Re: How do you discipline... nakey

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My son is starting to change physically and he's quite open about his curiosity

about sex. He asks me questions loudly when we are out in public sometimes.

It's overwhelming, to say the least. Having a sense of humor helps. I try to

just answer his questions honestly no matter how people are looking at me.

I bought a book called " taking care of myself " . I think it is excellent. It's

a series of social stories for autistic kids about hygiene, bodies, touch, and

sex. Last week said a few things to me so I got out the book and gave him

some reading. I could do the social stories with him, but I thought he might

just want to read them. His reaction was, " In the future I should only

masterbate somewhere private like in my room or the bathroom. " Yup! That's the

idea kiddo. Totally cracked me up.

The stories are short and in very large print. I expect they are good for any

kid with questions, not just autistic kids, but it was written with autism in

mind. I have to say, having the book totally eases my mind.

Miriam

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> Oh my son is right smack in puberty....his whole body is changing..OMG....he

is so tall now, hairy legs, voice cracking...etc. etc.  I don't know if I like

this stage. LOL.

>  

> When my son was little...he liked to run around as we would say " nakey " .  But

since he is now changing...he is very very private...

>  

> Now, I got new worried...I opened the den door one day and there he was with

his shorts and underwear down...he quickly started pulling them up and made some

excuse...oh no...here we go...I hope I manage....My little boy is thinking about

sexual things....I don't think I like

this.................................................

>  

> Jan

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Do you have the author of the book??

Thank you,

in NV

From: Miriam <callis4773@...> Sent: Saturday, August 1, 2009 8:42:41 AMSubject: ( ) Re: How do you discipline... "nakey"

My son is starting to change physically and he's quite open about his curiosity about sex. He asks me questions loudly when we are out in public sometimes. It's overwhelming, to say the least. Having a sense of humor helps. I try to just answer his questions honestly no matter how people are looking at me.I bought a book called "taking care of myself". I think it is excellent. It's a series of social stories for autistic kids about hygiene, bodies, touch, and sex. Last week said a few things to me so I got out the book and gave him some reading. I could do the social stories with him, but I thought he might just want to read them. His reaction was, "In the future I should only masterbate somewhere private like in my room or the bathroom." Yup! That's the idea kiddo. Totally cracked me up.The stories are short and in very large print. I expect they are good for any kid with questions, not just autistic kids, but it was written with

autism in mind. I have to say, having the book totally eases my mind.Miriam>> Oh my son is right smack in puberty....his whole body is changing..OMG. ...he is so tall now, hairy legs, voice cracking...etc. etc. I don't know if I like this stage. LOL.> > When my son was little...he liked to run around as we would say "nakey". But since he is now changing...he is very very private...> > Now, I got new worried...I opened the den door one day and there he was with his shorts and underwear down...he quickly started pulling them up and made some excuse...oh no...here we go...I hope I manage....My little boy is thinking about sexual things....I don't think I like

this........ ......... ......... ......... ......... .....> > Jan

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First, Miriam, just wondering; Do you tell him in private that you feel

embarrassed (or uncomfortable) when he talks in public about that or does he

acknowledge it? I think when my mom told me a good reason not to say things in

public, then she didn't have to worry about me bringing them up any more. Of

course some teenagers think it funny to embarrass parents so it just encourages

them.

Funny how funny these topics can be later, talking about them. They still can

have serious sides of course. My Aspie was about 11 when I heard through the

grape vine that he had inappropriate behavior with a girl who was only 6. I

approached the subject carefully (which was probably not so necessary with my

ds, just make sure it's in private). He blamed his friend, saying they had her

in a clubhouse and told her to drop her pants so she did). He was just there. I

guess that's a typical Aspie moment, but I knew from experience how he likely

felt. As dad I said, " It is normal for us boys to be interested in girls and

what they are like under clothes. " He responded quickly, " Really? "

I tried not to show a smirk or anything. It's just funny how fast he said that.

Yep I think it's OK to acknowledge that you realize he is finding new interests

in sex, after you find him in an awkward situation like that. It happens all the

time and sometimes they act out more strangely just because they don't know that

is normal. I had to make sure he knows that respect for the girl means not

intruding on her privacy. I explained that's why it was not good to have her

involved in his curiosity.

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> My son is starting to change physically and he's quite open about his

curiosity about sex. He asks me questions loudly when we are out in public

sometimes. It's overwhelming, to say the least. Having a sense of humor helps.

I try to just answer his questions honestly no matter how people are looking at

me.

>

[Guest guest]

Wrobel wrote it and you can order it from Future Horizons.

Miriam

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> > Oh my son is right smack in puberty....his whole body is changing..OMG.

....he is so tall now, hairy legs, voice cracking...etc. etc.  I don't know if I

like this stage. LOL.

> >  

> > When my son was little...he liked to run around as we would say " nakey " . 

But since he is now changing...he is very very private...

> >  

> > Now, I got new worried...I opened the den door one day and there he was with

his shorts and underwear down...he quickly started pulling them up and made some

excuse...oh no...here we go...I hope I manage....My little boy is thinking about

sexual things....I don't think I like this........ ......... ......... .........

