outbursts, hitting me and police

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Hi pam:

I felt great sympathy while reading your post. You have

much to handle and you handle it all by yourself. And although I can

offer no suggestions for your very difficult situation, I understand it. once

my daughter begins reacting, anything and everything I do would only inflame

the situation. My daughters biggest trigger is the feeling of losing control

over her life. Prozac has helped a lot but there still is a few flair

ups.

What has your psych suggested? I am put off by your

doctors lack of compassion for you. Have you ever enlisted your daughters

help in working thru the situation. While my daughter was in a calm state

of mind we talked it over—I tried really hard to not place blame or make

either one of us alone as the problem, just that together we need to work on

our understanding about what happens(she too twists the truth so I had to be

extra careful here) and what would a good solution might be. I also

explained to her that if we could not come up with a workable solution, if I could

not feel safe, that my only recourse would be for her to spend time in a different

home or institution. We agreed to using a “safe word” that

she or I could use when we didn’t know what else to do. for

example, if I say the safe word, she is suppose to understand that I love her very

much but I am stuck and need time to think or cool down which in turn gives her

time to think or cool down. I have only used it a few times and she

recognized and honor our pact, mostly Prozac has taken these intense

times away.

Hoping you get additional support that you need. do

you have time to spend for yourself? time where you do things that you

enjoy, that brings you pleasure? I have spent the last 20 years

reading books about parenting, marriage, aspergers, and anxiety. Recently

however, I read the twilight series and rediscovered books as a place I can escape.

I especially enjoy reading while listening to my ipod.

Warmest regards, melody