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Theresa,

Yes, my work fax number is 201-413-0015. Please send it to attention to " TC

Chao " . Thanks a lot. What kind of role does the Protection and Advocacy Agency

play? Do they not only keep a list of legal rights, but also enforce it? I left

several messages to them and receive no response yet.

TC

" Theresa " <pudding@...> on 05/03/99 04:29:22 PM

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TC

I have talked to the school psychologist about the 504 plan.She is going to send

me two copies of it.I don't have a fax machine,but I may be able to get my son

or husband to fax you a copy if you have access to one.She also said you may

want to go ahead and get the Protection and Advocacy Agency involved early.She

said they are a great agency and are right on top of things legally.If you call

them,she said they will usually be at the school the next day.You can use them

in a friendly capacity for information.Hope this helps.

Theresa

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Hi Judy

This is Terry in WI

It doesn't sound right to me. I don't believe that grades are the

onlycriteria.

We have a IEP for my daughter ( which is different from a 504 plan ) because

She toe walks and it was affecting her physical development ( playground

activities )and consequently her self esteem. Her grades have always been

excellent All " A's " except Py Ed.

The education kids receive at school is more than the 3 Rs. It's also

physical, emotional and social development.

I will send you the links that I have concerning this subject and I would

guess that if you have a formal dx that he qualifies for a 504 plan which

can be nothing more than time to leave the room to compose himself or a

" safe " person to talk to.

I get so tired of hearing things like this, The educators are supposed to be

the ones with all the knowledge. If they would only realize that the more

the teachers help our kids the less anxiety they will have, the fewer

symptoms they will have which means that the teachers will have to deal with

less. Why is this so hard for some of them to understand ?????

Good Luck and be STRONG

Terry in WI

504

>From: " Judith C. Lovchik " <jlovchik@...>

>

>Dan's therapist said I should get a 504 for him, so I called the

>guidance office. The counsellor said there was not a chance, because he

>got all As and Bs first term. Unless a student is getting more than one

>D, they don't give 504s. Does this sound right?

>

>Judy

>

>Kathy Hammes wrote:

>>

>> From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

>>

>> Hi Dana:

>>

>> Please don't beat yourself up about the time spent/wasted in dealing

>> with

>> OCD. For all of us this is a learning process. For our family it has

>> literally taken years, months and months to figure out there was a

>> real

>> problem, months to figure out what it was and then over a year to find

>> an

>> effective treatment team.

>>

>> At first I also set up Steve's 504 to allow avoidance and prevented

>> teachers from interacting therapeutically with him. Once he was able

>> to

>> learn CBT then we changed the 504 to reinforce his bossing back and

>> involve

>> the teachers more therapeutically with him. It is just too early to

>> set up

>> a 504 with zero enabling until our kids have learned the necessary

>> skills

>> to boss back OCD on their own. It is counterproductive for our kids

>> to get

>> punished for OCD behaviors they are only just starting to learn how to

>> control.

>>

>> Changing the 504 has been a bit confusing for the teachers who seem

>> more

>> accustomed to doing the same thing for a long time. However each year

>> there is a new team of teachers and you can start again at square one

>> depending on Ava's progress with her CBT/E & RP. The perseverating

>> behaviors

>> seem particularly irksome to the teachers. For Steve this would

>> manifest

>> in having to have the last word in classroom discussions. The

>> teachers

>> really appreciated working on getting him to reduce these behaviors.

>>

>> We have also faced the structured vs. non-structured/less structured

>> educational experience. Strangely enough the structured seems to work

>> the

>> best. What we do is use humor about the situations when the teachers

>> do

>> stuff which is not the best approach for managing OCD. Luckily

>> Steve's CBT

>> therapist has helped the teachers with suggestions about how to handle

>> his

>> OCD sxs in the classroom and this seems to allay their fears. They

>> seem

>> relieved to have a non-parent resource to answer their questions.

>>

>> Ava has already come a long way and will continue to make strides

>> against

>> her OCD. We notice every few months that Steve is managing things

>> better

>> than before, it is surprising how lengthy yet persistent the

>> improvement is.

>>

>> Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

>> kathyh@...

>>

>> At 04:11 PM 01/23/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>> >From: Dana Carvalho <clayvon@...>

>> >

>> >Hi Kathy,

>> >This really is good news. I am inspired for sure. Needing to finish

>> >things is definitely one of Ava's issues too and it is good to see

>> how

>> >successful ERP is in dealing with this one as well as the others.

