Rough morning

[Guest guest]

Shana,

It sure helps to know you're not alone, doesn't it? Wow! And I was

upset just because was fussing about his hair. If he'd

refused to wear his underwear, I would *really* have been fit to be

tied! I sure hope the doctor is able to adjust your daughter's meds

and things calm down for you soon. This OCD stuff is really, really

frustrating at times, isn't it?

-Jean

>

> Well, I hate to say it but is was nice to get home after work today

> to see I wasn't the only one fighting in an OCD battle this morning.

> Unfortunatly ours didn't end very sucessfully. I just feel like we

> have been losing ground with OCD ever since March. I know Tarryn

> needs an adjustment in her medication (and if there was ever any

> doubt this morning cetainly cleared that up!) however we have been

> waiting since March to see the doctor to adjust it(our appointment

is

> next week). Fortunatly we are able to see her therapist much more

> regularly which does help, but it is not enough. Sometimes the wait

> is the most frustrating part. Today she just could not get dressed,

> even in a dress which last week she could wear no problem. Her

> underwear is also becoming a huge problem, which, will in turn, rule

> out any dresses she has because she cannot go to school in a dress

> with no underwear!!! Tarryn goes to the school where I teach so I

> brought her to school partially dressed (dress on but hands not

> coming out the sleeves, underwear on but not pulled up all the way)

> thinking that as soon as we got to school she would be fine (usually

> she has no problems at school). With alot of fuss she was able to

> put her clothes on properly for the 3 minute walk to my classroom.

> However as soon as we got to my room she took her arms out of her

> dress and readjusted her underwear. After 20 minutes or so I

> realized that this was a battle that we were not going to win as I

> was going to need to let my class in very soon. So I brought her

> down to the medical room and had my mother-in-law come and pick her

> up. When I called my husband at work at lunch he said Tarryn was at

> Gramma's and not wearing any clothes(very happily). Another win for

> OCD.

> Sorry this is so long but I really needed to vent to people who

> understand.

> Shana

[Guest guest]

Hi

Your child may have sensory integration problems,which

my child had and I had no idea at the time what was

wrong with her.She could feel things on her body,a

drop of water,wouldn't wear clothes,wouldn't brush her

teeth,after bathing had to be completely dry.

Theresa in SC

--- macpherson3363@... wrote:

>

> Well, I hate to say it but is was nice to get home

> after work today

> to see I wasn't the only one fighting in an OCD

> battle this morning.

> Unfortunatly ours didn't end very sucessfully. I

> just feel like we

> have been losing ground with OCD ever since March.

> I know Tarryn

> needs an adjustment in her medication (and if there

> was ever any

> doubt this morning cetainly cleared that up!)

> however we have been

> waiting since March to see the doctor to adjust

> it(our appointment is

> next week). Fortunatly we are able to see her

> therapist much more

> regularly which does help, but it is not enough.

> Sometimes the wait

> is the most frustrating part. Today she just could

> not get dressed,

> even in a dress which last week she could wear no

> problem. Her

> underwear is also becoming a huge problem, which,

> will in turn, rule

> out any dresses she has because she cannot go to

> school in a dress

> with no underwear!!! Tarryn goes to the school

> where I teach so I

> brought her to school partially dressed (dress on

> but hands not

> coming out the sleeves, underwear on but not pulled

> up all the way)

> thinking that as soon as we got to school she would

> be fine (usually

> she has no problems at school). With alot of fuss

> she was able to

> put her clothes on properly for the 3 minute walk to

> my classroom.

> However as soon as we got to my room she took her

> arms out of her

> dress and readjusted her underwear. After 20

> minutes or so I

> realized that this was a battle that we were not

> going to win as I

> was going to need to let my class in very soon. So

> I brought her

> down to the medical room and had my mother-in-law

> come and pick her

> up. When I called my husband at work at lunch he

> said Tarryn was at

> Gramma's and not wearing any clothes(very happily).

> Another win for

> OCD.

> Sorry this is so long but I really needed to vent to

> people who

> understand.

> Shana

>

>

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[Guest guest]

So glad you're feeling better!

