How Do You Stay Calm????

[Guest guest]

My 8 year old has been so disrespectful and argumentative lately and I swear I'm

going to lose it!!! I have had numerous episodes over the past week where I

find myself yelling at him and even spanked him the other night. I feel so

guilty and horrible for handling things this way, but one can only take so much.

For example, he had to go to the grocery with me tonight. He made it know when

we left he did not want to go and I felt he continued this attitude through the

whole store. He was running around in circles with the cart, threw a big fit

when I took the cart away from him, and even through himself on the ground in

the produce section!!! At one point he was running all around and through

himself on the ground again right by a bunch of bath sponges. He proceeds to

knock some of the floor and go on and on about how I threw him in to the sponges

and it is all my fault they are on the floor. Mind you, I wasn't even arguing

with him at this point....this was just part of his obnoxious behavior. Then it

took him forever to pick up the 5 sponges, all the while sitting on the floor.

I get sooooooooooooo sick of people looking at me like I am the worst mother

ever, while my child yells about how mean I am and this is a store and I can't

do this or that to him!! What right does he have to talk to me that way? How

do you know when their behavior is AS related?

I get so sick of him blaming everyone for everything!! If he hits a kid at

school, it is there fault for doing this or that. If he pulls a stick at school

(their form of getting in trouble), it was the teachers fault cause she didn't

understand. He has an excuse for absolutely everything and will argue until he

is blue in the face. I just can't stand it any more! Will I have to deal with

this forever???? Please tell me there is something I can do....it is times like

this that I find myself thinking his behavior is just my poor parenting, not the

AS. I am really struggling to accept his behaviors these days...............

Thanks for listening to my rant!!!!!!!