>> Since

>> >Ava hasn't had the opportunity to learn ERP we've spent (wasted?) so

>> >much time trying to change the environment so that she can be okay

>> the

>> >way she is. Her 504 plan allows her extra time to finish things.

>> While

>> >this has worked in a temporary way I'm really looking forward to

>> finding

>> >a doc who can work with all of us using CBT instead of just meds.

>> >It's hard to figure out what is support/advocacy and what is enabling

>> -

>> >at least it's hard for me anyway! I think lately I've been doing

>> more

>> >enabling, partly I think due to the changes of middle school. Last

>> year

>> >she had one teacher instead of seven and she was so good that I

>> trusted

>> >her to help sort out the support vs enabling issues. We worked so

>> well

>> >together. But this year she got a team of teachers who are known for

>> >their high standards and structure (which is very good for Ava) but

>> also

>> >for their inflexibility and downright meanness (not so good). The

>> other

>> >choice (there are 2 " teams " of 6th grade teachers at her school) was

>> the

>> >warm fuzzy, less structured, more laid back team but I didn't pick it

>> >because the guidance counselor and I thought that she'd be stressed

>> by

>> >the unpredictability, bored by the lack of challenge and she'd take

>> over

>> >the class with the laid back teachers. Ava looms very large when she

>> >can (she is a natural leader but it really needs to be channeled!).

>> >Your success has given me some hope that with good CBT Ava can

>> overcome

>> >some of the more difficult situations at school w/o accomadations

>> that

>> >enable.

>> >Dana in NC

>> >

>>

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Hi Judy:

Sorry but you have been given incorrect information. We also have had

problems with the administration and teachers at Steve's school because he

does very well academically and they did not understand how he would

qualify as 504. Later I found out that this was a budgetary concern and he

was being treated illegally.

Sometimes you have to talk about bringing in someone from Protection and

Advocacy. The best defence is to find out all you can about the 504

process, other moms of kids with NBDs have been very helpful to me with

this. Once they see you have done your homework about the process and know

the deadlines and their legal obligations you can work more effectively in

this system.

It was a strange process for me to go from being the mom of the school

president to being in conflict with the principal and teachers but we

survived this with the maximum amount of face saving possible. It is a

good idea to take a parent advocate with you to meetings at first just to

level out the playing field. Also one good rule I have is never, ever go

to a 504 meeting without my husband (or some male supporter). Sorry for

seeming sexist in my suggestion but there is a massive stereotype which can

get in the way if you don't bring along this antidote :-))

What has helped is to bring in his mental health professionals to 504

meetings, to pass out the information about his three DSM-IV diagnoses from

his psychiatrists and psychologists, and to explain that without help he

would not be at school. As Steve has gotten older and into a larger

school, there are more other kids who are 504 and academically gifted so

the teachers and administrators are more familiar about how to handle these

situations.

Basically the school now understands that without the 504 accommodations

and the services Steve gets under the Felix program he probably would not

have been able to stay in school at all. This would seriously affect his

education so they don't hold his good grades against him when determining

his 504 eligibility.

Judy, perhaps you can ask Dan's therapist to come to a meeting with the

school about the 504. I have found it really helps to pay the therapist to

attend these metings and it is well worth it. The school administration

does not want to brush off parents in front of mental health professionals.

Good luck, please keep us posted about Dan's 504 classification process.

Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

P.S. My apologies to any teachers on this list who might be offended by

what I have written. We have also met many dedicated teachers who do a

great job of understanding and helping kids like ours. They are treasures

beyond compare :-))

At 10:28 PM 01/23/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: " Judith C. Lovchik " <jlovchik@...>

>

>Dan's therapist said I should get a 504 for him, so I called the

>guidance office. The counsellor said there was not a chance, because he

>got all As and Bs first term. Unless a student is getting more than one

>D, they don't give 504s. Does this sound right?

>

>Judy

>

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No, this does not sound right at all!

I do not know about 504s, but with an IEP you must send a written letter

asking for an evaluation and an IEP. It helps to send this letter by

certified mail or hand deliver it and keep a copy for yourself.

No, just because your child is making good grades does not mean some

accommodations do not be need to be made.

Does this also apply to children with physical disabilities? Do they need to

flunk before a wheelchair ramp will be built?

