Six year old pulling pants down

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I am at a complete quandry as to what to do. My six year old son decided to pull

his pants down and show his P to a friend in class (earlier the teacher said

that he asked the same boy if he wanted to see his butt). Well, he was sent

home from school. This has happened once before just two weeks ago. Our son has

never done this before (even when he was younger) and this behavior is troubling

since he knows all about keeping your private areas private. He also has been

fully potty trained for only a month and I'm wondering could this have something

to do with it. When I ask him if he understands he tells me he does and he

doesn't know why he did it. I've talked with him about this issue and what it

means to keep your body private and he feels ashamed about what he did but does

he get it enough not to do this again at school. What other tools can I use to

drive the point home? Have any of you gone through this before? Any help would

be appreciated.

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my son was suspended and threatened with a sexual harrassment suit at 5 b/c he

urinated in a classroom thank goodness all others were gone or he would have

been expelled and they said they would have files sex harrass on him b/c he

exposed himself so i feel ya he has exposed before he to is ashamed and was

taught the same as you hasent done it since so good luck you just never know wg

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> I am at a complete quandry as to what to do. My six year old son decided to

pull his pants down and show his P to a friend in class (earlier the teacher

said that he asked the same boy if he wanted to see his butt). Well, he was

sent home from school. This has happened once before just two weeks ago. Our son

has never done this before (even when he was younger) and this behavior is

troubling since he knows all about keeping your private areas private. He also

has been fully potty trained for only a month and I'm wondering could this have

something to do with it. When I ask him if he understands he tells me he does

and he doesn't know why he did it. I've talked with him about this issue and

what it means to keep your body private and he feels ashamed about what he did

but does he get it enough not to do this again at school. What other tools can I

use to drive the point home? Have any of you gone through this before? Any help

would be appreciated.

>

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I'd remind him before you drop him off at school for the next few days. And also provide an incentive....like maybe a chocolate Frosty at the end of the weak or something if he goes an entire week without doing it. My boy dropped his pants (6) before soccor try outs this year. He hadn't done it before but that was it. I immediately jumped right on it saying YOU CAN'T DO THAT. He was anxious and I think self stimmed.

By the way he had his third good soccor game in a row. He refocused himself much better tonight.....cause he wanted that Frosty. Its his fourth season and the last three games are the first time he has really

1) chased the ball down.

2) Not been the tail of the comet,

3) focused long enough to track the ball well.

4) And actually been not afriad to get right in the middle and kick it out.

To be honest its the first time hes actually sustained the play long enough to be a factor at all in the games. It was our second Soccor season that actually helped us realize something was wrong. He was always chewing on hands or shirt, unfocused, full of anxiety, and rarely if ever kicked the ball. Most of the time the ball would roll right past him and he'd never even know it was there. We even had the mother of a girl who had autism as well as someone else who knew about sensory issues approach us. So the fact that he is playing is great. He is in a 5 year old league though he is six and that has helped as well. He is still a pretty slow runner for his age particularlly when trying to play soccor. At home is skills have improved a lot but it didn't translate onto the field until the last three weeks. Which also coincide with us starting 150 micrograms of melatonin before

bedtime and OMEGA 3 supplements. They seem to be reducing his anxiety enough that he can now focus a bit and sustain the play. We are so pleased with the difference these two things have made. Over the weekend he also sustained his play with two other kids his age for the longest period of time I've seen without him bailing out. Plus he was very verbal which is usually not the case. He would often physically interact but even then would be very quiet. Very pleased with out desicion to try these two to items.

From: leds62 <leds62@...>Subject: ( ) Six year old pulling pants down Date: Monday, October 18, 2010, 5:23 PM

I am at a complete quandry as to what to do. My six year old son decided to pull his pants down and show his P to a friend in class (earlier the teacher said that he asked the same boy if he wanted to see his butt). Well, he was sent home from school. This has happened once before just two weeks ago. Our son has never done this before (even when he was younger) and this behavior is troubling since he knows all about keeping your private areas private. He also has been fully potty trained for only a month and I'm wondering could this have something to do with it. When I ask him if he understands he tells me he does and he doesn't know why he did it. I've talked with him about this issue and what it means to keep your body private and he feels ashamed about what he did but does he get it enough not to do this again at school. What other tools can I use to drive the point home? Have any of you gone through this before? Any help would be

appreciated.

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yes, my son at age 6 also pulled his pants down and did the same thing yours did. From what I understand it was a challenge of sorts, so my son didn't think twice about the implications. Of course we also teach about privacy, boundaries, ect. He never did it again, but he might because I don't think he quite understands why this is wrong. I'm sorry i don't have an answer, just some acknowlegement.

