need advice (emergency) with son's aggressive/violent behavior please!

[Guest guest]

Is this a biomed correctable issue?

I need to know what to do! He turned 13 in November. We do some biomeds

currently. He was gfcf for 4 years and cf for 8 years. And, he had chelated

several rounds in the past. He is as big as me now. I think I caused the

problem. I have been thinking about it for a week. His dad came to get him and

still has him. No outbursts of any kind according to him. My son was happy

reading a book outloud and he was acting it out. He has fun doing that. I

wanted him to help put together a Christmas package for all his cousins he was

going to see while visiting his dad. He came and looked at it then went back to

what he was doing. I tried two more times to get him to help me. For someone

who doesn't know him he would be considered nonverbal. He has a normal IQ. It

is easier to hit than to verbally tell someone something. He hit me in the arm.

I did the mommy lecture thing and he hit and shoved me. Then he was trying to

go after his little brother (almost 3). He is his favorite person in the world.

He loves him. For the longest time when he was happy he would pick his brother

up and put him over his head just playing. I would always panic and tell him to

put him down. I am guessing that what he is doing when he is mad at me is

trying to get back at me is to go after him brother. He has done that before

and he takes him to the couch and plops him down. But, he was so angry I knew

it was dangerous to let him near his brother so I blocked him. That made him

mad. We were actually really fighting eachother. I convinced him that his

grandparents were outside and that we needed to go outside and help them carry

stuff in. When I got him outside I shut the door on him so I could call for

help. He was thinking clearer than me, because I didn't lock the door bc of the

keypad lock we have, but he knows the code to get back in and used it. He does

not know the code to get out of the house which is why we have it. So, he gets

back in and I am keeping him away from his brother again. My parents are

hearing me yell for help on the cell phone. I convinced him in the middle of

all this physical fighting to go get a drink of water in the kitchen and I run

with his brother out the door and put his brother in the car in his carseat.

Now he is yelling at the door for me to let him out. I told him he was not calm

enough. I convinced him to lay the phone down and go get a shower. He does it.

I am able to open the door to grab the phone for help. I call my parents again.

I call his dad 2 hrs away. All are coming to help.

It took him much longer to calm down when I went in with my dad, but he was not

fighting me. My dad thought I should let his brother back in and I said I could

tell it still wasn't going to work. It didn't. He charged toward me to take

him from my arms. I take him back to the car. Go back in with me dad.

Convinced him to fix a pizza. He does it. We waited by watching tv and

snuggling. 15 minutes later he falls asleep. His dad gets there. We pack his

clothes and some toys. Dad wakes him up and asked him if he wanted to go with

him on Christmas break 2 days earlier. He said yes. Before he left he asked to

see his brother. My parents had already taken him to their house to spend the

night. My mom told me the next day that when she was on the phone with him

while brother and I were outside he sounded paniced and scared in the house by

himself.

He does not like anyone talking about getting hurt. You can't even tell him

Grandmommy is sick with a cold without him getting fearful. He is always

giving hugs and kisses to brother. We give hugs and I try to kiss him and he

usually pulls away, smiles and rubs it off. He is good at school. Sometimes he

yells at his male caregiver if he doesn't get his way. I think he was just so

mad at me for wanting him to help me and once he got mad he couldn't calm back

down.

He is comical. Loves Funniest Home Videos. the Tank and Disney 'Cars'.

Loves to act out all the scenes from the books and movies. The problem with

that is all the crashes in the scenes.

His genetists thinks he may be having seizures now. Two weeks before he had

what appeared to be a migraine headache and the next day we got in trouble at

his therapy place. His brother took his shoes off and he insisted that he put

them back on. He won't stop. He is screaming at brother to put his shoes on.

Everyone is looking at us and holding there younger children. He picks him up

and runs with him to the other side of the waiting room and sits it a chair. He

was probably still screaming something. To nerve wracked to remember. 2

therapists come to get him. He is perfect in OT therapy and then we calmly and

happily drove to the horse stable for hippotherapy. Did perfect.

What is going on with him?

I had more typed to this last night and I lost the last of it, because the

computer keeps losing connection to the internet so I am going to send it as is.

I just learned though that too much protein can cause problems with aggression.

He does eat a lot of protein.

And info. anyone has to share I would appreciate.

Thank you,

April

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry you have this experience. So scary!!

Just an opinion....but I'm wondering the following:

Did he get overstimulated at his dad's house during his visit? He might have

gotten overstimulated, but doesn't feel as " safe " as he does when he is at your

house. It's similar to the people who say " teachers say my son never acts out in

school. " When the kid gets home from school, because he " held it in " all day, he

lets loose on those who he is closest too.

Maybe he snuck some extra cookies/snacks while away from you. Does his dad

strictly follow gfcf?

