RE: School's attitude - Caroline!

[Guest guest]

Caroline,

I just realized I took over this string

and didn’t know if I was getting responses to MY comments back or to your

original vent. I wanted to apologize for stepping in and taking over, it was

not on purpose. I am new to this group and in such crisis with the school

I didn’t pay attention to the string I started!

Denel

From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Michele

Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010

6:15 PM

Subject: Re: ( )

School's attitude

I am glad they are seeing a need for his social skills work. That is the area

aspergers kids suffer the most in. Now put it back on them to give it to him in

his IEP. For us the district doesn't see the aspergers behaviors or ignore to

see them.

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> I'm just new to the group and noticed this string so I am going to follow

> it. I feel for you with the school issue. For us the same thing, the

> school is throwing it all back in my lap since he " does well at

school "

> (which is a lie becvause I have witnessed MANY things) anyways. I just

> wanted to sympathize with you and give you some support. So many of us

deal

> with this.

>

> Denel

> mom to 5 year old Zachary who carries a menu of diagnoses =(

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On Behalf Of Roxanna

> Sent: Thursday, October 21, 2010 10:18 PM

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> Subject: Re: ( ) School's attitude

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> The school is really throwing the problem back into your lap. They should

> provide more social skill help. The ST or school counselor should be

giving

> him social skill help over a variety of situations and environments on a

> regular basis according to his needs. It is their problem. It's everyone's

> problem. They are required to provide this kind of help to him. The

> purpose of the IDEA is: <<(d)(1)(A)

> <http://%28d%29%281%29%28A%29%20to%20ensure%20that%20all%20children%20with%2

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0disabilities%20have%20available%20to%20them%20a%20free%20appropriate%20publ

> ic%20education%20that%20emphasizes%20special%20education%20and%20related%20s

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ervices%20designed%20to%20meet%20their%20unique%20needs%20and%20prepare%20th

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> to ensure that all children with disabilities have available to them a

free

> appropriate public education that emphasizes special education and related

> services designed to meet their unique needs and prepare them for further

> education, employment and independent living.>>

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> Note the last part where it discusses preparing him for further education,

> employment and independent living.

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> Roxanna

> " I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the

government

> from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of

> them. " - Jefferson

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> ( ) School's attitude

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> I just came from a team meeting and need to vent. The school did an FBA on

> my son and this meeting was to review it. The first thing that was said

that

> most of the behaviors observed were no longer an issue. Nothing like an

out

> of date report to base your child's plan - SIGH. It was a long meeting.

The

> short of it is that my son needs more social skills work. (DUH) They only

> provide him one opportunity per week. The psychologist said that my son

> needs it 5x/wk Then the school staff proceeded to tell me how it was my

> issue and not theirs. That I should make it my number one priority. (I

felt

> like slapping the woman who said this.) And since there is no local help

> then I should be willing to travel to get this help for my son. When I

asked

> how they expected my son to handle a lot of travel on a week day when he

has

> so much homework (he stresses if he can't finish). Not to mention my son

> already has a lot of afterschool appointments related to his health issues

> and the fact that although I have flexibility in my schedule I do work

full

> time. I also pointed out that having social skills groups with strangers

> that he'll probably never see again hasn't helped in the past and that he

> really needed more social opportunities within school. Once I said this

then

> they started thinking of other opportunities that they could work out. So

> far there is an informal lunch group (one that had been discontinued but

> started back up despite the counselor's wish). I'm hoping that they come

up

> with some suggestions because the outside group during the school year is

> just not an option because it puts too much stress on my son.

>

> Thanks for letting me vent. Overall this is a good school district but

> sometimes....SIGH.

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> Caroline

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