Re: Re: 15 year old brother hating school

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How old is your brother...what grade 9, 10, 11 or 12??? Is there a teacher or staff member he connects with or would feel comfortable with? Could the school get another student to be a buddy for a while? Is the school aware of his situation? Are his teachers aware? He needs to feel comfortable and have a safe zone...a place he can go ...whenever he needs to. He needs a teacher/guidance counselor he can go to.

I don't know how he would feel with a paraprofessional...but that may make things easier for him. Depends on how he feels about it.

Making and keeping friends is really difficult. It is very hard to teach "social skills". Right now I am working with a student ...I find most students with AS are less mature than their peers which doesn't help. I just started working with her...she is very polite and knows her manners...but doesn't get the "inner circle..unwritten game plan".

I have found in the years that I have been working in the school system...the high school kids tend to be more tolerant. The younger kids such at 6 , 7 and 8 tend to make fun of students that are different. By the time the students get to high school, they are more mature and aware. When I worked in the high school, many of the students were kind and thoughtful to the students with AS.

If you brother would be comfortable with a paraprofessional...I would suggest that. It would have to be a good fit though!

Best wishes...and keep plugging on! And, you should try to help him to with his social skills....

Jan

"In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity" Albert Einstein

Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has overcome to obtain that position

From: Pamela <susanonderko@...> Sent: Wed, September 15, 2010 9:56:03 PMSubject: ( ) Re: 15 year old brother hating school

Your parents may speak to the school psychologist and reguestyour brother get into a social skill group. You mustadvocate under the issue that your brother is a potential "schoolrefusal case". This is a diagnosis. You will probably needto get your brother into private counseling so that he hasan advocate helping him through this huge transition to a new school. The state is required to provide an education, school refusal is a diagnosis and must be addressed by the school however as I mentioned your parents arelikely going to need to get a therapist to help advocate.Often schools blame the parents for being toosoft on the child, this is why an outide therapistwill be needed, to so that the parents are doing therepart and that the child needs help from the school. Pam >> My brother has started a new performing arts hight school and is having difficulty making friends. He does not want to return because he does not have anyone to talk to. Any suggestions? We want him to be successful this year at school. Previously he was home schooled because of the lack of support from the school.>