Re: Re: Desparate for help. please anyone

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Me too. My 11 year old loves manga and has started calling me "mommy-sama" when he gets pissed at me. It's all the time, and has more than gotten on my nerves. He's also not getting any better with his temper. And the poor kittens..... He uses them for neck wraps and hats all the time. He tries getting them to sleep with him under his 3 blankets - that one definately doesn't work. I thought we got the cats for their calming symptoms, not for them to become the new toys.FawnFrom: Tammy Phelps <phelpstammy@...> Sent: Wed, March 2, 2011 3:57:10 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Desparate for help. please anyone

Hi Karla,

I have full understanding of what you are going through. Sometimes I want

to give myself the time-out because I can't stand it anymore!!!

Our little one is 10y.o. I am not really sure what to do with her either.

I am looking at a range of things:

~ new psych to look at anxiety

~ possible ABA therapy

I feel so angry about the rudeness and I know that is because it wasn't

how either my partner or I am or how we were raised. We have really

firm thoughts on what is acceptable or not. I am trying not to be

rigid but hard to 'give a little' as I really believe that if I let it

go today tomorrow it will be expected that the same behaviour is

acceptable.

At 10 - I am finding we have a periodic sit down discussion about manners

and being 'nice' to one another. I find that modelling or repeating

nicely after she has said something rude doesn't do anything but make

her angry.

My cat has also had a very hard time - how about some balancing on her

head or a magic trick of her in a bag???.... BUT the cat always

comes back for more unfortunatly. We are working on the whole it isn't

fair because she can't escape!!!!

We use fish oil each day which has reduced the physicalness of the

tantrums but not the frequency. Still lots of yelling but no hitting

biting or kicking. I see this as a positive

Have you heard of the book the red beast?? Its about anger - a picture

book written for kids with asp.

I don't think any of that will be helpful except to say your not

by yourself (neither are your dogs ) with this stuff.

Tam.

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I don't mean to laugh Fawn, but I got this funny mental picture of your son wearing the kittens on his head and around his neck. I mean, sometimes you just have to laugh, right?Suzanne (in Mi)Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>Sender: Date: Thu, 3 Mar 2011 14:18:14 -0800 (PST)< >Reply Subject: Re: ( ) Re: Desparate for help. please anyone Me too. My 11 year old loves manga and has started calling me "mommy-sama" when he gets pissed at me. It's all the time, and has more than gotten on my nerves. He's also not getting any better with his temper. And the poor kittens..... He uses them for neck wraps and hats all the time. He tries getting them to sleep with him under his 3 blankets - that one definately doesn't work. I thought we got the cats for their calming symptoms, not for them to become the new toys.FawnFrom: Tammy Phelps <phelpstammy@...> Sent: Wed, March 2, 2011 3:57:10 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Desparate for help. please anyone Hi Karla,I have full understanding of what you are going through. Sometimes I wantto give myself the time-out because I can't stand it anymore!!!Our little one is 10y.o. I am not really sure what to do with her either.I am looking at a range of things:~ new psych to look at anxiety~ possible ABA therapyI feel so angry about the rudeness and I know that is because it wasn'thow either my partner or I am or how we were raised. We have reallyfirm thoughts on what is acceptable or not. I am trying not to berigid but hard to 'give a little' as I really believe that if I let itgo today tomorrow it will be expected that the same behaviour isacceptable.At 10 - I am finding we have a periodic sit down discussion about mannersand being 'nice' to one another. I find that modelling or repeatingnicely after she has said something rude doesn't do anything but makeher angry.My cat has also had a very hard time - how about some balancing on herhead or a magic trick of her in a bag???.... BUT the cat alwayscomes back for more unfortunatly. We are working on the whole it isn'tfair because she can't escape!!!!We use fish oil each day which has reduced the physicalness of thetantrums but not the frequency. Still lots of yelling but no hittingbiting or kicking. I see this as a positive :)Have you heard of the book the red beast?? Its about anger - a picturebook written for kids with asp.I don't think any of that will be helpful except to say your notby yourself (neither are your dogs ) with this stuff.Tam.