.......... .....

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> > Jan

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> Wrobel wrote it and you can order it from Future Horizons.

Also amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Care-Myself-Personal-Curriculum/dp/1885477945/ref=s\

r_1_1?ie=UTF8 & s=books & qid=1249163253 & sr=1-1

You may need to cut and paste the two lines onto one.

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Thanks Miriam...I went to Borders looking for a book and even asked for help but we could not find anything and I knew that there was one out there....I will check it out. The only problem is that my son has a few older friends...and I know he already asked them. WE went to have the Birds and Bees talk and he said he already knew everything...his friend told him because he asked him. We still made a few comments on safety,etc. My son is HFA and a lot of times you would not even know he has AS...so I really worry....he is very very social. Friends are the most important thing to him besides Xbox.

Jan

Janice Rushen

"I will try to be open to all avenues of wisdom and hope"

From: Miriam <callis4773@...>Subject: ( ) Re: How do you discipline... "nakey" Date: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 11:42 AM

My son is starting to change physically and he's quite open about his curiosity about sex. He asks me questions loudly when we are out in public sometimes. It's overwhelming, to say the least. Having a sense of humor helps. I try to just answer his questions honestly no matter how people are looking at me.I bought a book called "taking care of myself". I think it is excellent. It's a series of social stories for autistic kids about hygiene, bodies, touch, and sex. Last week said a few things to me so I got out the book and gave him some reading. I could do the social stories with him, but I thought he might just want to read them. His reaction was, "In the future I should only masterbate somewhere private like in my room or the bathroom." Yup! That's the idea kiddo. Totally cracked me up.The stories are short and in very large print. I expect they are good for any kid with questions, not just autistic kids, but it was written

with autism in mind. I have to say, having the book totally eases my mind.Miriam>> Oh my son is right smack in puberty....his whole body is changing..OMG. ...he is so tall now, hairy legs, voice cracking...etc. etc. I don't know if I like this stage. LOL.> > When my son was little...he liked to run around as we would say "nakey". But since he is now changing...he is very very private...> > Now, I got new worried...I opened the den door one day and there he was with his shorts and underwear down...he quickly started pulling them up and made some excuse...oh no...here we go...I hope I manage....My little boy is thinking

about sexual things....I don't think I like this........ ......... ......... ......... ......... .....> > Jan

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Ha, ha.... I just bought two Dr. Ruth books after reading interesting search history on computer for my 9 year old daughter. Now why isn't my 13 year old son looking this stuff up and why is my 9 year old girl.... Oh yeah, she is more mature than him in many other ways too.... I keep checking HIS search histories and just do hers every once in a while...

I told the kids "I keep getting a lot of pornography pop ups on my computer and they are not realistic things about sex, so I bought two books about sex so they would know what reality is, rather than the ridiculous stuff you see on the computer. Please be sure to read them sometime..." Both kids groaned, looked a tad embarassed, and I set the books alone on a shelf next to the TV that they frequent and left it at that. And, installed a mild parental control on the computer my daughter uses....

( ) Re: How do you discipline... "nakey" Date: Saturday, August 1, 2009, 11:42 AM

My son is starting to change physically and he's quite open about his curiosity about sex. He asks me questions loudly when we are out in public sometimes. It's overwhelming, to say the least. Having a sense of humor helps. I try to just answer his questions honestly no matter how people are looking at me.I bought a book called "taking care of myself". I think it is excellent. It's a series of social stories for autistic kids about hygiene, bodies, touch, and sex. Last week said a few things to me so I got out the book and gave him some reading. I could do the social stories with him, but I thought he might just want to read them. His reaction was, "In the future I should only masterbate somewhere private like in my room or the bathroom." Yup! That's the idea kiddo. Totally cracked me up.The stories are short and in very large print. I expect they are good for any kid with questions, not just autistic kids, but it was written with autism in mind. I have to say, having the book totally eases my mind.Miriam>> Oh my son is right smack in puberty....his whole body is changing..OMG. ...he is so tall now, hairy legs, voice cracking...etc. etc. I don't know if I like this stage. LOL.> > When my son was little...he liked to run around as we would say "nakey". But since he is now changing...he is very very private...> > Now, I got new worried...I opened the den door one day and there he was with his shorts and underwear down...he quickly started pulling them up and made some excuse...oh no...here we go...I hope I manage....My little boy is thinking about sexual things....I don't think I like this........ ......... ......... ......... ......... .....> > Jan

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I talk to him quite a bit about feeling uncomfortable about talking about sex in

public. I tell him, " It's a private thing. " I think the book with the social

stories has helped with this because when he sees something written down it is

somehow more real to him. I don't think he is intending to embarrass. I think

he doesn't get what embarrassment is at all.

Miriam

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> > My son is starting to change physically and he's quite open about his

curiosity about sex. He asks me questions loudly when we are out in public

sometimes. It's overwhelming, to say the least. Having a sense of humor helps.

I try to just answer his questions honestly no matter how people are looking at

me.

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