In need of advice...........

[Guest guest]

Hello,

As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the

past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to

obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now

and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with

my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I

wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed

another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate

them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to

them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.

Is my anger justifiable?

-Chris-

[Guest guest]

Totally justified. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

Will you be teaching Elem Ed, Spec Ed, the Dual, Middle or High School?

Where in Wi are you? We're in North Fond du Lac.

Robin Normal is just a cycle on a washing machine!!!

From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...>Subject: ( ) In need of advice........... Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM

Hello,As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them. I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.Is my anger justifiable?-Chris-

[Guest guest]

First off let me say congratulations on your achievement. It is a noble thing to

become a teacher and especially someone who has AS. My son is 13 and I

understand the challenges that you have had to overcome.

Your 4 friends may not understand how much you have had to overcome to be able

to go to college and study. All of us that are a part of this group do and I am

sure that you will hear from others.

I am sure that your friends are proud of you. Maybe they may not have the right

words to tell you. If they are close friends, I am also sure that they have seen

how hard you have worked at your studies. It is sad to say, but in the summer

people get very busy and while they may be meaning to congratulate and celebrate

with you they could be be involved in something else. It is ok to be

disappointed with their current reaction. I hope that you can calmly explain to

your friends how you feel and they apologize to you. Good friends will do this.

Once again congratulations. The student teaching part is a challenge. Stay calm

and focused and you will do great!

Janice in Wisconsin

---- twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...> wrote:

> Hello,

>

> As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the

past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

>

> I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to

obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now

and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with

my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I

wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed

another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate

them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

>

> I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out

to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle

this.

>

> Is my anger justifiable?

>

> -Chris-

>

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Robin, Did you guys move? I thought you were living on the southwest side

of the state. Are you still doing the e-school through Northern Ozaukee or does

your son go to public now?

Vickie

>

>

> From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...>

> Subject: ( ) In need of advice...........

>

> Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM

>

>

>  

>

>

>

> Hello,

>

> As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the

past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

>

> I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to

obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now

and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with

my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I

wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed

another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate

them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

>

> I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to

them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.

>

> Is my anger justifiable?

>

> -Chris-

>

[Guest guest]

Congratulations!! You family must be very proud of you, all of us are proud too.You are a good roll model for children with disabilities. Now you can use your personal life experiences to help children that might have experienced the same obstacles that you had while you were growing up.I wish you success Re: ( ) In need of advice...........First off let me say congratulations on your achievement. It is a noble thing to become a teacher and especially someone who has AS. My son is 13 and I understand the challenges that you have had to overcome.Your 4 friends may not understand how much you have had to overcome to be able to go to college and study. All of us that are a part of this group do and I am sure that you will hear from others. I am sure that your friends are proud of you. Maybe they may not have the right words to tell you. If they are close friends, I am also sure that they have seen how hard you have worked at your studies. It is sad to say, but in the summer people get very busy and while they may be meaning to congratulate and celebrate with you they could be be involved in something else. It is ok to be disappointed with their current reaction. I hope that you can calmly explain to your friends how you feel and they apologize to you. Good friends will do this. Once again congratulations. The student teaching part is a challenge. Stay calm and focused and you will do great!Janice in Wisconsin---- twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...> wrote: > Hello,> > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.> > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them. > > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.> > Is my anger justifiable?> > -Chris- > > > > > ------------------------------------> >

[Guest guest]

Of course your anger is justifiable. As an individual who is more of the

organizer and planner in my group of friends I can totally relate. The fact is

that there are different personalities out there. Some are leaders and some

followers, some givers and some takers, some are planners and some are

spontanious. It is common for opposites to attract. The thing to remember is

that this doesn't necesarily reflect upon the depth of their feelings or

indicate that they don't care it is just a reflection of the interpersonal

relationship you have developed. That doesn't change your feelings, I know,

I've been there. Only you can decide if there comes a point where you feel that

you have given to much and not gotten enough back to sustain the friendship.

