Re: homeschool?

[Guest guest]

Thanks!

I lived in Vancouver for 9 years. It figures BC would have such a

great system. I miss it so much.

Thanks a lot.

> > > > >

> > > > > Does anyone here homeschool. We've had problem after problem

> > with

> > > > my son's kindergarten teacher ( and she also had him when he

was

> > 3).

> > > > Problems like letting other kids hit and kick him, no one

watching

> > > > him while at recess while he stands close to a gate that he

can

> > open

> > > > right next to a busy street, nobody bothering to make him keep

his

> > > > mittens on and his hands got severe frost bite.  I've

personally

> > seen

> > > > teachers aides grab kids by the back of the shirts and pick

them

> > up

> > > > off the ground if they've misbehaved. (don't truly know if the

> > > > parents allowed this or not , so not sure what to think) 

> > > > >   I've just lost it!  Everyday when I pick him up I ask " Did

> > Ethan

> > > > take him enzymes? "      ....they reply with......No he didn't

want

> > > > to.   After numerous times of telling them to withhold the

food

> > until

> > > > he takes them. He takes them within seconds when this is done

at 

> > > > home.  And everyday it is the same thing!

> > > > >   I really feel like I need to homeschool him. We are doing

a

> > lot

> > > > biomedically right now and I just feel like I should be

monitoring

> > > > him more and not to mention that he gets stomach aches and

> > headaches

> > > > and I who wants to work under those conditions...especially an

> > > > autistic 5 year old. I understand he needs to learn, and Ethan

> > loves

> > > > to do puzzles and color and all that kinder stuff, but when he

has

> > a

> > > > stomach or head ache he just wants to lay down while it

passes.

> > > > >  Anyone out there in this boat or can give

encouragement....I

> > need

> > > > it!

> > > > >

> > > > > Thanks!!!

> > > > > Kate

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

[Guest guest]

I homeschooled my son for 2nd and 3rd grades. It was great for

biomed, healthy diet, exercise, did all his neurodevelopmental, eye

and brain gym exercises,no flourecent lights, we worked at his pace.

I started a co-op with some church friends of typical kids and now my

son is in a class of 8 a co-op of 12. He loves it. I teach 3

classes. We will keep the co-op going through 8th grade and then

hopefully we can afford a christian school with services if he needs

them. The down on homeschooling was cabin fever and no services from

the district or county.

>

> Interesting thread on homeschooling. Appears that there are many

pros and cons to consider. The pros as I see it are that

homeschooling is convenient with BioMed; good for individualistic

attention and good for kids who don't mix well with other children to

the point that they are bullied, all salient points. I would never

have sent ours to school if she wasn't NT enough to fit in.

>

> I realize that many schools fall short of even basic acceptable

education and care. But I both agree and disagree that Mothers' know

their children best. While I agree with that statement basically, I

also know how difficult it is for Mothers' to be objective. What

Mother isn't biased when it comes to their child? I don't know one,

myself included.

>

> I have learned many valuable pieces of information about our little

one from capable educators that have added to our ability to continue

to make her well. Things I would have never known if she had not gone

to school. And I have also learned a lot of valuable information by

watching her with other NT kids. And, again, we have a good school,

with good teachers, so we have seen her make progress far beyond what

she would have at home.

>

> My point being that each parent has to make the best choice

available for their particular child, keeping in mind what the pros

and cons are of each school situation.

>

>

>

>

> Re: [ ] Homeschool?

>

>

>

> ----- Original Message -----

> From: Kate Dorn

>

> Does anyone here homeschool. We've had problem after problem with

my son's kindergarten teacher ( and she also had him when he was 3).

