hand flapping...he gave someone a bloody nose

March 2, 2011

Hi, I'm new here. My son is scheduled to see a developmental pediatrician and

we are thinking he will get a dx of aspergers. He is 5 years old and still in

preschool. I know he has SPD and he flaps his hands quite a bit. He does has

some social issues..he's very slow to warm up to new situations has some anxiety

and separation anxiety. I finally found something that he loves...lego class.

I drop him off and he is happy to go with very little separation anxiety, he

looks forward to it. Well today when I went to pick him up from lego class it

was reported that he hit another kid in the face and gave him a bloody

nose...yes actual blood coming from the poor kids nose. Hitting is totally out

of character for my son and after talking to him he told me it was when he was

flapping and accidently hit the other boy. The other boy was sitting there

crying. I went back in to talk to the teacher and he was very nice and

understanding about the whole thing and he said that made sense since it

happened so fast and the kids were getting along fine. I'm sure the other

mother isn't quite so happy. I'm just so frustrated that this happened and I

know my son feels really bad about it. Has anybody had any success with reducing

hand flapping...he has had some OT and I try to do quite of a bit of

proprioceptive and heavy work type of activiities with him, i also brush him

twice a day. Someone recently suggested I gently tell him that the flapping is

something he should try to do when he's alone since other people might not

understand it...I have told him to try to not do it so much around other people,

I think me telling him that has actually made him do it more...and I feel bad

that it is probably affecting his self-esteem..and now this happened. thanks

for letting me vent..

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