Rita

Rough Morning

Thanks everyone for the support! I'm glad to say that the flare up

was pretty minor. Usually, once I get sick, that's it. I actually

get sick every 10-20 minutes for a few hours But today, I only

got sick twice this morning and I'm keeping water down...so it's a

good day!! I'm sure I'll be able to eat by 1 or so and get some

protein in today too!! YIPPEE!! I only work 2.5 miles from home so

at lunch I'm going to go home and take a nap and that'll help also!

Colleen

[Guest guest]

Possibly IBS, wheat intolerance which leads to celiac disease.

Hard to diagnose because they don't detect it until the damage is done.

I was 63 yo before I figured it out.

Regards

Rough morning

Not sure if it's appropriate to do this but I need a place vent. Last night

I had really bad abdominal pain on the left side with extreme belching. My

stomach felt very full and I was nauseated and felt I might vomit but

didn't. Finally after one hour or so it calmed down and I went to bed.

This morning I got up and felt anxious and shaky and had really loud head

noises in my head. It felt like I was going to have another high blood

pressure attack but my bp showed normal. The head noises continued to get

stronger and stronger to the point I felt I a sense of impending doom. I

continued to check my blood pressure and it started rising rapidly and got

up to 163/103. At that point I took bp pill and it finally went back down to

normal range.

I decided to eat a slice of toast and half of a banana but it filled me up

quickly and is already causing me to belch. I'm getting the sensation I get

when my bp spikes but so far it hasn't. Anyway, just wanted to vent here.

Was looking forward to spending the day with our family for 4th of July.

Looks like it isn't going to happen now. I want to get better so bad. The

doctors I've gone to so far haven't taken me seriously. It's so frustrating.

Thanks for allowing me to vent here. Hope you all are enjoying your day.

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing this with me. I have an appointment with my gastro tomorrow

so we'll be looking into this. I probably have IBS but no sure about celiac

disease as many of the symptoms of this disease I don't have. But it's

definitely worth checking into. Thanks again for your response.

>

> Possibly IBS, wheat intolerance which leads to celiac disease.

> Hard to diagnose because they don't detect it until the damage is done.

> I was 63 yo before I figured it out.

>

> Regards

>

> Rough morning

>

>

>

>

>

> Not sure if it's appropriate to do this but I need a place vent. Last night

> I had really bad abdominal pain on the left side with extreme belching. My

> stomach felt very full and I was nauseated and felt I might vomit but

> didn't. Finally after one hour or so it calmed down and I went to bed.

>

> This morning I got up and felt anxious and shaky and had really loud head

> noises in my head. It felt like I was going to have another high blood

> pressure attack but my bp showed normal. The head noises continued to get

> stronger and stronger to the point I felt I a sense of impending doom. I

> continued to check my blood pressure and it started rising rapidly and got

> up to 163/103. At that point I took bp pill and it finally went back down to

> normal range.

>

> I decided to eat a slice of toast and half of a banana but it filled me up

> quickly and is already causing me to belch. I'm getting the sensation I get

> when my bp spikes but so far it hasn't. Anyway, just wanted to vent here.

> Was looking forward to spending the day with our family for 4th of July.

> Looks like it isn't going to happen now. I want to get better so bad. The

> doctors I've gone to so far haven't taken me seriously. It's so frustrating.

>

> Thanks for allowing me to vent here. Hope you all are enjoying your day.

>

[Guest guest]

My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about

everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so

when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last

night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he

knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed

fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his

school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us

thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the

kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a

heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell

phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have

kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again

[Guest guest]

Oh man,,,,,,,I'm so sorry. I totally understand.

Hopefully, the day will go well.

Could you call the teacher and ask how it's going?

Give him a big hug when he gets home, like I'm sure you'll do.

You're a good mom................

Robin

From: moonfly_jenn <moonfly_jenn@...>Subject: ( ) Rough morning Date: Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 7:43 AM

My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again

[Guest guest]

I don't know if it is good to start keeping him home.

You don't want to start to cultivate school avoidance when

he is upset. It could be often.