With all that said, CONGRATULATIONS! You give all of us aspie parents hope for

our own children and you have no idea how important that is.

Vickie

>

> Hello,

>

> As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the

past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

>

> I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to

obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now

and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with

my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I

wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed

another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate

them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

>

> I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out

to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle

this.

>

> Is my anger justifiable?

>

> -Chris-

>

[Guest guest]

Hi!!

Nope....didn't move. he he.

We did the North Ozaukee WIVA online school for 6th and 7th grade. About a month before his schoolyear was done (May?), he said he missed having friends. Crushed me, cause he was never really social..........has a few that he see's now and then.....

anyway,,,,,,,we thought about it a lot and figured we didn't want to send him right back to the Middle School since there would be 5 classes of 20 in his grade and I didn't want to overload him and have the downward spiral again.

We heard about a church-school and although it's expensive, it's small and they're willing to learn and go for it with him.

He goes from being ready to saying, "I think I'll just stay home"......poor guy.

But,,,,,I want him to try this, ya know? For him to want to meet people.......that's a wonderful thing. I just have to really keep up on checking on him, cause private schools don't have to do anything, really. Nothing legal is there.

I just really hope this works. If not, we'll homeschool until Feb, sign up again for WIVA during the "school choice" time and do the online for 9th.

*

I can't remember, but what do you guys do for school? (I have part-timers,,,,,,,not quite ALLzheimers....he he)

Robin

From: Vickie Boehnlein <baneline1@...>Subject: Re: ( ) In need of advice........... Date: Thursday, July 16, 2009, 9:06 AM

Hi Robin, Did you guys move? I thought you were living on the southwest side of the state. Are you still doing the e-school through Northern Ozaukee or does your son go to public now?Vickie> > > From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@ ...>>

Subject: ( ) In need of advice...... .....> > Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM> > > > > > > Hello,> > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.> > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed

another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them. > > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.> > Is my anger justifiable?> > -Chris->

[Guest guest]

i am sorry that your friends didnt recognize your great accomplishments, you have every reason to be proud of yourself and what you have accomplished.and by you telling us that you have AS and managed to have 4 close friends(even though you are upset right now) and you have come so far to become a teacher, you give me hope for my ds who is 11 and AS also, good luck, and maybe if you were to let your friends know that they hurt your feelings by not recognizing how far you have come, they would understand alittle better. Keep pushing, keep going, you have come this far you can make it the rest of the way. sherryFrom: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...> Sent: Thursday, July 16, 2009 12:05:32 AMSubject: ( ) In need of advice...........

Hello,

As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.

Is my anger justifiable?

-Chris-

[Guest guest]

I have my kids in public school. We live in ozaukee county but not the northern

ozaukee district. I am quite happy with the school district overall. That is

not to say that we haven't had issues but they are pretty responsive to address

them. I have been trying to get on the school board with out sucess yet but I

will try again in the April election.

Vickie

> >

> >

> > From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@ ...>

> > Subject: ( ) In need of advice...... .....

> >

> > Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM

> >

> >

> >  

> >

> >

> >

> > Hello,

> >

> > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the

past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

> >

> > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin

to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking

now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it

with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did

because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that

she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I

congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

> >

> > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out

to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.

> >

> > Is my anger justifiable?

> >

> > -Chris-

> >

>

[Guest guest]

That's awesome!!!! I hope you make it in April!!!

I think when we, as parents, are able to see enough "positives" in a school, we owe it to our kids and future kids to stick it out and educate and fight for understanding!!!

Let us know how April goes!!!

From: Vickie Boehnlein <baneline1@...>Subject: Re: ( ) In need of advice........... Date: Thursday, July 16, 2009, 9:35 AM

I have my kids in public school. We live in ozaukee county but not the northern ozaukee district. I am quite happy with the school district overall. That is not to say that we haven't had issues but they are pretty responsive to address them. I have been trying to get on the school board with out sucess yet but I will try again in the April election. Vickie> > > > > > From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@ ...>> > Subject: ( ) In need of advice...... .....> > > > Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hello,> > > > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the past.