Problems like letting other kids hit and kick him, no one watching

him while at recess while he stands close to a gate that he can open

right next to a busy street, nobody bothering to make him keep his

mittens on and his hands got severe

>

> ===>I wouldn't recommend anyone put up with any of the above. I

don't recommend home schooling past the age of 8, I think kids'

worlds have to be large for optimal development. But regardless of

age, if you can't find an acceptable alternative, then I'd opt for

homeschooling any day over neglectful, abusive schools.===>

>

> I've personally seen teachers aides grab kids by the back of the

shirts and pick them up off the ground if they've misbehaved. (don't

truly know if the parents allowed this or not , so not sure what to

think)

>

> ===>Our little one goes to an absolutely excellent public school.

I have spent a lot of time in the school and while I've never seen

any teacher or principal pick a kid up by the back of the shirt, if a

child *is* misbehaving and verbal messages are not getting through,

they first try several teachers converging on the child at one time

and if that fails, they are *not* gentle.

>

> I personally agree with this, discipline must be maintained so

that learning can take place. And although I don't agree with abuse,

if a child knows the consequences of their actions and chooses to

misbehave...they have chosen the consequences.

>

>

>

> I've just lost it! Everyday when I pick him up I ask " Did Ethan

take him enzymes? " ....they reply with......No he didn't want to.

After numerous times of telling them to withhold the food until he

takes them. He takes them within seconds when this is done at home.

And everyday it is the same thing!

> I really feel like I need to homeschool him. We are doing a lot

biomedically right now and I just feel like I should be monitoring

him more and not to mention that he gets stomach aches and headaches

and I who wants to work under those conditions...especially an

autistic 5 year old. I understand he needs to learn, and Ethan loves

to do puzzles and color and all that kinder stuff, but when he has a

stomach or head ache he just wants to lay down while it passes.

> Anyone out there in this boat or can give encouragement....I need

it!

>

> Thanks!!!

> Kate

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sonya, it sounds wonderful at your house! And what you say is so

true. There is a world of difference between using a curriculum with

structured segments, and letting go of that and literally throwing your

trust to your children that they will learn everything they need to and

that all is well. It is a big leap for many in our culture who are so

conditioned to rely on an imposed structure (myself of the past included).

Then I watch my kid who couldn't speak understandable language until he

was nearly 6 talk to me about politics, quantum physics, animal science,

Roman history, architecture, build complex robots, warriors, ships and

so forth with his lego's, all from his own imagination; when I watch him

devise complex games for his younger brother, enthusiastically offer to

do the dishes, come up with business ideas, want to rescue animals -- it

is a far cry from the guy who cried every day at school, who thought he

was stupid, imperfect, faulted.

He's just the opposite, and unschooling has shown us all that about him.

It is all about trust.

Miriam

Sonya Galik wrote:

>

>

> ,

> It's really apples and oranges with schooling and unschooling.

> The closest replication to unschooling in a school environment is a

> democratic school (such as Summerhill) or a co-op. But only if the child

> chooses what they want to study and IF they want to study. Unschooling is

> child led based on thought that children instinctively know what they are

> attracted to and are gifted in. That they should be trusted and respected

> to make their own decisions. They have freedom to choose what they want to

> learn and who they want to be around. It takes a great deal of trust and

> respect for them. My kids are ALWAYS learning.

> For us it's more like real life. I have made a business where I choose who

> I work with and what I want to do. I have freedom in my scheduling if we

> want to take off for a snow day or go to the coast during the week when the

> hotels are cheaper or visit family out of state we can. I doubt I will ever

> work in a corporate environment again. But it's a different lifestyle than

> 8-5 (or 8:30-4:00 school).

> One of the great benefits of living in this country. So many choices and

> options.

> For our family, schooling cannot provide that environment.

>

> Schooling is

[Guest guest]

----- Original Message -----

From: Sonya Galik

,

It's really apples and oranges with schooling and unschooling.

The closest replication to unschooling in a school environment is a

democratic school (such as Summerhill) or a co-op. But only if the child

chooses what they want to study and IF they want to study.

===>This is the type of school I sent my dd to, and there were positives and

negatives to it.