Patti in CA

<< From: " Judith C. Lovchik " <jlovchik@...>

Dan's therapist said I should get a 504 for him, so I called the

guidance office. The counsellor said there was not a chance, because he

got all As and Bs first term. Unless a student is getting more than one

D, they don't give 504s. Does this sound right?

Judy >>

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Dear Judy,

If Dans docs recomment a 504 the school can absolutely not refuse. Give

them a request in writing, you might include and IEP, and they 40 days, by

law, to address it.

Molly is on the honor roll and has and IEP. She gets all 90's. Her

intelligence has absolutely nothing to do with OCD. She is coded " other

health impaired " and is protected by the Americans Disabilities Act.

You will have to be tough with the school and at the same time get them in

your arena. Not always easy. I gave Mollys school the handout, " School

Personnel A Critical Link " and we also all watched the movie " The Touching

Tree " .

Good luck, let me know if I can help in anyway.

Patti R. in NH

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This seems to be a common misconception on the part of school personnel. Last

spring we were trying to get a modified day for Ian (attending school for the

morning and sort of homeschooling in the afternoon.) The school was very

supportive even though Ian rarely showed any signs of distress while at

school. The counselor went ahead to submit a 504 plan but could not find a

way to fill in the form to show cause. The reason being Ian's achievement at

above grade level. The counselor even contacted her district supervisor who

told her that children had to be two grade levels behind to got a 504. The

school was able to find another route for granting our request but it really

bothered me that the district would advocate letting a student fall behind

before they were willing to address a problem. It made me feel like they were

saying " Come see us when he has failed and we will see if we can help you

then. "

joy in san diego (thought I'd better change this to clear up the confusing

geography message)

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Hi Jule

This Terry in WI

Please send me all the links that you have. I am developing a parent/

teacher resource web page and I need all the info I can find.

Thanks

Terry in WI

Re: 504

>From: j.monnens@...

>

>

>

>Judy:

>

>You were sadly misinformed by the school counselor. (Why does this not

>surprise me?) There are two parts of the ADA that apply to our kids,

>depending on their needs. Section 504 is less stringent than IDEA, which

>requires an IEP, but both are binding upon the school. Whatever

>communication you make with the school should be done in writing or

>otherwise documented (including phone calls). There is lots of

>information online about special ed laws. I'll list some of my favorites.

>

>http://inform.ospi.wednet.edu/sped/Publications/504.html This has an

>entire 504 manual.

>

>http://www.edlaw.net/ Everything you want to know about special ed laws.

>

>http://www.wrightslaw.com/ The 's are experts in special ed law;

>they have a free email newsletter called The Special Ed Advocate.

>

>http://www.infocom.com/~intern/ This is an advocacy site with lots of

>excellent links.

>

>I have many more, but this should help you get started. You can also

>contact your state office of education and ask for information regarding

> special ed laws in your state.

>

>Jule in Cleveland

>

>

>

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Judy:

You were sadly misinformed by the school counselor. (Why does this not

surprise me?) There are two parts of the ADA that apply to our kids,

depending on their needs. Section 504 is less stringent than IDEA, which

requires an IEP, but both are binding upon the school. Whatever

communication you make with the school should be done in writing or

otherwise documented (including phone calls). There is lots of

information online about special ed laws. I'll list some of my favorites.

http://inform.ospi.wednet.edu/sped/Publications/504.html This has an

entire 504 manual.

http://www.edlaw.net/ Everything you want to know about special ed laws.

http://www.wrightslaw.com/ The 's are experts in special ed law;

they have a free email newsletter called The Special Ed Advocate.

http://www.infocom.com/~intern/ This is an advocacy site with lots of

excellent links.

I have many more, but this should help you get started. You can also

contact your state office of education and ask for information regarding

special ed laws in your state.

Jule in Cleveland

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HI Robin:

A " 504 " is similar yet different than an IEP. It refers to legislation

protecting people's civil rights and to prevent discrimination and refers

to the section # of the legislation. The modification plan (MP) which we

have for Steve as a result of the 504 is similar to an IEP (individualized

educational plan) which is under special education or IDEA (individuals

with disabilities in education act).

There are some excellent Internet sites about this; my favorite resource

has been other moms with kids with NBDs who have battled the system ahead

of me. Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

P.S. Here the school gets extra federal funds if a kid has an IEP although

it is more paperwork and effort than an MP under 504. It is a tricky

situation dealing with ignorance among educators. K.

