Guest guest Posted October 2, 2000 Report Share Posted October 2, 2000 In a message dated 10/2/00 3:56:53 AM Pacific Daylight Time, egroups writes: << He definitely wants to control his own education (self advocacy in a big way!) but we hold firm that he needs to be able to follow directions and not go off when he feels like it. This is some of what he is protesting, I am sure. >> MB: 's the SAME way.....it's more of a control issue with him.....depends on who' trying to make him do something....sometimes, he will do things for the teachers and not for me, and other times, vice versa.....same with DH and I.....he can get to do some things that I can't.....therapists have all agreed does NOT have any sensory issues, just control issues....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2006 Report Share Posted February 7, 2006 well let me tell this to all.. praying is ok .. asking God is fine .. but accepting and saying ill b strong and face it all together no maattter wat is the real thing ,, ur faith in urself is the most important thing .. and trust me .. get a life guys ... stand up.. pull urself together .. i was miserable until decemr 6th 2005 .. but that night i sat up long stairng at my crutch .. and i was tellin my self tomorrow i willl be using it to college .. and ppl will mock me .. ppl will say things .. but if im weak .. ill fall .. and ill cry ,,, and nag .. i sat all night .. and stared at it .. and at last i told myself that i will holld u all my life mayb .. or maybe only in winters ..and i held it ..and i said tht u r my friend,...and i accept myself to be disabled today .. and hereafter ill never feel sorry for it ... and i know no matter wat happens to me .. i will prove that im still the best .. ill work harder ..and work longer on my studies.. and trust me the next day wen i went .,. i had no moral support from any1.. ppl looked at me and some asked me .. others were like now where did u jump from.. i was like nowhere:) .. and i was strong .. and here i am today .. 2months later.. im still with it .. and have no pity on myself.. working harder on my book .. using all my talents .. and developin myself .. so that i can still be btr than those who mock me .. and who pity me .. im not to b pitied .. im here stronger than the normal ppl .. and we all are coz thaz y we all are alive .. we all r facing this trouble ..a nd helping each other .. stand up .. dust your clothes and believe.. \ God bless u all .. take care advokam <advokam@...> wrote: In the deepest, darkest moments of my life thus far, God put a sign on a bathroom stall that read (I'll have to paraphrase as I didn't think to rip the sign off the wall)...Life is a series of lessons; those that are not learned will be repeated.I'm still working on submission myself...kam>> You know when I pray, God just tells me that I haven't learned the > lesson yet. I am NOT in control. Relax. virus scanning helps detect nasty viruses! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2007 Report Share Posted January 19, 2007 oops http://www.wayimmune.org/colleague/skill05/use03.htm At 10:39 AM 1/19/2007 -0500, you wrote: >I was definately in control in this dream and the >people around me didn't seem to like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2010 Report Share Posted April 16, 2010 My son (also Aspergers and ADHD) had the exact same problems when he tried soccer. Off the field he is very kind and does pretty well socially. But on the soccer field he became a demon. He learned the rules of the game very quickly, but it just sent him over the edge when he felt other kids weren't following them the way he thought they should. His mind was trying to keep track of what everyone else on the field was doing, whether they were doing it right, etc. It was just too overwhelming for him to "go with the flow" and focus only on his own performance. He would accuse other kids of cheating if they accidentally touched the ball with a hand, he would call names and scream if someone kicked the ball out of bounds, etc.We came to the conclusion that since is such a rules-driven child who wants to have everyone and everything follow the rules, that soccer was just not a good fit for him right now. His doctor told us that team sports can sometimes be tough for Asperger's children because they tend to want to be in control of their situation at all times. However, does extremely well at non-team sports like karate, tennis and swimming, where he can focus entirely on his own performance and not get caught up in worrying about what everyone else on the team is doing. He's still around other kids when he's participating in these activities, so he still has social interaction. His anxiety level is much lower and he can actually have fun and get that sense of accomplishment.My humble advice to you would be that if soccer is frustrating for your son and upsetting for you, try something else and don't feel a bit bad that soccer didn't work out this time around. Down the road he may be more ready for team sports.Hang in there!PattiFrom: ducksgirl35 <ducksgirl35@...> Sent: Fri, April 16, 2010 10:47:31 AMSubject: ( ) Control My son was diagnosed in 2008 with Aspergers and ADHD. Recently he started soccer and obviously his social skills are not there. He starts to spit, call names, etc. He is very hard to control and I end up losing it...I start to get upset and eventually cry. What do I do to help him get in control? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2010 Report Share Posted April 17, 2010 Is it possible that soccer isn't his thing? My own son is very uncoordinated and i wouldn't be the least bit surprised if he acted out if I tried to get him to participate in soccer. In fact -- his teacher had the kids doing some kind of soccer math -- guess what -- my son refused to participate. Not only is he uncoordinated with sports -- but math is not a good subject for him - so it was no surprise to me, his guidance counselor or the physical therapist that he didn't want to participate! Anyway -- if this is the only place you are finding these behaviors --I'd eliminate the soccer and consider something else like karate or swimming if you're looking for physical activity. If you're looking to work on teamwork -- consider a special needs class ... Here in NYC we have a soccer organization (http://www.supersoccerstars.com/index.html) that runs special needs soccer. If this is behavior that you're seeing elsewhere, consider a behaviorist to work with you and your family. Good luck, > > My son was diagnosed in 2008 with Aspergers and ADHD. Recently he started soccer and obviously his social skills are not there. He starts to spit, call names, etc. He is very hard to control and I end up losing it...I start to get upset and eventually cry. What do I do to help him get in control? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2010 Report Share Posted April 17, 2010 This is really great advice. My son likes things that are individually based versus team-based. When he was in baseball, he would even call his own teammates stinky players. Whenever my kid has to do anything group-based even academically, he hates it. > We came to the conclusion that since is such a rules-driven child who wants to have everyone and everything follow the rules, that soccer was just not a good fit for him right now. His doctor told us that team sports can sometimes be tough for Asperger's children because they tend to want to be in control of their situation at all times. However, does extremely well at non-team sports like karate, tennis and swimming, where he can focus entirely on his own performance and not get caught up in worrying about what everyone else on the team is doing. He's still around other kids when he's participating in these activities, so he still has social interaction. His anxiety level is much lower and he can actually have fun and get that sense of accomplishment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 17, 2010 Report Share Posted April 17, 2010 My son has this problem as well, and isn't in any sport yet. He wants to play y basketball next year, but I am worried that it won't work out. I feel for ya and hope someone else has some answers on here. > > My son was diagnosed in 2008 with Aspergers and ADHD. Recently he started soccer and obviously his social skills are not there. He starts to spit, call names, etc. He is very hard to control and I end up losing it...I start to get upset and eventually cry. What do I do to help him get in control? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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