That's my point, all schooling or unschooling options contain both pros and

cons, people just decide that the cons to their option don't matter as much or

that the pros are more beneficial, but they all have flaws. I have had patients

from all the different schooling option and there are good kids from all of

them, and problem kids from all of them.===>

My kids are ALWAYS learning.

===>All kids are always learning, it's what they are learning that is negative

or positive.

Glad your option works well for you and your family.

[Guest guest]

Kate, I homeschool our 12 year old and our 7 year old who has ASD. I

don't know how I would monitor his diet or get him to take all of his

supplements if he wasn't with me all day. He is prone to wandering

and running off and he is also a climber with no fear of jumping off

of things, no matter how high. I wouldn't trust him to even the best

of public school teachers, because they have all those other kids to

watch and my son really takes 100% of my attention to keep him in one

piece. Doesn't sound like your son's teachers are giving him the

attention and care that he needs. You may even find that he learns

better through homeschooling because there are less distractions.

Very best of luck. If you decide to homeschool, I do not think you

will regret it. If your state has a homeschool association, they may

have a website that would help you with procedures for notifying his

school since you are deciding to homeschool mid-school year.

Jean

> > > > >

> > > > > Does anyone here homeschool. We've had problem after

problem

> > with

> > > > my son's kindergarten teacher ( and she also had him when he

was

> > 3).

> > > > Problems like letting other kids hit and kick him, no one

watching

> > > > him while at recess while he stands close to a gate that he

can

> > open

> > > > right next to a busy street, nobody bothering to make him

keep his

> > > > mittens on and his hands got severe frost bite.  I've

personally

> > seen

> > > > teachers aides grab kids by the back of the shirts and pick

them

> > up

> > > > off the ground if they've misbehaved. (don't truly know if

the

> > > > parents allowed this or not , so not sure what to think) 

> > > > >   I've just lost it!  Everyday when I pick him up I

ask " Did

> > Ethan

> > > > take him enzymes? "      ....they reply with......No he didn't

want

> > > > to.   After numerous times of telling them to withhold the

food

> > until

> > > > he takes them. He takes them within seconds when this is done

at 

> > > > home.  And everyday it is the same thing!

> > > > >   I really feel like I need to homeschool him. We are doing

a

> > lot

> > > > biomedically right now and I just feel like I should be

monitoring

> > > > him more and not to mention that he gets stomach aches and

> > headaches

> > > > and I who wants to work under those conditions...especially

an

> > > > autistic 5 year old. I understand he needs to learn, and

Ethan

> > loves

> > > > to do puzzles and color and all that kinder stuff, but when

he has

> > a

> > > > stomach or head ache he just wants to lay down while it

passes.

> > > > >  Anyone out there in this boat or can give

encouragement....I

> > need

> > > > it!

> > > > >

> > > > > Thanks!!!

> > > > > Kate

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

[Guest guest]

It is a big leap and this is our first year. Once we got past the " are we

doing the right thing " and shock of teachers, friends and other

families...we slid into it naturally. Such a relief from all the stress we

were experiencing in school. What helped tremendously was attending an

unschooling conference the week after we pulled them from school. I saw

that these kids were smart, independent, creative, confident and knew we

were going to be ok. We started networking and meeting other likeminded

families. Honestly, I thought unschooling was more like unparenting. And

nothing could be further from the truth. We're more like facilitators for

our children. They are very open to new things. So we expose them to a

great deal of things and if they show interest we find ways for them to

experience or learn that with as many senses and different avenues as

possible. My son who had social issues at school, has several friends now

and they are very loving and tolerant of their differences and likes and

their parents treat our kids with respect. They have absolutely blossomed.

My oldest has expressed an interest in going to an advanced college program

that starts at 16. So if he chooses to do that he'll have to bone up to

meet the requirements. Algebra, great SAT scores. We'll take it as it

comes.