Christmas is generally overstimulating. My son was great until the week before

Christmas, and then he was horrible all last week. Try to keep this week as

quiet as possible....we are hoping that works for us too.

For my son, the impulsivity, attacking people, slapping, pushing, etc. for no

reason signals bacteria. We are giving sac B. and Olive leaf extract to correct

and it's working so far.

Can you try a salt bath for him, to calm him and help work out any toxins?

Hang in there....it does sound as if some more biomed could help. I'm a big

believer in it, but it's complicated and not good for an easy fix,

unfortunately. But in the long run, I honestly believe it can make an

improvement in a great many children.

All the best!

Sara

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> I need to know what to do! He turned 13 in November. We do some biomeds

currently. He was gfcf for 4 years and cf for 8 years. And, he had chelated

several rounds in the past. He is as big as me now. I think I caused the

problem. I have been thinking about it for a week. His dad came to get him and

still has him. No outbursts of any kind according to him. My son was happy

reading a book outloud and he was acting it out. He has fun doing that. I

wanted him to help put together a Christmas package for all his cousins he was

going to see while visiting his dad. He came and looked at it then went back to

what he was doing. I tried two more times to get him to help me. For someone

who doesn't know him he would be considered nonverbal. He has a normal IQ. It

is easier to hit than to verbally tell someone something. He hit me in the arm.

I did the mommy lecture thing and he hit and shoved me. Then he was trying to

go after his little brother (almost 3). He is his favorite person in the world.

He loves him. For the longest time when he was happy he would pick his brother

up and put him over his head just playing. I would always panic and tell him to

put him down. I am guessing that what he is doing when he is mad at me is

trying to get back at me is to go after him brother. He has done that before

and he takes him to the couch and plops him down. But, he was so angry I knew

it was dangerous to let him near his brother so I blocked him. That made him

mad. We were actually really fighting eachother. I convinced him that his

grandparents were outside and that we needed to go outside and help them carry

stuff in. When I got him outside I shut the door on him so I could call for

help. He was thinking clearer than me, because I didn't lock the door bc of the

keypad lock we have, but he knows the code to get back in and used it. He does

not know the code to get out of the house which is why we have it. So, he gets

back in and I am keeping him away from his brother again. My parents are

hearing me yell for help on the cell phone. I convinced him in the middle of

all this physical fighting to go get a drink of water in the kitchen and I run

with his brother out the door and put his brother in the car in his carseat.

Now he is yelling at the door for me to let him out. I told him he was not calm

enough. I convinced him to lay the phone down and go get a shower. He does it.

I am able to open the door to grab the phone for help. I call my parents again.

I call his dad 2 hrs away. All are coming to help.

> It took him much longer to calm down when I went in with my dad, but he was

not fighting me. My dad thought I should let his brother back in and I said I

could tell it still wasn't going to work. It didn't. He charged toward me to

take him from my arms. I take him back to the car. Go back in with me dad.

Convinced him to fix a pizza. He does it. We waited by watching tv and

snuggling. 15 minutes later he falls asleep. His dad gets there. We pack his

clothes and some toys. Dad wakes him up and asked him if he wanted to go with

him on Christmas break 2 days earlier. He said yes. Before he left he asked to

see his brother. My parents had already taken him to their house to spend the

night. My mom told me the next day that when she was on the phone with him

while brother and I were outside he sounded paniced and scared in the house by

himself.

> He does not like anyone talking about getting hurt. You can't even tell him

Grandmommy is sick with a cold without him getting fearful. He is always

giving hugs and kisses to brother. We give hugs and I try to kiss him and he

usually pulls away, smiles and rubs it off. He is good at school. Sometimes he

yells at his male caregiver if he doesn't get his way. I think he was just so

mad at me for wanting him to help me and once he got mad he couldn't calm back

down.

> He is comical. Loves Funniest Home Videos. the Tank and Disney

'Cars'. Loves to act out all the scenes from the books and movies. The problem

with that is all the crashes in the scenes.

> His genetists thinks he may be having seizures now. Two weeks before he had

what appeared to be a migraine headache and the next day we got in trouble at

his therapy place. His brother took his shoes off and he insisted that he put

them back on. He won't stop. He is screaming at brother to put his shoes on.

Everyone is looking at us and holding there younger children. He picks him up

and runs with him to the other side of the waiting room and sits it a chair. He

was probably still screaming something. To nerve wracked to remember. 2

therapists come to get him. He is perfect in OT therapy and then we calmly and

happily drove to the horse stable for hippotherapy. Did perfect.

> What is going on with him?

> I had more typed to this last night and I lost the last of it, because the

computer keeps losing connection to the internet so I am going to send it as is.

I just learned though that too much protein can cause problems with aggression.

He does eat a lot of protein.

> And info. anyone has to share I would appreciate.

> Thank you,

> April

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