AS in adults

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I know many of the traits will be the same, but are there any adults with AS or

living with an adult with AS who can give examples of how AS plays out in

adults?

I swear my DH has it and unfortunately I sort of told him I thought so and as

you can imagine, that went over like a ton of bricks... He's not to happy with

me. Our 12 year old son was dx the middle of last year. The more I read and

know, it seems they have a lot in common, just that DH has learned

to...control/hide/manage (?) his symptoms.

One of the biggest things is when he does something that upsets me, he will ask

in all seriousness " what's the matter? " He honestly cannot seem to understand

or allow me to have a point of view... He will make excuses and rationalize til

he's blue in the face.

I know men see things differently than women, but this seems to go beyond the

norm...

Thanks!

Charlene

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There is an guy who works at my college who is an Aspie and he is the founder of of a local Autism group. He isn't like this at all. A thought though is that manic-depressive and AS can look a lot alike. I finally asked the doctor that diagnosed my son about it and she was able to explain some of the differences.BeckyFrom: troyandcharlene93 <troyandcharlene93@...> Sent: Sat, February 6, 2010 6:19:53 AMSubject: ( ) AS in adults

I know many of the traits will be the same, but are there any adults with AS or living with an adult with AS who can give examples of how AS plays out in adults?

I swear my DH has it and unfortunately I sort of told him I thought so and as you can imagine, that went over like a ton of bricks... He's not to happy with me. Our 12 year old son was dx the middle of last year. The more I read and know, it seems they have a lot in common, just that DH has learned to...control/ hide/manage (?) his symptoms.

One of the biggest things is when he does something that upsets me, he will ask in all seriousness "what's the matter?" He honestly cannot seem to understand or allow me to have a point of view... He will make excuses and rationalize til he's blue in the face.

I know men see things differently than women, but this seems to go beyond the norm...

Thanks!

Charlene

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CHARLENE I KNOW JUST WHAT YOU MEAN I THINK MY HUSBAND LIKE MY SON HAS ASPERGERS AND HE IS COMING AROUND TO THINKING IT TO BUT, HE DOESN"T THINK I SHOULD HAVE A OPPION OR THAT IT SHOULD MATTER. HE WILL FIGHT JUST TO FIGHT AND HE SAYS THAT HE KNOWS I AM RIGHT BUT HE WANTS TO FIGHT ANYWAY EVEN IF I AM WRONG GO FIGURE! HE ASKS WHATS WRONG AND WHEN I TELL HIM HE REALLY DOESN'T"T WANT TO KNOW HE JUST THINKS IT WILL MAKE ME FEEL BETTER SO HE DOES IT. NOW I AM SEEING A PERSON THAT IS HELPING AND SHE SAYS TO PUT IT IN MY BOOK AND IT REALLY SEEMS TO HELP! WELL JUST A THOUGHT FOR YOU TO TRY!KATIE FROM GAFrom: doodle bug

<doodlebugboodles@...>Subject: Re: ( ) AS in adults Date: Saturday, February 6, 2010, 11:05 PM

There is an guy who works at my college who is an Aspie and he is the founder of of a local Autism group. He isn't like this at all. A thought though is that manic-depressive and AS can look a lot alike. I finally asked the doctor that diagnosed my son about it and she was able to explain some of the differences.BeckyFrom: troyandcharlene93 <troyandcharlene93> Sent: Sat,

February 6, 2010 6:19:53 AMSubject: ( ) AS in adults

I know many of the traits will be the same, but are there any adults with AS or living with an adult with AS who can give examples of how AS plays out in adults?

I swear my DH has it and unfortunately I sort of told him I thought so and as you can imagine, that went over like a ton of bricks... He's not to happy with me. Our 12 year old son was dx the middle of last year. The more I read and know, it seems they have a lot in common, just that DH has learned to...control/ hide/manage (?) his symptoms.

One of the biggest things is when he does something that upsets me, he will ask in all seriousness "what's the matter?" He honestly cannot seem to understand or allow me to have a point of view... He will make excuses and rationalize til he's blue in the face.

I know men see things differently than women, but this seems to go beyond the norm...

Thanks!

Charlene

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I guess AS runs differently in different ways. My biggest thing with my husband is, he can't seem to think for himself. I'm not saying that because he's ignorant or anything. As a matter of fact, he's very intelligent. He can take a computer apart, put it back together, reprogram it and he has had no schooling for it. Here's an example, If we are working around the house or out camping, I still have to guide him in what to do. I'm the one who ends up upset. He never sees a social cue. If I want a hug or a kiss, I have to ask. He's an awesome guy just has no real emotions(unless things don't go the way he thinks they should). I didn't realize what I was doing with him until my son was dx with AS. He has always been a good provided but still works at the same company as he did when he graduated high

school (25 yrs ago). They laid him off last year for 8 months and although he had other job offers, he refused to go. He just knew he would be back at his old job and even got an attorney to get it back for him. Now he's laid off again. If we are going somewhere I have to tell him and my son when to walk out the door. If I don't, I will go to the car and sit and when I come back they will both be sitting on the couch waiting for me to tell them it's time to go to the car. It's funny how I didn't see it until now and it's getting hard. Sometimes I just wish for normalcy. My son still has the melt downs but not as bad as he used to. Sometimes I feel like a caregiver instead of a wife and mother. Is that wrong of me to feel this way? From: doodle bug