[Guest guest]

cabin fever...yeah, it was nice that our district school offered that

he could attend any classes I wanted him to, and the secretary

specifically suggested music and gym class. How kind of them in

Oregon, in Kentucky they just kicked us out on our butts when I

decided to homeschool. At least some interaction is necessary

though, I agree, whether a sport, fine art, or play

date...something. It seems rare to find the ideal situation, but you

keep looking and you do what works for your family.

> >

> > Interesting thread on homeschooling. Appears that there are many

> pros and cons to consider. The pros as I see it are that

> homeschooling is convenient with BioMed; good for individualistic

> attention and good for kids who don't mix well with other children

to

> the point that they are bullied, all salient points. I would never

> have sent ours to school if she wasn't NT enough to fit in.

> >

> > I realize that many schools fall short of even basic acceptable

> education and care. But I both agree and disagree that Mothers'

know

> their children best. While I agree with that statement basically, I

> also know how difficult it is for Mothers' to be objective. What

> Mother isn't biased when it comes to their child? I don't know one,

> myself included.

> >

> > I have learned many valuable pieces of information about our

little

> one from capable educators that have added to our ability to

continue

> to make her well. Things I would have never known if she had not

gone

> to school. And I have also learned a lot of valuable information by

> watching her with other NT kids. And, again, we have a good school,

> with good teachers, so we have seen her make progress far beyond

what

> she would have at home.

> >

> > My point being that each parent has to make the best choice

> available for their particular child, keeping in mind what the pros

> and cons are of each school situation.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Re: [ ] Homeschool?

> >

> >

> >

> > ----- Original Message -----

> > From: Kate Dorn

> >

> > Does anyone here homeschool. We've had problem after problem

with

> my son's kindergarten teacher ( and she also had him when he was

3).

> Problems like letting other kids hit and kick him, no one watching

> him while at recess while he stands close to a gate that he can

open

> right next to a busy street, nobody bothering to make him keep his

> mittens on and his hands got severe

> >

> > ===>I wouldn't recommend anyone put up with any of the above. I

> don't recommend home schooling past the age of 8, I think kids'

> worlds have to be large for optimal development. But regardless of

> age, if you can't find an acceptable alternative, then I'd opt for

> homeschooling any day over neglectful, abusive schools.===>

> >

> > I've personally seen teachers aides grab kids by the back of

the

> shirts and pick them up off the ground if they've misbehaved.

(don't

> truly know if the parents allowed this or not , so not sure what to

> think)

> >

> > ===>Our little one goes to an absolutely excellent public

school.

> I have spent a lot of time in the school and while I've never seen

> any teacher or principal pick a kid up by the back of the shirt, if

a

> child *is* misbehaving and verbal messages are not getting through,

> they first try several teachers converging on the child at one time

> and if that fails, they are *not* gentle.

> >

> > I personally agree with this, discipline must be maintained so

> that learning can take place. And although I don't agree with

abuse,

> if a child knows the consequences of their actions and chooses to

> misbehave...they have chosen the consequences.

> >

> >

> >

> > I've just lost it! Everyday when I pick him up I ask " Did Ethan

> take him enzymes? " ....they reply with......No he didn't want to.

> After numerous times of telling them to withhold the food until he

> takes them. He takes them within seconds when this is done at home.

> And everyday it is the same thing!

> > I really feel like I need to homeschool him. We are doing a lot

> biomedically right now and I just feel like I should be monitoring

> him more and not to mention that he gets stomach aches and

headaches

> and I who wants to work under those conditions...especially an

> autistic 5 year old. I understand he needs to learn, and Ethan

loves

> to do puzzles and color and all that kinder stuff, but when he has

a

> stomach or head ache he just wants to lay down while it passes.

> > Anyone out there in this boat or can give encouragement....I

need

> it!

> >

> > Thanks!!!

> > Kate

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

We homeschool. It was the only way to accomodate all of our sick children and

their special needs. Plus we unschool, don't take records, and are not members

of the Homeschool legal defense fund.