Before today, I really never had the desire to post.> > > > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them. > > > > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.> > > > Is my anger justifiable?> > > > -Chris-> >>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your compliments and warmth. Every day I am filled with gratitude

for what I have.

I spoke to Jon and J.D. today, and both are examples of what friends should be.

Both complemented me on my accomplishment, and I feel much better for it. Jon

and I are planning a trip to St. Louis next month for four days. We've driven

off to California before, so you can probably tell we're close. I have sent

and Jon quite a bit of information on AS in the past. Both individuals

have helped me understand my Aspie traits from a NT point of view. I am lucky

because not all Aspies have the same amount of support that I do. Although I am

the one who usually sets up outings with them, I know they will support me

through whatever trials I must endure.

One of the major factors that guided me into teaching is to help those with the

same problems I faced when I was small. I was bullied, harassed, and never made

friends regardless of how hard I tried. I just relied on God to help me keep my

focus. All a kid really needs is God, a belief in themself, someone who cares

about them, and love. It amazes me what people with AS, CP, MD, MS, and other

disabilities can do.

I force myself to make eye contact, forced myself to try to read body language,

made it a habit to smile regardless of how I felt though it was hard at times. A

good way for an Aspie to work on eye contact is to decipher the color of the

other person's eyes. I also try to laugh at my shortcomings, though it's

impossible when your depressed.

To answer your questions, I will be certified to teach social studies at the

secondary level, and I live in Milwaukee.

-Chris-

> > >

> > >

> > > From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@ ...>

> > > Subject: ( ) In need of advice...... .....

> > >

> > > Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM

> > >

> > >

> > >  

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Hello,

> > >

> > > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in

the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

> > >

> > > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin

to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking

now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it

with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did

because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that

she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I

congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

> > >

> > > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching

out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle

this.

> > >

> > > Is my anger justifiable?

> > >

> > > -Chris-

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

that is truely awesome, and you know if more teachers understood exactly where you and our aspie children were coming from we all would be better off. I had a meeting at enc of school yr to discuss my sons dx and how it is affecting him in school, his teacher said she did not see aspergers in my son only the adhd but my son has a TSS in school with him full time and she described several of the characteristics my son displays like it is hard for him to make friends he lacks eye contact, doesnt know you are talking to him unless you call his name specifically such as you cant say class take out your math books, you must tell him ok joshua it is time for math please take out you math book. he is loud in class no matter how many times you speak to him about this, he does not change his

behavior to match his environment, strongly questions/resists change in his routine,is immature and stubborn,learns best when pictures are present, lacks organizational skills, poor handwriting. does that not sound like asperger's to you? so apparently there are many teachers who unfortunately think they understand or know but don't. But i can see his characteristics in all aspects of his life, some of things are cute and they make me smile or even laugh not to make fun of my child of course but because he is so different, then other times i just want to cry for him because i dont know what is going on inside his head or what he is feeling. So i am thrilled that you spoke to your friends and they understand alitlle more about you, and it is great to know you will be teaching kids and possibly children like ours. SherryFrom: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...> Sent: Friday, July 17, 2009 12:08:40 AMSubject: Re: ( ) In need of advice...........

Thank you for your compliments and warmth. Every day I am filled with gratitude for what I have.

I spoke to Jon and J.D. today, and both are examples of what friends should be. Both complemented me on my accomplishment, and I feel much better for it. Jon and I are planning a trip to St. Louis next month for four days. We've driven off to California before, so you can probably tell we're close. I have sent and Jon quite a bit of information on AS in the past. Both individuals have helped me understand my Aspie traits from a NT point of view. I am lucky because not all Aspies have the same amount of support that I do. Although I am the one who usually sets up outings with them, I know they will support me through whatever trials I must endure.