At 09:03 PM 01/23/2000 -0800, you wrote:

>From: Jay and Robin Tzucker <rjtzuckr@...>

>

>HI,

>I keep seeing this coming up, and I have to ask, " what is a 504 " ? Is it

>like an IEP or is this something different?

>

>Thanks,

>Robin in WA

>

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Hi Judy:

I know I wrote on this already but I did want to be clear that I got the

right royal runaround/brush off at Steve's school about the 504 eligibility

even though I had a letter from his psychiatrist with two of his three

diagnoses listed and a statement that he was 504 eligible. This letter was

on letterhead from the leading Children's Hospital in our state and it

still caused paralysis. I even joked that the school was in denial longer

than we the family were!

Sometimes you just have to rattle a few cages. Good luck, take care,

aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 07:41 AM 01/24/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: " Patti R. " <pross@...>

>

>Dear Judy,

>

>If Dans docs recomment a 504 the school can absolutely not refuse. Give

>them a request in writing, you might include and IEP, and they 40 days, by

>law, to address it.

>Molly is on the honor roll and has and IEP. She gets all 90's. Her

>intelligence has absolutely nothing to do with OCD. She is coded " other

>health impaired " and is protected by the Americans Disabilities Act.

>You will have to be tough with the school and at the same time get them in

>your arena. Not always easy. I gave Mollys school the handout, " School

>Personnel A Critical Link " and we also all watched the movie " The Touching

>Tree " .

>Good luck, let me know if I can help in anyway.

>

>Patti R. in NH

>

>

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This is really just a lack of knowledge on the part of the school district.

A 504 covers disabilities. So if a kid has a disability he has to fail to

get a 504? The school needs to do their homework.

Kathy Hamm and have some great sites for 504's & IEP's. the 504 comes

under the " Americans With Disabilites Act " and basically says that children

have the right to learn. Even if their disability is not visible.

I get so tired of people punishing Molly because she looks normal, gets good

grades and has OCD. It's like they just won't buy it. As I said to one

person " do you think a parent would make something like this up? "

Our kids are different. They do have disabilities and they are protected by

law. And the school cannot refuse them.

Patti R. in NH

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HI Patti:

I can really relate to what you said about our kids looking normal, getting

good grades and having OCD and very few understand their challenges or give

them much credit. On the other hand it really helps them to be treated as

if they are without any disability. SOmetimes I would really like it for

Steve's teachers to appreciate his accomplishments (like coping with

teenage teasing and keeping relatively cool, trying not to be perfect,

controlling his anxiety) which they seem to take for granted.

Aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 04:37 PM 01/24/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: " Patti R. " <pross@...>

>

>This is really just a lack of knowledge on the part of the school district.

>A 504 covers disabilities. So if a kid has a disability he has to fail to

>get a 504? The school needs to do their homework.

>

>Kathy Hamm and have some great sites for 504's & IEP's. the 504 comes

>under the " Americans With Disabilites Act " and basically says that children

>have the right to learn. Even if their disability is not visible.

>

>I get so tired of people punishing Molly because she looks normal, gets good

>grades and has OCD. It's like they just won't buy it. As I said to one

>person " do you think a parent would make something like this up? "

>

>Our kids are different. They do have disabilities and they are protected by

>law. And the school cannot refuse them.

>

>Patti R. in NH

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Thanks for that advice. I will certainly continue to pursue it and

follow your suggestions.

Judy

Kathy Hammes wrote:

>

> From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

>

> Hi Judy:

>

> Sorry but you have been given incorrect information. We also have had

> problems with the administration and teachers at Steve's school

> because he

> does very well academically and they did not understand how he would

> qualify as 504. Later I found out that this was a budgetary concern

> and he

> was being treated illegally.

>

> Sometimes you have to talk about bringing in someone from Protection

> and

> Advocacy. The best defence is to find out all you can about the 504

> process, other moms of kids with NBDs have been very helpful to me

> with

> this. Once they see you have done your homework about the process and

> know

> the deadlines and their legal obligations you can work more

> effectively in

> this system.