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The odd thing is that one of the kittens actually likes it. One of these days I'm gonna get pics of what he does with my kittens - and what they do to my dad. Life in this house is never boring.Yes, I think it's funny too.Fawn From: "suzmarkwood@..." <suzmarkwood@...> Sent: Fri,

March 4, 2011 8:45:27 AMSubject: Re: ( ) Re: Desparate for help. please anyone

I don't mean to laugh Fawn, but I got this funny mental picture of your son wearing the kittens on his head and around his neck. I mean, sometimes you just have to laugh, right?Suzanne (in Mi)Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®From: Fawn Kazmierczak <lostfranklingirl@...>

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Me too. My 11 year old loves manga and has started calling me "mommy-sama" when he gets pissed at me. It's all the time, and has more than gotten on my nerves. He's also not getting any better with his temper. And the poor kittens..... He uses them for neck wraps and hats all the time. He tries getting them to sleep with him under his 3 blankets - that one definately doesn't work. I thought we got the cats for their calming symptoms, not for them to become the new toys.FawnFrom: Tammy Phelps

<phelpstammy@...> Sent: Wed, March 2, 2011 3:57:10 PMSubject: ( ) Re: Desparate for help. please anyone

Hi Karla,

I have full understanding of what you are going through. Sometimes I want

to give myself the time-out because I can't stand it anymore!!!

Our little one is 10y.o. I am not really sure what to do with her either.

I am looking at a range of things:

~ new psych to look at anxiety

~ possible ABA therapy

I feel so angry about the rudeness and I know that is because it wasn't

how either my partner or I am or how we were raised. We have really

firm thoughts on what is acceptable or not. I am trying not to be

rigid but hard to 'give a little' as I really believe that if I let it

go today tomorrow it will be expected that the same behaviour is

acceptable.

At 10 - I am finding we have a periodic sit down discussion about manners

and being 'nice' to one another. I find that modelling or repeating

nicely after she has said something rude doesn't do anything but make

her angry.

My cat has also had a very hard time - how about some balancing on her

head or a magic trick of her in a bag???.... BUT the cat always

comes back for more unfortunatly. We are working on the whole it isn't

fair because she can't escape!!!!

We use fish oil each day which has reduced the physicalness of the

tantrums but not the frequency. Still lots of yelling but no hitting

biting or kicking. I see this as a positive

Have you heard of the book the red beast?? Its about anger - a picture

book written for kids with asp.

I don't think any of that will be helpful except to say your not

by yourself (neither are your dogs ) with this stuff.

Tam.

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Hi Ms. Fawn:

Our first cat, used to like the vacuume noise. When we would sweep the floor it would lay down and allow vacuuming. I guess it realized it got loose fur out of between the needed fur, like in the spring. It would allow an odd type of streathcing. It would trust us to hold it on the shoulders and hips with it's face looking up to the celing. It would then stretch so it's abdomin would become an arch pointing up to the roof. Its legs front and back would then streach out as far as possible. It's trust in any one of us at home to hold the cat and not drop it was unfailing.

Sincerely,

T.

( ) Re: Desparate for help. please anyone

Hi Karla,I have full understanding of what you are going through. Sometimes I wantto give myself the time-out because I can't stand it anymore!!!Our little one is 10y.o. I am not really sure what to do with her either.I am looking at a range of things:~ new psych to look at anxiety~ possible ABA therapyI feel so angry about the rudeness and I know that is because it wasn'thow either my partner or I am or how we were raised. We have reallyfirm thoughts on what is acceptable or not. I am trying not to berigid but hard to 'give a little' as I really believe that if I let itgo today tomorrow it will be expected that the same behaviour isacceptable.At 10 - I am finding we have a periodic sit down discussion about mannersand being 'nice' to one another. I find that modelling or repeatingnicely after she has said something rude doesn't do anything but makeher angry.My cat has also had a very hard time - how about some balancing on herhead or a magic trick of her in a bag???.... BUT the cat alwayscomes back for more unfortunatly. We are working on the whole it isn'tfair because she can't escape!!!!We use fish oil each day which has reduced the physicalness of thetantrums but not the frequency. Still lots of yelling but no hittingbiting or kicking. I see this as a positive :)Have you heard of the book the red beast?? Its about anger - a picturebook written for kids with asp.I don't think any of that will be helpful except to say your notby yourself (neither are your dogs ) with this stuff.Tam.