PLEASE HELP US HELP OUR CHILD!

March 22, 2010

I don't know where to begin!

Son diagnosed with Asperger's, ADHD, anxiety, depression age 7.

School says no to Asperger's according to their tests, they see ED and

with no LD. All recommendations are for behavior intervention.

Our son is in the 5th grade and is now failing classes. He clearly

doesn't have Content Mastery in the classes he's failing yet the school

won't address what is causing his inability to learn. They say he's

inattentive, won't do his assignments because he just doesn't want to

and if treated properly (say please) he'll conform and do the work.

We have been fighting this fight for over 5 years, since kindergarten.

We didn't have an opportunity for ECI because we couldn't get anyone to

listen to us. Finally we got an outside diagnosis and the school won't

accept it because they don't see it according to their tests.

Our son doesn't have the ability to start a task and carry it out,

whether it's homework, schoolwork or chores. Basic tasks that he will

need to do to get anything accomplished in life are hard for him to do.

His executive functioning is extremely impaired. At 10, almost 11, he

is just beginning to take care of personal hygiene.

What tests are available besides psychological evaluations to see where

his learning deficit lies? They say he's on task with others his age,

even though we've told them we have to sit with him and re teach what he

was " taught " during the day at school. ON task with 60s and 70s for

grades?

Why are we having such a difficult time getting this child help?

What can we do for him? Where do we go from here? Each year, more time

is wasted on the diagnosis and behavior modification than on what his

learning needs are. In the meantime, time is getting away from us. Up

until this time, he apparently slid by, but now that the work is getting

harder and more involved, he's having trouble keeping up and getting

into trouble for not doing his work. School believes with enough

praise and redirection, his self esteem will rise and he'll be

successful, then his self esteem will be better again and he'll be even

more successful. Oh if it were only that easy.

We have an ARD in the morning which I have requested be postponed since

they only want to talk about a BIP and not an effective IEP.

I appreciate any help you can provide!

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