Guest guest Posted August 23, 2009 Report Share Posted August 23, 2009 You might request a full educational evaluation so you can get her qualified for an IEP and have it addressed as part of her educational program. Geez, this is a tough one! I would just go to the school and tell them you need accommodations for her disability. She needs an adapted PE program. I know the tough love approach, lol. When they start on that, ask to have the autism consultant for the school come in for the meeting so that person can help you explain and advocate. If they don't have one, then ask them " why not? " Bring in some literature about sensory processing as well to back up what you are saying. Work hard not to scream as they keep telling you to make her do what she can't do. After all, it wouldn't be a disability if she could just " grow up " and deal with it. Right! You can ask for APE and also, there are other ways to get PE credits besides going to a PE class so think about that as well. One example is my ds, who did so badly in PE his freshman year and he was required to have two years of PE to graduate. Well, that second year, he rode his bike every day to school (even in snow and bad weather). So we asked to have that used as his PE credit which they agreed to do. If they hadn't agreed, I would have requested an adapted PE program be put together for him. He just could not manage most of the regular PE c lass with a teacher who was clueless. Also regarding dressing out, my ds was allowed to go to class five minutes earlier than the other kids so he could dress out and then reverse that process at the end of class as well. It really helped. Another thing you can work on is to slowly work into real shoes with her. She obviously will need longer than a month to deal with that. But it doesn't mean you can't keep working on this over time. Talk to an OT as well for any ideas that person may have for helping her learn to wear tighter shoes. I think it is a worthy goal because as an adult, it is something she will have problems dealing with on the job. So helping her learn now - even if it takes years to get there - is a great idea. Â Roxanna " The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing. " E. Burke ( ) p.e. shoes my 12 yo aspie daughter will have to dress out for pe beginning thursday. we have always had a problem getting her into shoes. presently she wears crocs and one pair of flip flops. however for pe she is required to wear lace up athletic footwear. we have tried on many pairs over the period of one month. just the trying on of=2 0shoes alone, sends her over the edge, so we would try on only 2 or 3 pairs each time we went out. after conversations about the necessity of this footwear and with the help of some shoe inserts, she agreed to a pair. that is until today when i asked her to " dress out " . i wanted to see if she could dress in a timely fashion and whether she could tolerate the apparel and shoes. things fell apart pretty quickly, clothes are too scratchy, don't fit right, but the shoes were the least tolerable part. i have spoken to the school about this possiblity, but was given the " tough love " speech which reveals their lack of understanding. she is medically diagnosed with asperger, general anxiety and audio processing, but there is no educational evaluation. does anybody have any tricks or approaches that might help my daughter tolerate her shoes better? regards, melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2009 Report Share Posted August 23, 2009 > > my 12 yo aspie daughter will have to dress out for pe beginning thursday. we have always had a problem getting her into shoes. presently she wears crocs and one pair of flip flops. however for pe she is required to wear lace up athletic footwear. we have tried on many pairs over the period of one month. just the trying on of shoes alone, sends her over the edge, so we would try on only 2 or 3 pairs each time we went out. after conversations about the necessity of this footwear and with the help of some shoe inserts, she agreed to a pair. that is until today when i asked her to " dress out " . i wanted to see if she could dress in a timely fashion and whether she could tolerate the apparel and shoes. things fell apart pretty quickly, clothes are too scratchy, don't fit right, but the shoes were the least tolerable part. i have spoken to the school about this possiblity, but was given the " tough love " speech which reveals their lack of understanding. she is medically diagnosed with asperger, general anxiety and audio processing, but there is no educational evaluation. > > does anybody have any tricks or approaches that might help my daughter tolerate her shoes better? > regards, melody > parker hate his shoes if they are too loose so we have to make sure they are tight and sung ........Well we let him pick them out and we try them on too .He dosnt like sloppy shoes he has to have it tight so it wont fall off ..But he cant tie his shoes yet and he will be 9 in dec ..And i am the one who ties his shoes in the morning but if the come undone the teacher does it ..He hates when they come undone ...I dont know if the pe teachers care about kids that have sepcial needs.. Mom to parker(HFA) christina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2009 Report Share Posted August 24, 2009 > > does anybody have any tricks or approaches that might help my daughter tolerate her shoes better? Are you sure it is not at least partly the socks? We also have shoe problems, so I'll tell you what worked for us. My son is 14 with Asperger. Maybe it will work for your daughter, maybe not. First of all, you can get socks that are seamless--I don't know where since we didn't have to go that far--but google it. You can also check out different socks and simply get some that are more comfortable to her--try some more expensive ones. Same with the shoes--more expensive ones usually fit better and are more comfortable. Also, they make athletic shoes that are velcro instead of tie-up. My son has coordination problems and the tying itself is a problem; I don't know if that is a problem with your daughter or not. We get velcro athletic shoes at Academy. They don't have them everywhere. If her feet are small enough, they also have them at Stride Rite. I also see athletic shoes that are not velcro, but not tie either--kind of like an elastic " tie " that doesn't have to be tied, so that is another option. I see those at Land's End. