My dd has a crush - what to do??

[Guest guest]

9 is young for kids to be boyfriend girlfriend as defined by

you or i. however, most kids at this age, have a different definition and

expectations of this kind of relationship. I had a crush in the 4th-6th

grade on one boy. We never spoke at school but would play after school—it

was all very appropriate kid stuff play. We just liked being friends.

My daughter also had a crush (boy)friend in 2nd-4th grade—all

they did was play together, never any inappropriate touching or kissing they

just interacted liked good friends. They also had sleepovers.

I became good friends with the mother and we talked about the kids and about

our concerns and were in agreement as to our expectations. It worked out

very well.

I think that the mother calling to talk to you and inviting both

of you over is a good sign. She cares and is interested in her son and

his friendships. you can watch the kids play, make sure they are in view

or ear shot especially in the beginning so you can see how they interact.

as far as revealing your daughter’s diagnosis, well that is up to

you. my view is if you tell one classmate about the diagnosis, then you should

be prepared for the whole school to know—especially down the road if

there is a falling out in the friendship.

Regards, melody