New and unsure want some information.

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Hi, I do not have a child with asperger's. I do have a son with major depression and have found help with an online group which is why I am trying this for some help.

My daughter has a friend who I always felt had asperger's. The symptems are all there, but she (or her parents) have never said this was what was going on. Both of the girls are 16 now, and my dd Tricia has slowly been pulling away from "Joni" because she is alinating all of Tricia's friends. Really, Tricia has always been very nice to Joni, perhaps "mothering" her too much. Always backing her up, saying to her friends well I want Joni to come with, ect.

Last night while watching a movie preview a movie about aspergers came on, Tricia looked up on-line the symptems and what it was and realized Joni matches to a t. So all of a sudden she is saying wait a minute, maybe my behavior is hurting Joni as much as Joni's is hurting my social life, what can I do to make us both happy. (Yes my daughter growing up with a clinically depressed brother wants to "cure" the world. One person at a time, I never said she was perfect she just likes everyone to be as happpy as possible)

Here are a few of the things Tricia has done with Joni-

When Joni stands and stares at people she will 'interupt" her line of vision, and say Joni your staring.

When Joni starts talking about cats and what they eat, sleep, crap out (really) she will interupt her and say Ok enough about cats, and change the subject.

Is this ok, I mean should she be doing these things, is there anyplace we can go to find out how to properly respond to Joni with out totally offending her?

Like I said I have no idea if this is what is going on with Joni or not but it so looks like it I was hoping someone could direct me in the right direction. I really like Joni and I know that my daughter does also.

Thank you,

Sheila