Re: Finding that light...

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Many kids with AS or Bipolar or ADHD have an deficits

in their ability to transition their mindsets, and this makes them a very ridgid

person. It seems like they could be more flexible

if they just wanted to. Lecturing or nagging or punishing

may be tried but often escalates emotions and makes things worse

not better. You will find that it takes longer than you hope

but you can shape better behaviors through positive

reinforcement. The hardest thing to deal with is that others

expectations or your own may be that you " should " be able to shape better

behavior faster. If you are consistent, praise the positive, you can be assured

you are shaping as fast as possible for your child's set of deficits.

Pam

behaviors " faster "

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> My name is and my 5 year old son Devon was recently diagnosed w/

Asperger's. It was not a surprise, because I had been doing a great deal of

research, so the diagnosis was more of a confirmation. He was also placed on

medicine for ADHD. I really have been struggling with him lately. His

aggression is increasing, I feel it is due in part to his lack of routine. My

husband and I greatest struggle is what is related to the Asperger's and when is

he being willful. My mother says that she feels he is just being willful at

times and can learn to deal with it. I truly am unsure, because he can stop at

certain instances. I have been reading your posts and it truly is the start of

me feeling like I have some support. I finally was able to speak to someone

yesterday at the CARD center and she provided me with a wealth of resources. I

was extremely excited on Wednesday when an in-home therapy center was coming to

do an evaluation and set up services and they never showed up or returned my

calls:( This has been quite an emotional roller coaster, and extremely trying

on my family. I carry around a great deal of guilt because I am an educator and

feel that I am not helping my own son who is an amazing, bright, sweet boy.

Sorry that I have rambled, but I just want to thank you all for being a part of

this much needed support system. If you don't mind I would like to start

posting some of my questions for feedback. Again, thank you from the bottom of

my heart!

>

[Guest guest]

Well said...and so very very true!

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Pamela <susanonderko@...> Sent: Fri, July 16, 2010 10:57:09 AMSubject: ( ) Re: Finding that light...

Many kids with AS or Bipolar or ADHD have an deficitsin their ability to transition their mindsets, and this makes them a very ridgid person. It seems like they could be more flexible if they just wanted to. Lecturing or nagging or punishingmay be tried but often escalates emotions and makes things worsenot better. You will find that it takes longer than you hopebut you can shape better behaviors through positive reinforcement. The hardest thing to deal with is that othersexpectations or your own may be that you "should" be able to shape better behavior faster. If you are consistent, praise the positive, you can be assured you are shaping as fast as possible for your child's set of deficits.Pam behaviors "faster" >> My name is and my 5 year old son Devon was recently diagnosed w/ Asperger's. It was not a surprise, because I had been doing a great deal of research, so the diagnosis was more of a confirmation. He was also placed on medicine for ADHD. I really have been struggling with him lately. His aggression is increasing, I feel it is due in part to his lack of routine. My husband and I greatest struggle is what is related to the Asperger's and when is he being willful. My mother says that she feels he is just being willful at times and can learn to deal with it. I truly am unsure, because he can stop at certain instances. I have been reading your posts and it truly is the start of me feeling like I have some support. I finally was able to speak to someone yesterday at the CARD center and she provided me with a wealth of resources. I was extremely excited on Wednesday when an in-home therapy center was coming

to do an evaluation and set up services and they never showed up or returned my calls:( This has been quite an emotional roller coaster, and extremely trying on my family. I carry around a great deal of guilt because I am an educator and feel that I am not helping my own son who is an amazing, bright, sweet boy. Sorry that I have rambled, but I just want to thank you all for being a part of this much needed support system. If you don't mind I would like to start posting some of my questions for feedback. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart!>

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Jessie your post was a mirror of what I am going through, except that mine is a

15 1/2 year old girl.. My mother thinks she should just have a spanking, her

older brothers think she is mentally ill ( they do not remember their teen

years) and I am filled with guilt wondering if they are right and I am doing

parenting wrong. She is willful to the extreme, cannot change mindsets as needed

and needs ADHD meds. also, I am an educator....a counselor yet, and I don't have

the answers. I saw many children like this while counseling and even I believed

it was just a misbehavior problem.. But now I see that it is not just bad

behavior.. It is something more difficult as the normal discipline does not

work..

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> > My name is and my 5 year old son Devon was recently diagnosed w/

> >Asperger's. It was not a surprise, because I had been doing a great deal of

> >research, so the diagnosis was more of a confirmation. He was also placed on

> >medicine for ADHD. I really have been struggling with him lately. His

aggression

> >is increasing, I feel it is due in part to his lack of routine. My husband

and I

> >greatest struggle is what is related to the Asperger's and when is he being

> >willful. My mother says that she feels he is just being willful at times and

can

> >learn to deal with it. I truly am unsure, because he can stop at certain

> >instances. I have been reading your posts and it truly is the start of me

> >feeling like I have some support. I finally was able to speak to someone

> >yesterday at the CARD center and she provided me with a wealth of resources.

I

> >was extremely excited on Wednesday when an in-home therapy center was coming

to

> >do an evaluation and set up services and they never showed up or returned my

> >calls:( This has been quite an emotional roller coaster, and extremely trying

on

> >my family. I carry around a great deal of guilt because I am an educator and

> >feel that I am not helping my own son who is an amazing, bright, sweet boy.

> >Sorry that I have rambled, but I just want to thank you all for being a part

of

> >this much needed support system. If you don't mind I would like to start

posting

> >some of my questions for feedback. Again, thank you from the bottom of my

heart!

> >

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