One of the major factors that guided me into teaching is to help those with the same problems I faced when I was small. I was bullied, harassed, and never made friends regardless of how hard I tried. I just relied on God to help me keep my focus. All a kid really needs is God, a belief in themself, someone who cares about them, and love. It amazes me what people with AS, CP, MD, MS, and other disabilities can do.

I force myself to make eye contact, forced myself to try to read body language, made it a habit to smile regardless of how I felt though it was hard at times. A good way for an Aspie to work on eye contact is to decipher the color of the other person's eyes. I also try to laugh at my shortcomings, though it's impossible when your depressed.

To answer your questions, I will be certified to teach social studies at the secondary level, and I live in Milwaukee.

-Chris-

> > >

> > >

> > > From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@ ...>

> > > Subject: ( ) In need of advice...... .....

> > >

> > > Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Hello,

> > >

> > > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

> > >

> > > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me that she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

> > >

> > > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle this.

> > >

> > > Is my anger justifiable?

> > >

> > > -Chris-

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I am glad you were able to talk to your friends. I hope that someday my 13 will

have friends like yours. They sound like they are very good for you.

If you are teaching in Milwaukee, I may just have to move. I am in Kenosha. Just

down the road from you. My son would benifit from seeing you in action.

Sometimes his negativity gets him very frustrated. It does not help that my ex

husband feeds him more of that, but I try to be so positive when he is with me.

Keep up the great work that you have done for yourself. ) )

Janice in Wisconsin

---- twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@...> wrote:

> Thank you for your compliments and warmth. Every day I am filled with

gratitude for what I have.

>

> I spoke to Jon and J.D. today, and both are examples of what friends should

be. Both complemented me on my accomplishment, and I feel much better for it.

Jon and I are planning a trip to St. Louis next month for four days. We've

driven off to California before, so you can probably tell we're close. I have

sent and Jon quite a bit of information on AS in the past. Both

individuals have helped me understand my Aspie traits from a NT point of view.

I am lucky because not all Aspies have the same amount of support that I do.

Although I am the one who usually sets up outings with them, I know they will

support me through whatever trials I must endure.

>

> One of the major factors that guided me into teaching is to help those with

the same problems I faced when I was small. I was bullied, harassed, and never

made friends regardless of how hard I tried. I just relied on God to help me

keep my focus. All a kid really needs is God, a belief in themself, someone who

cares about them, and love. It amazes me what people with AS, CP, MD, MS, and

other disabilities can do.

>

> I force myself to make eye contact, forced myself to try to read body

language, made it a habit to smile regardless of how I felt though it was hard

at times. A good way for an Aspie to work on eye contact is to decipher the

color of the other person's eyes. I also try to laugh at my shortcomings,

though it's impossible when your depressed.

>

> To answer your questions, I will be certified to teach social studies at the

secondary level, and I live in Milwaukee.

>

> -Chris-

>

>

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > From: twilightstar79 <twilightstar79@ ...>

> > > > Subject: ( ) In need of advice...... .....

> > > >

> > > > Date: Wednesday, July 15, 2009, 11:05 PM

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >  

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Hello,

> > > >

> > > > As an individual with AS, I have followed this group from a distance in

the past. Before today, I really never had the desire to post.

> > > >

> > > > I passed the final in a series of tests required by the state of

Wisconsin to obtain my teaching license. Although I must complete the class I am

taking now and student teach in the fall, this is a major step. I wanted to

share it with my four close friends, so I did. I rarely toot my own horn, but I

did because I wanted them to share in my happiness. Whenever tells me

that she passed another actuarial exam, or Jon tells me he received straight

A's, I congratulate them. I always congratulate and applaud them.

> > > >

> > > > I am angry because I heard nothing from them. I feel that I am reaching

out to them, but they are not reaching out to me. I am unsure on how to handle

this.

> > > >

> > > > Is my anger justifiable?

> > > >

> > > > -Chris-

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

>

>

>

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