[Guest guest]

We started homeschooling after grade 6. We were living in Germany

where homeschooling isn't allowed or I would have started a lot

sooner. It made life a lot easier for both me the parent and her the

child. Unfortunately you can't expect anyone at school to look after

your child and give them supplements. Would be nice but it's not

reality. It would be a very rare teacher who would remember when

she's got a lot of children to look after. No one can do it like you

can as a Mom.

School can be a stressful place, not just with mean kids and sloppy

teachers but there's a lot of chemicals as well, paint, markers,

smells from laundry detergent and drier sheets, shampoos, floor

cleaners, perfumes, hairsprays, etc. Kids trade food and no one

monitors that. Schools are full of bacteria, viruses and usually at

least once a year, head lice. Yuck! (tea tree oil works great for

that, LOL).

School isn't exactly the most conducive place for learning. My

daughter did well in school but also had those tendencies too refuse

to stop what she was doing because she wanted to finish it, she'd

question the teacher about dumb stuff she was teaching, etc. You're

not supposed to question authority since the teacher is supposed to be

right. It's all part of the brain washing process children in our

society go through. Problem is autistic or Asberger's kids are often

really smart and they take things exactly as they're said. They're

missing that subtle something, not sure what to call it now, that

something that stops them from speaking up. I guess some people would

call it respect and people in authority positions tend to get very

offended and want to make examples of them for misbehaving rather than

just answer a question that's actually legitimate.

Kiyosaki wrote an excellent book called If you want to be Rich

and Happy Don't go to School. Not sure if it's still in print since

they don't have it listed at Amazon but it's worth ordering and

reading. Most geniuses and billionaires have little formal education.

I went through the whole list of billionaires listen on Forbes last

time the list came out and checked their educations. At least half

had never been to college and some didn't even graduate from high

school. The ability to get smart and earn money has nothing to do

with school.

I know a girl who did from 0-grade 13 math in 6 weeks when she decided

to become an engineer and needed a certificate for her math. She had

never picked up a math book until age 18 and was completely unschooled

her whole life. The brain can pick things up very quickly when it

wants to.

Learning is best done when children want to learn (and they do want to

learn, it's natural), not in a forced environment. Testing is so

bogus. Many kids freeze up and do poorly even though they are very

smart. Some just memorize their way through school and then forget it

all. It astounds me how dumb some of my daughter's friends are that go

to school. They get good grades but they don't know how to think for

themselves.

Hope you can get a copy of the book. It's one of those that I loaned

out a few years ago and never got back or I'd send it to you. My

unschooling books all got " lost " . I guess they're too good to give back!

All the best with whatever you decide. Despite my not liking the

system, there are children who love school and do well with it. Some

families have one child at home and one at school. Whatever works!

Sharon Hoehner

www.sharethecause.com/detoxqueen

>

> Does anyone here homeschool. We've had problem after problem with my

son's kindergarten teacher ( and she also had him when he was 3).

Problems like letting other kids hit and kick him, no one watching him

while at recess while he stands close to a gate that he can open right

next to a busy street, nobody bothering to make him keep his mittens

on and his hands got severe frost bite.  I've personally seen teachers

aides grab kids by the back of the shirts and pick them up off the

ground if they've misbehaved. (don't truly know if the parents allowed

this or not , so not sure what to think) 

>   I've just lost it!  Everyday when I pick him up I ask " Did Ethan

take him enzymes? "      ....they reply with......No he didn't want

to.   After numerous times of telling them to withhold the food until

he takes them. He takes them within seconds when this is done at 

home.  And everyday it is the same thing!

>   I really feel like I need to homeschool him. We are doing a lot

biomedically right now and I just feel like I should be monitoring him

more and not to mention that he gets stomach aches and headaches and I

who wants to work under those conditions...especially an autistic 5

year old. I understand he needs to learn, and Ethan loves to do

puzzles and color and all that kinder stuff, but when he has a stomach

or head ache he just wants to lay down while it passes.