>

> It was a strange process for me to go from being the mom of the school

> president to being in conflict with the principal and teachers but we

> survived this with the maximum amount of face saving possible. It is

> a

> good idea to take a parent advocate with you to meetings at first just

> to

> level out the playing field. Also one good rule I have is never, ever

> go

> to a 504 meeting without my husband (or some male supporter). Sorry

> for

> seeming sexist in my suggestion but there is a massive stereotype

> which can

> get in the way if you don't bring along this antidote :-))

>

> What has helped is to bring in his mental health professionals to 504

> meetings, to pass out the information about his three DSM-IV diagnoses

> from

> his psychiatrists and psychologists, and to explain that without help

> he

> would not be at school. As Steve has gotten older and into a larger

> school, there are more other kids who are 504 and academically gifted

> so

> the teachers and administrators are more familiar about how to handle

> these

> situations.

>

> Basically the school now understands that without the 504

> accommodations

> and the services Steve gets under the Felix program he probably would

> not

> have been able to stay in school at all. This would seriously affect

> his

> education so they don't hold his good grades against him when

> determining

> his 504 eligibility.

>

> Judy, perhaps you can ask Dan's therapist to come to a meeting with

> the

> school about the 504. I have found it really helps to pay the

> therapist to

> attend these metings and it is well worth it. The school

> administration

> does not want to brush off parents in front of mental health

> professionals.

>

> Good luck, please keep us posted about Dan's 504 classification

> process.

> Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

> kathyh@...

>

> P.S. My apologies to any teachers on this list who might be offended

> by

> what I have written. We have also met many dedicated teachers who do

> a

> great job of understanding and helping kids like ours. They are

> treasures

> beyond compare :-))

>

> At 10:28 PM 01/23/2000 -0500, you wrote:

> >From: " Judith C. Lovchik " <jlovchik@...>

> >

> >Dan's therapist said I should get a 504 for him, so I called the

> >guidance office. The counsellor said there was not a chance, because

> he

> >got all As and Bs first term. Unless a student is getting more than

> one

> >D, they don't give 504s. Does this sound right?

> >

> >Judy

> >

>

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Thanks for your support. You give me encouragement.

Judy

" Patti R. " wrote:

>

> From: " Patti R. " <pross@...>

>

> Dear Judy,

>

> If Dans docs recomment a 504 the school can absolutely not refuse.

> Give

> them a request in writing, you might include and IEP, and they 40

> days, by

> law, to address it.

> Molly is on the honor roll and has and IEP. She gets all 90's. Her

> intelligence has absolutely nothing to do with OCD. She is coded

> " other

> health impaired " and is protected by the Americans Disabilities Act.

> You will have to be tough with the school and at the same time get

> them in

> your arena. Not always easy. I gave Mollys school the handout,

> " School

> Personnel A Critical Link " and we also all watched the movie " The

> Touching

> Tree " .

> Good luck, let me know if I can help in anyway.

>

> Patti R. in NH

>

> ----------------------------------------------------------------------

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Aint it the truth? Thanks for your support.

Judy

kelbro wrote:

>

> From: " kelbro " <kelbro@...>

>

> Hi Judy

>

> This is Terry in WI

>

> It doesn't sound right to me. I don't believe that grades are the

> onlycriteria.

> We have a IEP for my daughter ( which is different from a 504 plan )

> because

> She toe walks and it was affecting her physical development (

> playground

> activities )and consequently her self esteem. Her grades have always

> been

> excellent All " A's " except Py Ed.

>

> The education kids receive at school is more than the 3 Rs. It's also

> physical, emotional and social development.

>

> I will send you the links that I have concerning this subject and I

> would

> guess that if you have a formal dx that he qualifies for a 504 plan

> which

> can be nothing more than time to leave the room to compose himself or

> a

> " safe " person to talk to.

>

> I get so tired of hearing things like this, The educators are supposed

> to be

> the ones with all the knowledge. If they would only realize that the

> more

> the teachers help our kids the less anxiety they will have, the fewer

> symptoms they will have which means that the teachers will have to

> deal with

> less. Why is this so hard for some of them to understand ?????

>

> Good Luck and be STRONG

>

> Terry in WI

> 504

>

> >From: " Judith C. Lovchik " <jlovchik@...>

> >

> >Dan's therapist said I should get a 504 for him, so I called the

> >guidance office. The counsellor said there was not a chance, because

> he

> >got all As and Bs first term. Unless a student is getting more than

> one

> >D, they don't give 504s. Does this sound right?

