Re: [SPAM] Re: spouse not understanding asperger daughter

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[sPAM] Re: ( ) spouse not understanding asperger daughter

As a divorced Dad who probably would be critized (from my ex) for not being a better father with my 12 aspie son, I have the following thoughts:--Be careful of being too critical and especially in front of your child. This tactic only worsens the situation. --Think of the things he has done that are positive for your child (e.g. I was the first one to push for one one speech therapy, first to attend a special needs meeting, first to push for an aspergers diagnosis, the only parent to be on this list and active in an aspergers support group, and a continual ally to ensure he is only on medication if he really needs it..the list goes on). --Encourage 1 on 1 events (your daughter and husband only)for lesser stressful times such as the weeekend. He may have a lot on his mind after work. Help the execution. Get the tickets (2 only)and hand it to him. Get his buy in of course. Do this often! Repetition is key!--Get him to subscribe to this newsgroup!--Analyze the parenting styles that you each bring to the table. Dont get in the thought mindset that yours is only the right one. For example, if he is a bit stricter keep in mind that the real world will be tough as your daughter gets older. --Ask him what is most difficult about being a father to your daughter? You might be surprised at the answer and the solution may be easier grasped and achieved.I am going to reemphasize the most important suggestion: More 1 on 1's!!! Marc> > On 5/10/10, <nforaker@...> wrote:> > My husband just doesn't understand our 11 yod. He just can't seem to see> > past her behavior and see she is not always acting out on purpose. She> > can't help it. She is not having fun and hates it when she hurts others by> > the way she acts. It is a real issue in out family. He also suffers from> > depression (maybe bi polar). I am always in the middle. I feel that I am> > her only advocate. I wish he was there for me and her. Sometimes he is,> > but mostly he is not. Anyone else going through this also?> >> >> > -- > Sent from my mobile device> > -mommy to Emma, Becca, ,> , , and baby girl no name (yeah I know, nothing new, does> ever pick a name in a timely manner?) July 2010>