If it is not often and you want him to stay home tell him

that you suspect illness. So he doesn't start to ask to stay

home.

good luck,

Pam

>

> My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about

everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so

when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last

night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he

knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed

fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his

school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us

thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the

kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a

heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell

phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have

kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again

>

[Guest guest]

Yes! My daughter does the same thing!!! She's mostly good at school and then blows up once home. Any change in routine is cause for EPIC drama.I'm hopeful that the school will help though. We have an IEP meeting coming up on the 1st.

Hi...sorry...I've been lurking for a while and finally got the courage to respond to something. I'm and we have a 9yr old daughter named .On Wed, Jan 20, 2010 at 7:26 AM, moonfly_jenn <moonfly_jenn@...> wrote:

 

yes, that's exactly what Matty does! He is good at school (not perfect by far, does struggle with some issues) and then as soon as he gets in the car after school he usually ends up yelling at me before we get home. I can barely talk to him or ask him any questions without him getting all mad. I swear in the back of his mind all day he is planning what he will be doing when he gets home and if I try to do someting with him after school he gets really upset.

Anyway, last night and this morning went really well. His school day went well and I had his legos all ready for him to play when he got home. He laid down with his music at 8 and fell alseep pretty quickly so this morning he was much happier. I actually got him to get dressed right away and then we sat together until it was time to get ready for the bus. All was well this morning!

Jen

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> > From: moonfly_jenn <moonfly_jenn@ ...>

> > Subject: ( ) Rough morning

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> > Date: Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 7:43 AM

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> > My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again

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>

-- “Be Who You Are and Say What You Feel Because Those Who Mind Don't Matter and Those Who Matter Don't Mind.” -- Dr. Seuss " They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety. "  -- Ben lin

[Guest guest]

My sons worst day seems to be the day he has gym, last night, because I told him he couldn't play the wii til he'd done his homework, he spent 3/4 at hour shouting about life not being fair, not having a good day and that he was going to take me to the mum shop and swap me for a mum that listens! lol After a stint in the corner he calmed down. Life might be a lot of things, but never dull when you have an Aspie child.

Hope today was a good day for you and yours.

Lor B>> yes, that's exactly what Matty does! He is good at school (not perfect by far, does struggle with some issues) and then as soon as he gets in the car

after school he usually ends up yelling at me before we get home. I can barely talk to him or ask him any questions without him getting all mad. I swear in the back of his mind all day he is planning what he will be doing when he gets home and if I try to do someting with him after school he gets really upset.> > Anyway, last night and this morning went really well. His school day went well and I had his legos all ready for him to play when he got home. He laid down with his music at 8 and fell alseep pretty quickly so this morning he was much happier. I actually got him to get dressed right away and then we sat together until it was time to get ready for the bus. All was well this morning!> > Jen> > > > > > > > > > > From: moonfly_jenn <moonfly_jenn@ ...>> > > Subject: ( ) Rough morning> > > > >

> Date: Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 7:43 AM> > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > > > My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell

phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again> > >> >>

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Oh those days break my heart... they seem to come less often in my house now. My son will go several days, weeks even without a breakdown and then when it comes its a tidal wave. First I am the worst mother in the world and he'd wish he were born somewhere else then an apology and an actual reason behind what was making him so upset. These outbursts use to be daily, hourly sometimes and I thank God everyday that we have moved past that.

It is so difficult to watch the child that you protect in your sleep be mad at you for a reason that you either dont know or cant understand because they cant express it. Language and self control skills have helped us SO much but we still struggle...

