At My Wits End...

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I ma struggling with a situation here and could use ANY advice at all!! I have

4 kids a girl 15, my aspie son who is 13, a 12 yo daughter and a 10yo daughter.

Now I know sibling rivalry is normal but my house has become constant chaos. My

son likes to pick at people, I believe he thinks he is helping. He will tell his

12 yo sister (whom is the main taget it seems) things like why are you wearing

that? Have you showered? Your hair looks weird like that. You need to get out

more. Just constantly picking at her. Then he frequently likes to toot his own

horn if you know what I mean. Don't get me wrong I praise my kids constantly but

he takes the extra step like to tell us how funny he is, how strong, etc, he

also butts in everytime my hubby and I or anyone for that matter are talking,

and just will hear a word and stat asking us about our conversation, sometimes

its private!! he seems to have no boundaries and as much as we go over this it

doesnt sink in!! My kids fight ALL the time over this. I tell my girls give him

a break and go over with them some of the things aspies do, but it is to the

point that we wonder is it all AS? or is he just obnoxious? I feel guilty

punishing him because what if he truely cannot help it?? I fear for him in the

real world!!! His boundaries with hubby and I are awful he doenst seem to get

that there are certain things that are appropriate for us to say but not

him...he gets upset abt that. I feel awful because sometimes I can tell he feels

like we are all against him. its sad. we live in a rural small town, the closest

big city is well over 100 miles away and there is 1 therapist in town, not with

any significant AS experience...what do i do?? anyone else have these issues?

what do you tell your other kids?? help me!!!!!!!

karla