Re: life in general... can't I just run away?

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Hi Angi,

I hope your day got better than it was going this morning. Our mornings use to be just as caotic and stressful when my two older kids were teenagers and still living at home. My youngest who is now almost 14 use to be a nightmare to get ready for school in the morning. Things have gotten better in the last year. We started making him earn points for his morning routine like eat breakfast, take medicine, get dressed etc. He uses the points to trade in for "free time" to get on his xbox etc.after school. We also started cutting back his bed time by a half hour everytime he had more than two rough mornings in a row, then he would have to earn that half hour back by having at least three good mornings in a row and so on. So now he can go to bed at nine, but if he gives us a hard time in the morning by the second day it gets cut back to eight thirty. He hates that because he can't stay up as late. We tell him, oh well guess you need to get

your butt in gear in the morning. It has worked better than anything else we've tried.

Your older son might be competing for attention. My older two would do that because my AS got so much attention by default. So they would mouth off or catch an attitude just to stir the pot. They didn't understand then but they do now.

I hope things get easier for you. Maybe you do need a break. There is nothing wrong with that. Is there anyway you could take a weekend and go visit a friend or relative? Sometimes we have to remember to take care of ourselves too. ne

From: angela <angi_400@...>Subject: ( ) life in general... can't I just run away? Date: Tuesday, February 8, 2011, 7:51 AM

Hi all. I post from time to time on this board, and I see how much everyone helps everyone else.I'm so frustrated and just feel like walking away. My 12 yo ds has trouble getting up most mornings. He fights about taking his shower, getting dressed, taking his meds, you name it! It upsets my 15 yo NT son, who just has to open his mouth and make comments and get into every problem. That upsets my 2 1/2 daughter and my husband. This just goes on every morning when I have to get him up and be on any kind of schedule. I'm so tired of all of it. I have days where I just want to pack up my daughter and leave. My husband seems to understand how to deal with our son some days, and others he just doesn't seem to get it. Our oldest just wants to mouth off about everything, and that makes everything worse. To top everything off, my doctors have decided that I am pre-diabetic, and the changes we are having to make around here to deal with that I think is

making everyone grumpy as well!Thanks for letting me rant.Angi

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