Re: Should I say something...

[Guest guest]

That teacher does not have a clue of the challenges that special need children faces

You are right for some people Burger King is the best they can do.

My aspie girl is ok in school. When she was born I dreamed of her being a doctor (I have several doctors in my family) now I change my dreams to, I just want her to be able to make a living and be self supportive. I will not be embarrass if she can just work at Burger King, I will be proud of her no matter of the circunstances. What matter to me is that she is going to try to make a living...

You are right, you should say something....

( ) Should I say something...I attended an IEP meeting with a friend for her 12 year old daughter. The girl is bipolar, PDDNOS, ODD, OCD, ADHD and more. Besides having unrealistic goals that I helped her get changed, the SPED teacher was insulting. Both the girl's parents are bipolar. The only job her father has ever had has been at burger king. While asking Sierra about her goals, the teacher said, "The choice is yours. You can grow up, skip college, drive a pinto and work at burger king OR you could have a nice car and a good paying job." That statement bothered me! Working with special ed kids, she should know better. Burger King might be the best they can do...and at 12, does she really need to focus on a career anyway? I am still trying to figure out how to handle the SPED teacher. Any input would be great!!

[Guest guest]

It obviously was inappropriate for the SPED to handle the situation in this way. 12 is actually transition age and it is the time when kids are asked to start thinking about career goals so you're not scrambling to plan at the last minute when it's late in the game and difficult to prepare. Maybe Burger King is maybe where some SPED kids wind up working, although to me, this says nothing about their abilities, but everything about our failure as educators and a community. Your friend's daughter should shoot high... maybe she wants to be a doctor and that's her interest. If she can't attain that or can't handle med school, then maybe it's possible for her to become a medical assistant or even a medical filing clerk. Get my point? Push them to help her achieve her dreams. I do agree that those dreams don't always have to involve traditional 4 year college, so push them to get creative and get to work finding alternatives if the ultimate goal looks like a difficult one to reach.

All the best,

From: mommy2threeintheup@...Date: Tue, 16 Mar 2010 16:28:05 +0000Subject: ( ) Should I say something...

I attended an IEP meeting with a friend for her 12 year old daughter. The girl is bipolar, PDDNOS, ODD, OCD, ADHD and more. Besides having unrealistic goals that I helped her get changed, the SPED teacher was insulting. Both the girl's parents are bipolar. The only job her father has ever had has been at burger king. While asking Sierra about her goals, the teacher said, "The choice is yours. You can grow up, skip college, drive a pinto and work at burger king OR you could have a nice car and a good paying job." That statement bothered me! Working with special ed kids, she should know better. Burger King might be the best they can do...and at 12, does she really need to focus on a career anyway? I am still trying to figure out how to handle the SPED teacher. Any input would be great!!

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[Guest guest]

Wow, can't believe a teacher said that! Hey, a Burger King manager probably

makes more than me, I work an office support job, data entry, etc. A person

can work their way up. Plus, you (and I) NEVER put down ANY job, all jobs are

good, someone has to do it! I'm glad someone is waiting to take my order at

Burger King, I appreciate it and their cleaning the place, all duties! I hope

they like working there.

Ohhhh, LOL, I would have said all that to my child on the way home too. On the

good side, glad you were there to help with the IEP!

If you are to meet again with her...well, up to you if you want to bring it up

and state your offense at what she said. Or you could wait until she again puts

her foot in her mouth and THEN point out both to her. Me, I would probably do

the latter. Because I would have already explained it all to my child.

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> I attended an IEP meeting with a friend for her 12 year old daughter. The

girl is bipolar, PDDNOS, ODD, OCD, ADHD and more. Besides having unrealistic

goals that I helped her get changed, the SPED teacher was insulting. Both the

girl's parents are bipolar. The only job her father has ever had has been at

burger king. While asking Sierra about her goals, the teacher said, " The

choice is yours. You can grow up, skip college, drive a pinto and work at

burger king OR you could have a nice car and a good paying job. " That statement

bothered me! Working with special ed kids, she should know better. Burger King

might be the best they can do...and at 12, does she really need to focus on a

career anyway? I am still trying to figure out how to handle the SPED teacher.

Any input would be great!!

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[Guest guest]

I think it is nice to help our kids decide what they want to do in the future but sometimes it gets taken too far. There is nothing wrong with working at BK if that is your chosen path or/alternately perhaps all that you can find or handle. I would probably speak up during the meeting and correct what is said so Sierra learns she does not have to decide her future career right this minute. Explain to her that we want her to have options so she can choose the kind of life she wants when she gets a little bit older. In other words, I would probably restate things better and maybe sped teacher will catch on. But ultimately, you need to make sure Sierra understands her options now. I agree, she should not be facing a career choice right now today. So guide her along a path that leaves her the most options for her ability and let her know that is why she should do these things. Ugh, what crappy remarks from the sped teacher. Let us know what you try and how it works!

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) Should I say something...

I attended an IEP meeting with a friend for her 12 year old daughter. The girl is bipolar, PDDNOS, ODD, OCD, ADHD and more. Besides having unrealistic goals that I helped her get changed, the SPED teacher was insulting. Both the girl's parents are bipolar. The only job her father has ever had has been at burger king. While asking Sierra about her goals, the teacher said, "The choice is yours. You can grow up, skip college, drive a pinto and work at burger king OR you could have a nice car and a good paying job." That statement bothered me! Working with special ed kids, she should know better. Burger King might be the best they can do...and at 12, does she really need to focus on a career anyway? I am still trying to figure out how to handle the SPED teacher. Any input would be great!!