>  Anyone out there in this boat or can give encouragement....I need it!

>

> Thanks!!!

> Kate

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I have eight kids, all AS and all are homeschooled. I also have AS and PTSD, Anxiety Disorder and Depression.

--

Chesa Devon

( ) homeschool?

Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of school.We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hardMiranda

[Guest guest]

The things to consider are:

1. If he is somewhat oppostional at home, you may have to set

up a system to keep him focused and doing his work, like a

token system.

2. If is the kind that likes to control you it may get worse.

He may try to negotitate with you to let him play first and

than he will do work. This can get out of control.

3. You need to provide consistency if he is oppositional. If

you have a bad day and want to rest, he will want that

same control and it can escalate.

4. If he doesn't like to do schoolwork he may not like it

at home either.

5. You can try over the summer with one subject and see

if for a month will he cooperate. Lots of AS kids

go to extended school year so it is not like you

will take away his whole summer.

6. If he is very cooperate and somewhat the passive type,

if he listens to you and likes to do work it may

work out. If he can get to a gym class like karate

and join the boy scouts he would see boys his age

a few times a week.

Pam

>

> Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled

their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of

school.

>

> We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder

which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload

plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory

processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.

>

> I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.

>

> I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would

have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too.

Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hard

>

> Miranda

>

[Guest guest]

he's the oppositional type unfortunately, which is the big worry. He is a

bright cookie though and loves to acquire knowledge. But frustratingly rigid

and arrogant.

Miranda

> >

> > Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled

their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of

school.

> >

> > We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder

which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload

plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory

processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.

> >

> > I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.

> >

> > I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would

have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too.

Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hard

> >

> > Miranda

> >

>

[Guest guest]

What state are you in? In Va they have a program that is typically for elderly called the ADCC. This program allows the parents to hire someone to come into the home and help care for the child. This person can care for them while your there, while your out, etc.. I homeschool my son who is also 7, but will be in the 2nd/3rd grade this year. I suggest you call your local Social Service office and see if they offer a program like that. Good luck! TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...> Sent: Wed, June 16, 2010 7:45:45 PMSubject: ( ) homeschool?

Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of school.We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hardMiranda

[Guest guest]

What does ADCC stand for?-- Sent from my Palm PreOn Jun 17, 2010 8:51, <teamjakob06@...> wrote:

What state are you in? In Va they have a program that is typically for elderly called the ADCC. This program allows the parents to hire someone to come into the home and help care for the child. This person can care for them while your there, while your out, etc.. I homeschool my son who is also 7, but will be in the 2nd/3rd grade this year. I suggest you call your local Social Service office and see if they offer a program like that. Good luck! TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming > Sent: Wed, June 16, 2010 7:45:45 PMSubject: ( ) homeschool?

Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of school.We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hardMiranda

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Miranda,

I know you're going to get much better advice than what I'm about to say,,,,but do you think that since school is now out, that you could take some time to see if meds could help him a bit with rage and anxiety? I didn't know if you mentioned that you deal with a child psych or not........but maybe working with a doc could help a bit?Then,,,,if you got some of the emotions hopefully under a bit more control, the anxiety wouldnt' be soooo bad at school come fall?

I'm sorry that there isn't a quick fix when we need one. Ugh.

I am not AS so I think it's admirable that you see the conflict if you brought him home to homeschool.....and are looking to other options.

We brought our son home for a Virtual School, but like I said, I'm not AS, so am not in your shoes. All I know is that, the minute we told him that he wouldn't be going back and that he'd be at home to learn,,,,,,,he changed. It was then that we saw just how bad his anxiety and frustration over what went on in school was!!!

I keep thinking that someone on this group said that their son had a tutor. I believe they met at the library????? The child wasn't IN school, so much anxiety was gone,,,,,but they were still being taught. Would this be an option? I have no idea as to how to go about asking for this.....maybe one of the gals on this site remembers.

