RE: Re: Always Blaming Someone/Something Else

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My daughter (8) Does the EXACT same thing. And its hard to not get so infuriated over it. I feel like she's lying but who knows! Sometimes I think its a control issue. She rarely is in control of anything and its a way to be in control. She mostly does this to her brother. On Mar 31, 2010, at 8:17 AM, wrote:

My 11 yod does the same thing. She is hurting or tripping her cousins. And when I call her on it she says she didn't mean to do it. i really don't know if she really doesn't realize what she is doing or lying about it. It has been a problem for awhile. Her 2 cousins have moved away so it is not as much a problem now. They are mainly the one she did it to. I also wondered if she did it for attention. They are younger than her.

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> My son is 8 years old and in 2nd grade. Our biggest issue right now is getting him to acknowledge what he is doing wrong and taking responsibility for it. For example.....in the cafeteria yesterday, his "foot was just sitting there, and a 3rd grader tripped over it". He swears it was an accident. It is the same story with everything at school (and at home for that matter). He constantly says so and so got him in trouble....he is never doing anything wrong. I try to explain to him that he is responsible for his actions, but this doesn't seem to phase him. In fact, he will even blame objects. If he hits his foot getting out of the shower, he will blame (and yell at) the shower door. I am continually telling him he can not blame objects and that you cannot go around yelling at objects!! It is driving me crazy! He ended up in the principles office yesterday and can't seem to understand what he did wrong and is upset that none of the teachers ever believe him.

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> He usually can not lie about anything, so I can't figure out if he is just telling lies or if he truly believes these things. Just wondering if anyone else has these issues.....

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""I mean seriously, he can memorize things word for word, but can't remember how to behave from day to day!"" I can completely relate. Liz can recite lines from a show she saw once, but can't remember to hand in her homework From: gina9431@...Date: Thu, 1 Apr 2010 01:23:21 +0000Subject: ( ) Re: Always Blaming Someone/Something Else

Thank you so much for all the replies and articles. It is nice to know I am not the only one experiencing this frustrating behavior. I've gotten a few great suggestions I will try. As someone else said, I need to stop expecting him to be able to relate from one situation to another. That can be so hard when you have a child who is so stinkin smart!! Just before bed, he was repeating the trivia questions from the radio from the whole week. Apparently they have a trivia question at 8:10 every morning when he is on his way to school! So, we are getting ready for bed and he asks me, "30% of women say this is the number one thing about being divorced, what is it?", lol! I mean seriously, he can memorize things word for word, but can't remember how to behave from day to day! It is so hard to understand when your mind doesn't work that way!!! Sometimes I think it would be easier if I too was an aspie!!

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> My son is 8 years old and in 2nd grade. Our biggest issue right now is getting him to acknowledge what he is doing wrong and taking responsibility for it. For example.....in the cafeteria yesterday, his "foot was just sitting there, and a 3rd grader tripped over it". He swears it was an accident. It is the same story with everything at school (and at home for that matter). He constantly says so and so got him in trouble....he is never doing anything wrong. I try to explain to him that he is responsible for his actions, but this doesn't seem to phase him. In fact, he will even blame objects. If he hits his foot getting out of the shower, he will blame (and yell at) the shower door. I am continually telling him he can not blame objects and that you cannot go around yelling at objects!! It is driving me crazy! He ended up in the principles office yesterday and can't seem to understand what he did wrong and is upset that none of the teachers ever believe him.

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> He usually can not lie about anything, so I can't figure out if he is just telling lies or if he truly believes these things. Just wondering if anyone else has these issues.....

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Yep, can't remember social things, can't remember homework but can

recite full commercials, tv shows and conversations. I actually

remember joking with her 4 k teachers. They said they knew they had

to be careful what they said b/c she could hear from anywhere and

remember entire conversations but only the parts she wanted to so who

knows how things would come out lol.

She's in 4th grade now and been struggling with memorizing

multiplication fact families the entire year but yet learned the

preamble to the constitution in 30 second

On 3/31/10, gin2504 <gina9431@...> wrote:

> Thank you so much for all the replies and articles. It is nice to know I am

> not the only one experiencing this frustrating behavior. I've gotten a few

> great suggestions I will try. As someone else said, I need to stop

> expecting him to be able to relate from one situation to another. That can

> be so hard when you have a child who is so stinkin smart!! Just before bed,

> he was repeating the trivia questions from the radio from the whole week.

> Apparently they have a trivia question at 8:10 every morning when he is on

> his way to school! So, we are getting ready for bed and he asks me, " 30% of

> women say this is the number one thing about being divorced, what is it? " ,

> lol! I mean seriously, he can memorize things word for word, but can't

> remember how to behave from day to day! It is so hard to understand when

> your mind doesn't work that way!!! Sometimes I think it would be easier if

> I too was an aspie!!

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>> My son is 8 years old and in 2nd grade. Our biggest issue right now is

>> getting him to acknowledge what he is doing wrong and taking

>> responsibility for it. For example.....in the cafeteria yesterday, his

>> " foot was just sitting there, and a 3rd grader tripped over it " . He

>> swears it was an accident. It is the same story with everything at school

>> (and at home for that matter). He constantly says so and so got him in

>> trouble....he is never doing anything wrong. I try to explain to him that

>> he is responsible for his actions, but this doesn't seem to phase him. In

>> fact, he will even blame objects. If he hits his foot getting out of the

>> shower, he will blame (and yell at) the shower door. I am continually

>> telling him he can not blame objects and that you cannot go around yelling

>> at objects!! It is driving me crazy! He ended up in the principles

>> office yesterday and can't seem to understand what he did wrong and is

>> upset that none of the teachers ever believe him.

>>

>> He usually can not lie about anything, so I can't figure out if he is just

>> telling lies or if he truly believes these things. Just wondering if

>> anyone else has these issues.....

>>

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