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2009 Report Share Posted August 24, 2009 okay, thanx for all the great suggestions. i have asked for the eval in the spring but it was suggested to wait until she was in the new school for awhile to see what issues would arise and go from there. made sense but pe could accelerate the need. i spoke with the autism specialist last spring who led me to believe the school had some great programs in place but these programs were not appropriate for her. i think i will call the autism specialist today and discuss my concern. shoes have always been a problem. i have been looking into ot assistance thru my insurance because i notice her right foot angles in and down quite a bit. but she already has so much going on with therapy sessions and med trials i haven't pressed on. thanx again, melody > > You might request a full educational evaluation so you can get her > qualified for an IEP and have it addressed as part of her educational > program. > Geez, this is a tough one! I would just go to the school and tell them > you need accommodations for her disability. She needs an adapted PE > program. I know the tough love approach, lol. When they start on > that, ask to have the autism consultant for the school come in for the > meeting so that person can help you explain and advocate. If they > don't have one, then ask them " why not? " Bring in some literature > about sensory processing as well to back up what you are saying. Work > hard not to scream as they keep telling you to make her do what she > can't do. After all, it wouldn't be a disability if she could just > " grow up " and deal with it. Right! > > You can ask for APE and also, there are other ways to get PE credits > besides going to a PE class so think about that as well. One example > is my ds, who did so badly in PE his freshman year and he was required > to have two years of PE to graduate. Well, that second year, he rode > his bike every day to school (even in snow and bad weather). So we > asked to have that used as his PE credit which they agreed to do. If > they hadn't agreed, I would have requested an adapted PE program be put > together for him. He just could not manage most of the regular PE > c > lass with a teacher who was clueless. > > Also regarding dressing out, my ds was allowed to go to class five > minutes earlier than the other kids so he could dress out and then > reverse that process at the end of class as well. It really helped. > > Another thing you can work on is to slowly work into real shoes with > her. She obviously will need longer than a month to deal with that. > But it doesn't mean you can't keep working on this over time. Talk to > an OT as well for any ideas that person may have for helping her learn > to wear tighter shoes. I think it is a worthy goal because as an > adult, it is something she will have problems dealing with on the job. > So helping her learn now - even if it takes years to get there - is a > great idea. > > Â Roxanna > > " The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do > nothing. " E. Burke > > > ( ) p.e. shoes > > > > > my 12 yo aspie daughter will have to dress out for pe beginning > thursday. we have always had a problem getting her into shoes. > presently she wears crocs and one pair of flip flops. however for pe > she is required to wear lace up athletic footwear. we have tried on > many pairs over the period of one month. just the trying on of=2 > 0shoes > alone, sends her over the edge, so we would try on only 2 or 3 pairs > each time we went out. after conversations about the necessity of this > footwear and with the help of some shoe inserts, she agreed to a pair. > that is until today when i asked her to " dress out " . i wanted to see > if she could dress in a timely fashion and whether she could tolerate > the apparel and shoes. things fell apart pretty quickly, clothes are > too scratchy, don't fit right, but the shoes were the least tolerable > part. i have spoken to the school about this possiblity, but was given > the " tough love " speech which reveals their lack of understanding. she > is medically diagnosed with asperger, general anxiety and audio > processing, but there is no educational evaluation. > > > > does anybody have any tricks or approaches that might help my daughter > tolerate her shoes better? > > regards, melody > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2009 Report Share Posted August 24, 2009 my aspie husband has to have tight shoes too. this is something that i did not understand until i figured out he was an aspie. my daughter has to have her shoes " just right " not too tight, not too loose. this level of perfection has not yet been attainable. thanx for your suggestions, regards, melody > > > > my 12 yo aspie daughter will have to dress out for pe beginning thursday. we have always had a problem getting her into shoes. presently she wears crocs and one pair of flip flops. however for pe she is required to wear lace up athletic footwear. we have tried on many pairs over the period of one month. just the trying on of shoes alone, sends her over the edge, so we would try on only 2 or 3 pairs each time we went out. after conversations about the necessity of this footwear and with the help of some shoe inserts, she agreed to a pair. that is until today when i asked her to " dress out " . i wanted to see if she could dress in a timely fashion and whether she could tolerate the apparel and shoes. things fell apart pretty quickly, clothes are too scratchy, don't fit right, but the shoes were the least tolerable part. i have spoken to the school about this possiblity, but was given the " tough love " speech which reveals their lack of understanding. she is medically diagnosed with asperger, general anxiety and audio processing, but there is no educational evaluation. > > > > does anybody have any tricks or approaches that might help my daughter tolerate her shoes better? > > regards, melody > > > parker hate his shoes if they are too loose so we have to make sure they are tight and sung ........Well we let him pick them out and we try them on too .He dosnt like sloppy shoes he has to have it tight so it wont fall off ..But he cant tie his shoes yet and he will be 9 in dec ..And i am the one who ties his shoes in the morning but if the come undone the teacher does it ..He hates when they come undone ...I dont know if the pe teachers care about kids that have sepcial needs.. > Mom to parker(HFA) > christina > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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