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my two cents on this issue - if you are feeling torn or if you're feeling like there's tension there probably is. It's, at minimum, a subconscious way you're letting yourself know this isn't the right situation. No, you're not expecting too much for him to love your son unconditionally. The vomiting issue is, to me, your boyfriend demonstrating his hostility toward your son. It may not be something he's doing on purpose, but he's feeling it. I don't know why else you'd read into a NINE year old reporting to his Mom that he threw up as a demand to clean it up. My son is eleven and he would still run tell me if something like that happened. He's often a little alarmed by minor illnesses, especially that kind of thing and would definitely say something. It is paranoid of him to believe your son has some kind of ulterior motive. I felt the same with my now ex. I

realized one night while he was at work that I was so happy in my role as a parent when he wasn't around. I loved him, I miss him, it isn't easy. I'm lonely sometimes, I of course want to be a woman and individual as well as a mother. The situation was taken out of my hands when I found out he was also cheating but I now feel like I let my son down staying with him. I wasn't the parent I could have been or should have been and I shouldn't have let that one extra stumbling block be there in his already difficult life. This may not be your situation, but thought I'd share mine for perspective. Best of luck, it is not an easy road.