club or group that shares your interests. For example, a stamp collecting club, a walkers club, a book group, or a gardening group. Think about the things you enjoy doing and check out where there is a group for that interest. You could consider trying www.Meetup.com You can search interests and see if they exist in your area. I would also suggest finding some books about making friends, Books can give helpful suggestions. You should find out if your local library offer e-books so you could read them directly from your computer. Good luck and if you ever want to chat, let me know. I'd enjoy trying to help you. Regards, On Thu, Apr 1, 2010 at 8:28 AM, Whiting <armymansfieldbrat> wrote: I was diagnosed with Aspergers when I 18. I have always had problems with making/keeping friends. I have 1 friend that I have known since I was 14 but she lives 3 hours away. My question is how do older aspies find friends? I want friends. My biggest fear is that I will end up all alone. I know it will never happen because my family (brothers and mothers side) will never let it happen but it is a fear. Any help will be appricated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2010 Report Share Posted April 1, 2010 Dear : My name is Thornton. You said it fear. Fear is my biggest thing. It is not a friend but it is frequently around. I guess You have to keep making new friends. I am older, alot, but You are saying things that make bells go of in me. You just have to keep talking to people I guess. I am still having problems to like jump off a bridge, in the figurative sense. To trust people is like jumping off a bridge. I guess that is it. Trust, but not so much. Do not put your life in danger. Just your pride. I think it is the next step from walking around a Food Super Market. I know I walk around there and I do not run in to people. Some places I yield to them and some times they yield to me. When I am ready to check out I ask where the end of the line is an I go there. Next person says where is the end of the line and I say after me. They then get in line behind me. Some people use you and some are your friends. My dad Helped mentor Ann s, a Ford engineer who went on to be a big deal manager in a Ford Plant in England before Ford did a big cutback in employees. When she came around the Ford Buildings when she was still a big deal engineer / manger she never came by the building to see the other engineers who mentored her, when she was up. She is living in Ypsilanti Michigan, not far from Dearborn Michigan where a lot of the engineers lived. She wanted, but she did not give back. She did not even acknowledge the help the other engineers gave her. But my Dad and the other engineers would give help to other mentorable engineers in a heart beat. Thornton ( ) How to find friends I was diagnosed with Aspergers when I 18. I have always had problems with making/keeping friends. I have 1 friend that I have known since I was 14 but she lives 3 hours away. My question is how do older aspies find friends? I want friends. My biggest fear is that I will end up all alone. I know it will never happen because my family (brothers and mothers side) will never let it happen but it is a fear. Any help will be appricated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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