<doodlebugboodles>Subject: Re: ( ) AS in adults Date: Saturday, February 6, 2010, 11:05 PM

There is an guy who works at my college who is an Aspie and he is the founder of of a local Autism group. He isn't like this at all. A thought though is that manic-depressive and AS can look a lot alike. I finally asked the doctor that diagnosed my son about it and she was able to explain some of the differences.BeckyFrom: troyandcharlene93 <troyandcharlene93> Sent: Sat,

February 6, 2010 6:19:53 AMSubject: ( ) AS in adults

I know many of the traits will be the same, but are there any adults with AS or living with an adult with AS who can give examples of how AS plays out in adults?

I swear my DH has it and unfortunately I sort of told him I thought so and as you can imagine, that went over like a ton of bricks... He's not to happy with me. Our 12 year old son was dx the middle of last year. The more I read and know, it seems they have a lot in common, just that DH has learned to...control/ hide/manage (?) his symptoms.

One of the biggest things is when he does something that upsets me, he will ask in all seriousness "what's the matter?" He honestly cannot seem to understand or allow me to have a point of view... He will make excuses and rationalize til he's blue in the face.

I know men see things differently than women, but this seems to go beyond the norm...

Thanks!

Charlene

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OMG! That sounds exactly like my exhusband!!!!!! He has a bipolar diagnosis

but some of this is making me wonder! Our son was just diagnosed a month ago.

Hmm....if he is that might have been good to know since those behaviors along

with aggression leading to abuse was what ended our marriage. At least we are

finding out about our children now. Maybe we can help them avoid some of these

things as adults.

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you can imagine, that went over like a ton of bricks... He's not to happy with

me. Our 12 year old son was dx the middle of last year. The more I read and

know, it seems they have a lot in common, just that DH has learned to...control/

hide/manage (?) his symptoms.

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ask in all seriousness " what's the matter? " He honestly cannot seem to

understand or allow me to have a point of view... He will make excuses and

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My father is 77 and after my 19 year old was diagnosed with Asperger's, we diagnosed my father. He is very obsessed about certain things like using coupons and walking (he walks about 7 miles a day). He has meltdowns very easily. He can be social on his terms, but when he is home he is very isolative and spends time doing crossword puzzles and watching t.v. versus interacting with my mother or anyone else. He has very strong opinions about politics world affairs etc, and reads only certain genres of books. My father and my son are carbon copies of one another. Pam

In a message dated 2/7/2010 1:33:54 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, sellwithmichelleneace@... writes:

I guess AS runs differently in different ways. My biggest thing with my husband is, he can't seem to think for himself. I'm not saying that because he's ignorant or anything. As a matter of fact, he's very intelligent. He can take a computer apart, put it back together, reprogram it and he has had no schooling for it. Here's an example, If we are working around the house or out camping, I still have to guide him in what to do. I'm the one who ends up upset. He never sees a social cue. If I want a hug or a kiss, I have to ask. He's an awesome guy just has no real emotions(unless things don't go the way he thinks they should). I didn't realize what I was doing with him until my son was dx with AS. He has always been a good provided but still works at the same company as he did when he graduated high school (25 yrs ago). They laid him off last year for 8 months and although he had other job offers, he refused to go. He just knew he would be back at his old job and even got an attorney to get it back for him. Now he's laid off again. If we are going somewhere I have to tell him and my son when to walk out the door. If I don't, I will go to the car and sit and when I come back they will both be sitting on the couch waiting for me to tell them it's time to go to the car. It's funny how I didn't see it until now and it's getting hard. Sometimes I just wish for normalcy. My son still has the melt downs but not as bad as he used to. Sometimes I feel like a caregiver instead of a wife and mother. Is that wrong of me to feel this way?

From: doodle bug <doodlebugboodles>Subject: Re: ( ) AS in adults Date: Saturday, February 6, 2010, 11:05 PM

There is an guy who works at my college who is an Aspie and he is the founder of of a local Autism group. He isn't like this at all. A thought though is that manic-depressive and AS can look a lot alike. I finally asked the doctor that diagnosed my son about it and she was able to explain some of the differences.Becky

From: troyandcharlene93 <troyandcharlene93> Sent: Sat, February 6, 2010 6:19:53 AMSubject: ( ) AS in adults

I know many of the traits will be the same, but are there any adults with AS or living with an adult with AS who can give examples of how AS plays out in adults? I swear my DH has it and unfortunately I sort of told him I thought so and as you can imagine, that went over like a ton of bricks... He's not to happy with me. Our 12 year old son was dx the middle of last year. The more I read and know, it seems they have a lot in common, just that DH has learned to...control/ hide/manage (?) his symptoms.One of the biggest things is when he does something that upsets me, he will ask in all seriousness "what's the matter?" He honestly cannot seem to understand or allow me to have a point of view... He will make excuses and rationalize til he's blue in the face. I know men see things differently than women, but this seems to go beyond the norm...Thanks!Charlene