Newly diagnosed 18-yr-old son

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Hello everyone-

I am new to this group and new to the autism-spectrum world. I guess I've lived

with it for 18 years but just didn't know the name for it. Our son, Jordan, was

diagnosed by a neuropsychologist a couple of months ago with Aspergers, though,

his psychologist thinks it is PDD-NOS, Our son is very resistant to the

diagnosis and seems angry about it. He keeps telling us it is wrong but then

later says he thinks it is correct. He really struggles socially. He's also a

very anxious kid. He has started a social/language group, though doesn't think

he needs to be there.

I have a question and I'm not sure where to get help on this one. Jordan

obsesses about his relationship with me, his mom. He thinks we're not

connecting and that everyone else in the world 'gets' him but that I don't. He

doesn't feel loved by me. He also is very critical of everything I do to try to

reassure him. This is all new behavior since the diagnosis. I don't know what

I am doing wrong, I love him to pieces. I did push for the assessment so I

think there may be some anger towards me about the diagnosis. His dad and I are

having a hard time not getting frustrated with him over this issue.

I am starting counseling this week so I'm hoping the counselor will be able to

help some with this issue. This isn't the only major thing going on in our

lives right now, so it will be good to have someone to talk to.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this and if

there were things you found helpful in dealing with the situation. He's a very

late diagnosis and most information/books I find deal with younger kids.

Thanks for any help,