Aspie Spouse

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I'm chiming in. My husband of 21 years is also aspie, as well as my 10 year old DS. Famous moments from our still-loving marriage:When I first told him I loved him, he replied, "I'm trying to love you - whatever love is."And, I married him! I kind of liked the honesty, as I come from a family where the truth is a nebulous, easily shaped item.At 44, I was dxed with Stage III breast cancer (prognosis great), and went through surgery, chemo, and radiation. My husband did his best to be emotionally nurturing, but was FREAKED OUT. So, one day, after chemo, he floated through the bedroom and asked if I felt like making dinner. Clearly, he had forgotten that when someone (me) is barfing, you don't ask them to cook. This is the aspie part: I had mentioned that I had a roast in the freezer, and if I

felt like it, I would cook it. It didn't take a genius to realize that I didn't feel like it, but that's AS for you.I call him my Volkswagen of love. There are no "pretty" moments, no flowers, no poetry. What I get in return is a man who is honest to the core, hard working, intelligent, and has the good sense to love me.Learning that our son was an Aspie too really helped me understand how he/they work. I get my feelings hurt a lot less now. That's good, right?PS: I'm not dissing anyone who sought divorce. I realize this is my own experience and not a global Aspie Husband model.