> >

> >Judy

> >

> >Kathy Hammes wrote:

> >>

> >> From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

> >>

> >> Hi Dana:

> >>

> >> Please don't beat yourself up about the time spent/wasted in

> dealing

> >> with

> >> OCD. For all of us this is a learning process. For our family it

> has

> >> literally taken years, months and months to figure out there was a

> >> real

> >> problem, months to figure out what it was and then over a year to

> find

> >> an

> >> effective treatment team.

> >>

> >> At first I also set up Steve's 504 to allow avoidance and prevented

> >> teachers from interacting therapeutically with him. Once he was

> able

> >> to

> >> learn CBT then we changed the 504 to reinforce his bossing back and

> >> involve

> >> the teachers more therapeutically with him. It is just too early

> to

> >> set up

> >> a 504 with zero enabling until our kids have learned the necessary

> >> skills

> >> to boss back OCD on their own. It is counterproductive for our

> kids

> >> to get

> >> punished for OCD behaviors they are only just starting to learn how

> to

> >> control.

> >>

> >> Changing the 504 has been a bit confusing for the teachers who seem

> >> more

> >> accustomed to doing the same thing for a long time. However each

> year

> >> there is a new team of teachers and you can start again at square

> one

> >> depending on Ava's progress with her CBT/E & RP. The perseverating

> >> behaviors

> >> seem particularly irksome to the teachers. For Steve this would

> >> manifest

> >> in having to have the last word in classroom discussions. The

> >> teachers

> >> really appreciated working on getting him to reduce these

> behaviors.

> >>

> >> We have also faced the structured vs. non-structured/less

> structured

> >> educational experience. Strangely enough the structured seems to

> work

> >> the

> >> best. What we do is use humor about the situations when the

> teachers

> >> do

> >> stuff which is not the best approach for managing OCD. Luckily

> >> Steve's CBT

> >> therapist has helped the teachers with suggestions about how to

> handle

> >> his

> >> OCD sxs in the classroom and this seems to allay their fears. They

> >> seem

> >> relieved to have a non-parent resource to answer their questions.

> >>

> >> Ava has already come a long way and will continue to make strides

> >> against

> >> her OCD. We notice every few months that Steve is managing things

> >> better

> >> than before, it is surprising how lengthy yet persistent the

> >> improvement is.

> >>

> >> Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

> >> kathyh@...

> >>

> >> At 04:11 PM 01/23/2000 -0500, you wrote:

> >> >From: Dana Carvalho <clayvon@...>

> >> >

> >> >Hi Kathy,

> >> >This really is good news. I am inspired for sure. Needing to

> finish

> >> >things is definitely one of Ava's issues too and it is good to see

> >> how

> >> >successful ERP is in dealing with this one as well as the others.

> >> Since

> >> >Ava hasn't had the opportunity to learn ERP we've spent (wasted?)

> so

> >> >much time trying to change the environment so that she can be okay

> >> the

> >> >way she is. Her 504 plan allows her extra time to finish things.

> >> While

> >> >this has worked in a temporary way I'm really looking forward to

> >> finding

> >> >a doc who can work with all of us using CBT instead of just meds.

> >> >It's hard to figure out what is support/advocacy and what is

> enabling

> >> -

> >> >at least it's hard for me anyway! I think lately I've been doing

> >> more

> >> >enabling, partly I think due to the changes of middle school.

> Last

> >> year

> >> >she had one teacher instead of seven and she was so good that I

> >> trusted

> >> >her to help sort out the support vs enabling issues. We worked so

> >> well

> >> >together. But this year she got a team of teachers who are known

> for

> >> >their high standards and structure (which is very good for Ava)

> but

> >> also

> >> >for their inflexibility and downright meanness (not so good). The

> >> other

> >> >choice (there are 2 " teams " of 6th grade teachers at her school)

> was

> >> the

> >> >warm fuzzy, less structured, more laid back team but I didn't pick

> it

> >> >because the guidance counselor and I thought that she'd be

> stressed

> >> by

> >> >the unpredictability, bored by the lack of challenge and she'd

> take

> >> over

> >> >the class with the laid back teachers. Ava looms very large when

> she

> >> >can (she is a natural leader but it really needs to be

> channeled!).

> >> >Your success has given me some hope that with good CBT Ava can

> >> overcome

> >> >some of the more difficult situations at school w/o accomadations

> >> that

> >> >enable.