Anyway,,,,,,good luck and hugs to you. Keep us posted.

Attack and enjoy every minute of life.

Try everything.....protect everything.

Robin

From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming@...>Subject: ( ) homeschool? Date: Wednesday, June 16, 2010, 6:45 PM

Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of school.We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hardMiranda

[Guest guest]

what is PTSD?

From: Chesa <toliantown@...> Sent: Thu, June 17, 2010 1:55:52 AMSubject: Re: ( ) homeschool?

I have eight kids, all AS and all are homeschooled. I also have AS and PTSD, Anxiety Disorder and Depression.

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Chesa Devon

( ) homeschool?

Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of school.We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hardMiranda

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On Thu, Jun 17, 2010 at 2:55 AM, Chesa <toliantown@...> wrote:

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Anxiety Disorder and Depression.

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> Chesa Devon

Chesa, let me just say Holy Crumoly!!! I don't know what a Crumoly is

but it's AMAZING!!!

Jen

[Guest guest]

It stands for Adult Day Care Center, but strangely they give waviers to those who qualify to have someone come in and help you care for your child as they would a senior citizen. But that is what they call it ADCC.. TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: Robyn Iuliano <hamptonroadsaspergers@...>" " <Aspergers Treatment >Sent: Thu, June 17, 2010 8:54:47 AMSubject: Re: ( ) homeschool?

What does ADCC stand for?

-- Sent from my Palm Pre

On Jun 17, 2010 8:51, <teamjakob06> wrote:

What state are you in? In Va they have a program that is typically for elderly called the ADCC. This program allows the parents to hire someone to come into the home and help care for the child. This person can care for them while your there, while your out, etc.. I homeschool my son who is also 7, but will be in the 2nd/3rd grade this year. I suggest you call your local Social Service office and see if they offer a program like that. Good luck! TeamJakobSupport children with Aspergers,With your support their is no limit to Jakob's success!!

From: miranda.flemming <miranda.flemming> Sent: Wed, June 16, 2010 7:45:45 PMSubject: ( ) homeschool?

Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of school.We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hardMiranda

[Guest guest]

Yes, I successfully homeschool my son with autism along with two of his

siblings. I am organized and have a set schedule. I also make sure that nearly

every afternoon we have something to go and do - whether it is a group

homeschool class or a social event.

Some states have online charter schools. I live in Ohio and can pick from a

number of them. I don't use this option, but it is a good one for parents who

feel like they need this organization.

I had severe social anxiety in my early 20's, and had to confront it. I was

about 30 when I started to come out of my shell. I surround myself now with a

lot of people. I found joining a mother's group helped a lot.

L.

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> Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled

their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of

school.

>

> We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder

which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload

plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory

processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.

>

> I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.

>

> I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I would

have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like too.

Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hard

>

> Miranda

>

[Guest guest]

I think the key thing is to relieve his anxiety. The only ways I see would be

meds with special accommodations or homeschool. Has anyone succeeded in

relieving extreme anxiety in a child attending school. Meds don't help with

sensory issues?

Miranda

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> > > Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully homeschooled

their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd year of

school.

> > >

> > > We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive disorder

which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory overload

plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has auditory

processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.

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> > > I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.

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> > > I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I

would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like

too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hard

> > >

> > > Miranda

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> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Miranda,

We pulled our son from public school after 7th grade (bullying,

stress) and enrolled him in a small private farm school. The school

follows a homeschool curriculum with 4 amazing teachers and about 22

kids for grades 6-10. It was in some ways difficult because it was a

bit more free-flowing but overall the experience has been great. We

actually moved so we could attend the school. They work with people if

finances are an issue. They are located in Sperryville , VA. I believe

my son is the only one with AS. I don't know where you live but there

may be something like this where you live? Feel free to email me if

you would like more info cmirabella@....