( ) Rough morning> > > > > > Date: Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 7:43 AM> > > > > > > > >  > > > > > > > > > > > > My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again> > >> >>

[Guest guest]

Asperger's boys and girls (as well as non-Asperger's) know with whom they can

safely 'let it all out' and still be loved unconditionally, so it's not uncommon

for moms (or dads, etc.) to be on the receiving end of most of the outbursts and

all. It sounds like it was a rough time for both of you. When I realized my dd

was escalating, I'd take her into our room while telling her 'Let's have some

relax time...' and I'd redirect her attention to a colorful, fun book(s) that I

would read to her until she had calmed down. Then I asked her if she felt better

and/or if she was feeling like she was ready to go back to whatever we had been

doing (or get her interest in something else). This wasn't done as far as

'rewarding bad behavior', but as realising that she was feeling

helpless/afraid/etc. and losing control and needed help to calm down/redirect/

etc. I wish you well. --Kari

>

> My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about

everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so

when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last

night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he

knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed

fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his

school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us

thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the

kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a

heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell

phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have

kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for your words and stories, it really helps! I't really nice to

know that Matty isn't the only kid with the home and school personalities. It's

hard to bear the brunt of his " being himself and letting it out " time, but in

the grand scheme of things, we don't have it that bad and thats what I hang on

to.

All has been status quo since the beginning of the week so it was just a rough

start. There's no school Monday and we are expected another storm this weekend

so not much outside time this weekend!

> >

> > My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about

everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so

when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last

night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he

knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed

fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his

school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us

thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the

kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a

heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell

phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have

kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again

> >

>

[Guest guest]

We have the WII fit and I have noticed improvement in her large motor skills. She knows she gets 30 min. before she has to start her homework. She has to do the body test, either a run or step, a super hula hoop, and then a couple balance games.

My sons worst day seems to be the day he has gym, last night, because I told him he couldn't play the wii til he'd done his homework, he spent 3/4 at hour shouting about life not being fair, not having a good day and that he was going to take me to the mum shop and swap me for a mum that listens! lol After a stint in the corner he calmed down. Life might be a lot of things, but never dull when you have an Aspie child.

Hope today was a good day for you and yours.

Lor B

[Guest guest]

Dear Moonfly:

I guess it was the things you had Matty do that were the same, at the end of getting ready for school and at the end of the day, allowed him "meditate" some.?

( ) Rough morning> > > > Date: Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 7:43 AM> > > > > >  > > > > > > > > My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really emotional about everything last night and every request or demand he had was unreasonable so when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually smacked me last night but not even half a second after he was saying he was sorry. At least he knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up getting him to bed fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning. Hopefully his school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they waited for us thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who rides with the kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher to give her a heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day carrying my cell phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school. Maybe I should have kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till I see him again> >>

[Guest guest]

My daughter used to be very aggressive too. She started hitting me at age 9

months old! She started tantrums at 1 yr old, 12 mo. exactly. I remember I had

no idea what it was, why she was crying, etc. Then she went on to have tantrums

several times a week the time she was 2. Until she was 11. She had one at 12,

fall on the floor screaming tantrums....but until then it was a few times a

week, you never knew when they were coming. Now at 19, she never falls on the

floor (LOL Thank God!) but she will scream at others and get very upset easily.

I know to just ignore it or not to say anything, let her blow off steam. That

works well. My 17 yr old daughter can be very rude to her, doesn't like her

snooty behavior (the one with Aspergers acts like a princess, kind of very

snooty like, like Mrs. Godsey on the Waltons...does anyone remember her??? or

like Mrs. Olsen on Little House, and she can't help it, that's just her

personality). Anyway, my 17 yr old can't stand it and they grew apart when she

was 12 or so. They haven't had a good relationship now in 5 years. It breaks my

heart, but I can understand it since I don't like the whole asperger-snooty

behavior either. Very difficult...

Benita

> > > > My 5 yr old had such a terrible morning. He was really

emotional about everything last night and every request or demand he had was

unreasonable so when he was told no he sobbed and got aggresive. He actually

smacked me last night but not even half a second after he was saying he was

sorry. At least he knew even as upset as he was that he was wrong. I ended up

getting him to bed fine but it all started in again when he got up this morning.

Hopefully his school day goes okay. We were late getting to the bus but they

waited for us thankfully. He rides a little spec ed bus so I let the para who

rides with the kids know about his fragile state. And i just emailed the teacher

to give her a heads up. I don't like days like this. I will spend the day

carrying my cell phone in my hand thinking something will happen in school.

Maybe I should have kept him home ..... oh, its going to be such a long day till

I see him again

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