Cathleen

From: leds62 <leds62@...> Sent: Mon, October 18, 2010 2:23:46 PMSubject: ( ) Six year old pulling pants down

I am at a complete quandry as to what to do. My six year old son decided to pull his pants down and show his P to a friend in class (earlier the teacher said that he asked the same boy if he wanted to see his butt). Well, he was sent home from school. This has happened once before just two weeks ago. Our son has never done this before (even when he was younger) and this behavior is troubling since he knows all about keeping your private areas private. He also has been fully potty trained for only a month and I'm wondering could this have something to do with it. When I ask him if he understands he tells me he does and he doesn't know why he did it. I've talked with him about this issue and what it means to keep your body private and he feels ashamed about what he did but does he get it enough not to do this again at school. What other tools can I use to drive the point home? Have any of you gone through this before? Any help would be

appreciated.

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My son who is 6 got in trouble today at school, because another child was hanging from the monkey bars and he decided to pull that child's pants down. When the teacher asked him why he did it, he said they were right there..we explained it to him not to do it again, but the teachers were not amused.

On another note, my son is obsessed at school with the magic lights. These are the bathroom lights that are energy saving and turn on auto when entering and exiting. Well he thinks he needs to see them all the time. Upon finishing bathroom break, he decided he was going to wait for the lights to turn off and his class left him 2 days in a row, in which he is supposed to have a full time aide while walking in the halls of school. So the teacher had to find him which caused a safety risk and they got very upset with him and us. Now my question is where was the full time aide at when he is supposed to have one all the time? Also how was that safety risk our fault that is why we requested a full time aide because of his obsessions and wandering?

It is crazy how the schools react..

Thanks,

Amy

From: <gilesfamily1205@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Six year old pulling pants down Date: Monday, October 18, 2010, 6:06 PM

my son was suspended and threatened with a sexual harrassment suit at 5 b/c he urinated in a classroom thank goodness all others were gone or he would have been expelled and they said they would have files sex harrass on him b/c he exposed himself so i feel ya he has exposed before he to is ashamed and was taught the same as you hasent done it since so good luck you just never know wg >> I am at a complete quandry as to what to do. My six year old son decided to pull his pants down and show his P to a friend in class (earlier the teacher said that he asked the same boy if he wanted to see his butt). Well, he was sent home from school. This has happened once before just two weeks ago.

Our son has never done this before (even when he was younger) and this behavior is troubling since he knows all about keeping your private areas private. He also has been fully potty trained for only a month and I'm wondering could this have something to do with it. When I ask him if he understands he tells me he does and he doesn't know why he did it. I've talked with him about this issue and what it means to keep your body private and he feels ashamed about what he did but does he get it enough not to do this again at school. What other tools can I use to drive the point home? Have any of you gone through this before? Any help would be appreciated.>

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That was NOT your fault! When at school THEY are responsible for him. I wouldn't let the school bully me on this one. Stand your ground and ask THEM why they were negligent in providing an Aide for your son. UGH this makes me SO mad! Good luck!

In a message dated 10/22/2010 8:13:53 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, amym321@... writes:

Now my question is where was the full time aide at when he is supposed to have one all the time? Also how was that safety risk our fault that is why we requested a full time aide because of his obsessions and wandering?

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Hi Amy,

So,,,,,did you ask the school about where the full time aide was/is when he's in the hall? If you did,,,,,what was their response?

Seems ridiculous for them to be upset with your son and YOU when THEY are the ones with your son at the time. That's why he supposedly HAS the aide. Ugh.....

Good luck.

Hugs.

Robin

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY

WHAT YOU DID OR WHAT YOU SAID,

BUT THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER

HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL

From: <gilesfamily1205@...>Subject: ( ) Re: Six year old pulling pants down Date: Monday, October 18, 2010, 6:06 PM

my son was suspended and threatened with a sexual harrassment suit at 5 b/c he urinated in a classroom thank goodness all others were gone or he would have been expelled and they said they would have files sex harrass on him b/c he exposed himself so i feel ya he has exposed before he to is ashamed and was taught the same as you hasent done it since so good luck you just never know wg >> I am at a complete quandry as to what to do. My six year old son decided to pull his pants down and show his P to a friend in class (earlier the teacher said that he asked the same boy if he wanted to see his butt). Well, he was sent home from school. This has happened once before just two weeks ago. Our son has never done this before (even when he was

younger) and this behavior is troubling since he knows all about keeping your private areas private. He also has been fully potty trained for only a month and I'm wondering could this have something to do with it. When I ask him if he understands he tells me he does and he doesn't know why he did it. I've talked with him about this issue and what it means to keep your body private and he feels ashamed about what he did but does he get it enough not to do this again at school. What other tools can I use to drive the point home? Have any of you gone through this before? Any help would be appreciated.>