Cheryl

[Guest guest]

I knew of somebody in my school system who after I withdrew my son was able to

get a sensory room for her kid. They took over most of the PTA room, and the

tongues wagged bitterly. They put in quite a few things that really helped her

child. I heard, once again via tongues wagging, that her son is doing very well

right now and no longer needs the room. Now, other kids with autism are using

it, and it is helping.

You have to have a strong behavioral plan in place to help with anxiety. My son

could not stand other kids making noise when he was trying to focus, and he

would throw pencil erasers at any child who made noise. He should not have done

that, but he did not respond to the punishment of losing his recess by ceasing

the behavior. He simply voluntarily stopped going to recess since in his mind

it was something he could no longer count on getting. Had he been trained to

work in an environment with noise then he could have functioned better. They

could only punish, though. They were taking his recess away for everything.

The first year we were home he suffered a lot with the noise his brother made,

but because he had unlimited time was still able to get his stuff done. Now,

three years later, he has 3 siblings making a lot of noise, and he can do his

work in a noisy environment - very important for the future workplace.

>

> I think the key thing is to relieve his anxiety. The only ways I see would be

meds with special accommodations or homeschool. Has anyone succeeded in

relieving extreme anxiety in a child attending school. Meds don't help with

sensory issues?

>

> Miranda

[Guest guest]

~ We had the same issues with public school, and I agree with you about

the fact that public schools just whiz through stuff, not even explaining why

they had gotten them wrong, and then they quickly move on to another subject.

Our son (going into 11th grade) has struggled with algebra since day one of that

particular subject and grammar has always been a hard subject for him. He

finished all his subjects other than math and grammar before the end of May,

then we were able to have time to concentrate on the rest. I'm sure you son is

much happier now ~ I know ours is.

Dawn Marie

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> > thank you for your encouragement. I agree that having a set

timetable/structure would work best for us, so that time doesn't slip away on us

(also my boy does better with structure/routine)

> >

> > Miranda

>

[Guest guest]

I know my son will respond positively to homeschooling, but I am worried about

my mental health being a carer of a challenging child 24/7. My husband has the

same concerns - he is doubtful I can do it - have the emotional reserves to cope

Miranda

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> > > > > Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully

homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd

year of school.

> > > > >

> > > > > We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive

disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory

overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has

auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.

> > > > >

> > > > > I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.

> > > > >

> > > > > I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know I

would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't like

too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hard

> > > > >

> > > > > Miranda

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[Guest guest]

Hi Miranda ~

I was concerned about the same thing. He'd been a challenge since birth, and I

was so drained emotionally that I was very concerned as to whether I could

handle it. Surprisingly, half the stress I was dealing with was coping with his

issues in public school ~ getting called by the teacher, problems, bullying,

being behind in certain subjects, struggling with poor organizational and time

management skills, you name it. With home schooling, you are on your own

schedule, you son will be a whole lot calmer and feel more in control of his

destiny, and just overall feel better. Not that we don't have our off days, but

that's the great thing about home schooling ~ some days we get through quite a

bit, and the off days we do a bit less than normal. You and your son are in

control. I'm not saying it's not challenging at times, but my stress level is

way lower than it was prior to pulling him out of public school.

Dawn Marie

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> > > > > > Is there anyone here that is AS parent that has successfully

homeschooled their AS child? My child hates school so much. He's 7 and in 3rd

year of school.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > We both have sensory issues, prone to anxiety. I have depressive

disorder which is managed by diet and meds. Son is easily frustrated (sensory

overload plus rigid thinking) and has rage episodes (diet helps a lot). He has

auditory processing disorder. Not on meds - yet.

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> > > > > > I actually trained as high school teacher, but didn't cope.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I'm worried that I might feel trapped having him home 24-7 and know

I would have to make effort to go out of social interactions (because I don't

like too. Plus I can be rather disorganised. Financially it would be hard

> > > > > >

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