> >> >Dana in NC

> >> >

> >>

> >>

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Hi Kathy,

We use something similar to the dog tag system you describe. The

homework is posted on a web site and I check it every night and make

sure that Ava completes her assignments. The problem is she sometimes

doesn't remember to turn them in. I'm not sure if that is what has

lowered her grades though, my fear is that the teacher who gave her a C

was doing so to punish her. Other parents have reported this with the

same teacher. I will find out more soon!

Dana in NC

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Hi Dana:

The not-turned in assignment problem is one we have also had to cope with.

Sometimes they would get contaminated and other times perhaps forgotten.

With the dog tag system when you confirm that the assignment is completed,

it is Ava's responsibility to turn it in and the teacher's responsibility

to help her do this.

Sometimes you just have to write off a teacher here and there. Good luck,

keep us posted. Aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 09:56 PM 02/06/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: Dana Carvalho <clayvon@...>

>

>Hi Kathy,

>We use something similar to the dog tag system you describe. The

>homework is posted on a web site and I check it every night and make

>sure that Ava completes her assignments. The problem is she sometimes

>doesn't remember to turn them in. I'm not sure if that is what has

>lowered her grades though, my fear is that the teacher who gave her a C

>was doing so to punish her. Other parents have reported this with the

>same teacher. I will find out more soon!

>Dana in NC

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Theresa,

Thank you so much for responding to my plea for help!

This is the second time that you have come to my rescue

and I appreciate it more than you will ever realize.

Bless you!

mary from La.

Theresa wrote:

> Re: 504

>

> >

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----- Original Message -----

From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

> If you specify what symptoms are most difficult at school I can try to

> think of specific accommodations. Dr. Dornbush's book, " Taming the

Tiger " has lots of great suggestions.

Kathy,

Pardon me, I could not resist giving you a hard time about this.....What

book is this again? LOL.

For those of you who are not aware of this book, it's TEACHING the Tiger,

lest you be misguided.

Aureen

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Hi AUreen:

Oops! I mispoke - must have been a untamed behavior day at home <VBG>.

You are quite right it is entitled " TEaching the Tiger " . Mea culpa, mea

maxima culpa, sixteen lashes with a wet noodle for giving our misinformation.

I think every school should have several copies of this book. Maybe for

the new year we can think about donating one to our kid's school library

for professional development. Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

P.S. I wonder if there is a good book by that wrong title, ....hmmm.....:-))

P.P.S. I promise to control my OCD book hoarding by giving them

away. .....

At 05:49 PM 01/04/2001 -0500, you wrote:

>

>----- Original Message -----

>From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

>> If you specify what symptoms are most difficult at school I can try to

>> think of specific accommodations. Dr. Dornbush's book, " Taming the

>Tiger " has lots of great suggestions.

>

>Kathy,

>Pardon me, I could not resist giving you a hard time about this.....What

>book is this again? LOL.

>

>For those of you who are not aware of this book, it's TEACHING the Tiger,

>lest you be misguided.

>

>Aureen

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In a message dated 9/3/2004 9:13:11 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

justinsmom87@... writes:

I have actually just asked his counselor for a printed copy of his

current 504 plan to update my records, so if you wanted to see what one

looks like, let me know.

Beth, thank you! Yes I would love to see it.

Janet, mom to Brittany, CVID, age 13

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From: Beth, Mom to Wade, 17, CVID,etc.

Janet,

Wade is now 17 & has used either an IEP or a 504 plan for the last 4 years.

Here in Michigan, the biggest difference is that if you have an IEP, you

must be receiving Special Ed services. The stand alone program that Wade

chose to enroll in within the high school, has a policy that you can not be

on special ed & be enrolled in their program, apparently some sort of

" conflict of services' issue. So we changed to a 504 plan, almost 2 years

ago. We have had very few if any real problems with Wade's needs being met

under a 504. We just sat at a meeting & told his counselor & the school

psychologist what we felt, as parents, needed to be covered & they vocalized

what they felt he needed covered from an educators standpoint & that was it.

I would probably ask your daughter's primary doctor for his or her input as

well. I have actually just asked his counselor for a printed copy of his

current 504 plan to update my records, so if you wanted to see what one

looks like, let me know.

If I can answer anything further, please feel free to contact me. Good Luck!

Beth

>From: BBsmart2@...

>Reply-

>

>Subject: 504

>Date: Fri, 3 Sep 2004 01:38:44 EDT

>

>I need help with getting a 504 plan together. I meet with the school next

>week.

>Can anyone help me?

>

>Thanks,

>Janet, mom to Brittany, CVID, age 13

>

>

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