Re: [SPAM] Re: Just help or any advice for morning transition~

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Morning are a hard balance for me, because I am simply not a morning person. I don't talk for the first half hour and there are alot of days the girls, my dh and I all get up at the same time, therefore I work in a very mechanical fashion. maybe this has helped us.

Whenever my aspie dd started stomping,yelling etc..about putting on her clothes, appropriate shoes or doing her hair, I just simply go into action and I will dress her as she is saying no or fighting me, brush her hair, put on her shoes, coat, give her lunch bag and back pack, all the while not speaking one word,,,, open the door when the bus turns the corner and if she is still in acting up,I quietly say, would you like me to put you on the bus in front of all those kids? She walks off stomping and then I go back to my coffee. We don't have many days like that anymore and if we do all I have to do is go into my mechanical mode and she settles down pretty quickly.

they say to be consistant,,guess I am.

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[sPAM] ( ) Re: Just help or any advice for morning transition~

My thoughts are to have a list of things for him to do in the morning, and then once they are done, he gets a reward (something he wants). My son is allowed 15 minutes of videogames once he is ready for the day. He is responsible for getting ready (admittedly I'm prompting him a lot). I suppose in theory one could simply say "once you are ready for school, you get to do X until it is time to go", so he is motivated to go quickly. Then make him stop 10 minutes before you have to leave for school (at a set time). Another reward is provided after school that is dependent upon a good morning transition after he gets off the game as well as a decent day of school. Mornings are rough though. I homeschool my son now and am a lot more flexible in the morning. I don't have the time pressure, and the important thing is that he gets it done.- > >> > Hello, > > I have posted on here before and loved the help and support I have gotten, and I watch the boards regularly I was in hopes someone else would maybe post with the same issue~ My Aspie son Ashton is 7 and in 1st grade I cannot seem to figure out his mornings they are sooooo tough and quite honestly exhaust me to the maximum.> > > > Most of the boys (my other 5) get up at 6:30 (bus comes at 7:30) Ashton I have to literally wait until 7:10 or 7:15 as he HATES school and NEVER wants to go (that is a whole nother post about the laziness of our school and the fight for an IEP we are still battling)He will usually start with "I dont want to go to school" and I tell him it is not a choice (last year he missed 43 days of school because of fighting to go and also the school calling me to come get him (will get to that later) Finally he gets up I can get him dressed and pep talk him about what a great day he is going to have his mood lightens a bit. THEN after he gets his shoes on and takes his pill (which can be a fight as well he will run from me and hold his hands over his mouth) If he decides to eat he will eat very very slow then as I am getting other kids ready to get out the door to the bus....> > > > He escapes on me and takes his shoes off and goes and hides Thus the battle begins...I am rushed to get his shoes back on all while he is fighting me and telling me he is not going to school. If I push him and get angry with him he shuts down and gets very angry and mad and things escalate so I try to stay calm...Get him out the door with his brothers and some days he runs off or hides to miss the bus. I have often walked him to the bus however this creates outbursts and crying and is even an uglier situation! > > > > If he misses the bus and I take him he will not get out of the truck AUGH!!!!> > > > We have tried sooo many things...ie..If you go to school you can have 10 minutes on the computer etc...it works for a short time then he finally decides he knows at one point he is not going to be good and is going to be bad so why bother trying for it so when I tell him "if you go to school mom will make whatever you would like for dinner tonight your choice" he will in return say "No I am not going to be good" like he just gives up!!> > > > My 5 year old is starting kindergarten and I am terrified that with my morning routine and just all of the exhaustiion with ashton I wont be able to keep up! PLEASE HELP! > > > > Thank you so much!> > (I will be posting a HUGE issue we are having with school and IEP as well as the nonsense way they handle him at school as I have noticed alot of you with aspies have trbl with school so it is not just me augh sooo frustrating though)> >>