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You wrote in your last couple of paragraphs EXACTLY what I too am feeling.

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[sPAM] ( ) Disrespectful Comments

Guess I'm wondering how common this is or if my son is just being disrespectful. He constantly says things that are rude and inappropriate and I often believe it is the AS, but am I just making an excuse? Do I baby him too much and have not taught him to be respectful? Manners have always been a big deal with me and I have worked on this constantly from the time he could talk. I try my best to practice the manners I want my son to see.......yet the things that come out of his mouth are often appaling!For example......we were on our way to church last night and I was driving. My boyfriend went to sit in the front passengers seat, but for some reason the seat would not move up. We were running late so he said he would just jump in the back seat with my ds. He instantly started to protest and says, "Mom, why can't he just ride in his own car? Why does he have to ride with us?". The other day while in the mens restroom with my boyfriend and yells, "boys are weird". Just doesn't even make sense. I try to explain to him what he says is inappropriate or rude, but he either wants to argue his point or it goes in one ear and out the other.He is almost 9, so I think there is less tolerance for this type of behavior from others than there was when he was 3 or 4. I myself am losing tolerance. He gets straight A's and is soooooo smart and it can be hard to understand. I sometimes wonder if he does it on purpose and knows just what he is doing. Am I just using AS as an excuse?Yesterday I got mad and smacked his leg when he was being rude in the car. After dealing with his hard headedness all day, I guess I had enough! I felt terrible after and hate this state of constantly feeling frustrated, embarrased, tired, guilty. etc. It's like an endless battle. I watch people with their children and it seems sooooo easy. They tell their child something and they listen. They don't cringe waiting for whining, arguing, disrespect, etc. I feel like other people must think I never teach my child anything, when in all reality I probably teach him more than most parents (with little or no results). It is frustrating. It must be nice to be able to spend time with your child without getting stressed or frustrated! Am I the only one feeling this way? People close to me compliment me on my patience, but quite honestly I don't feel very patient. It's hard to be patient when it is the same thing, day after day!! And I feel bad, because he has improved in many areas........it just seems like there is always something I will have to work on while others just get to play with and enjoy their kids. I get to work on eye contact, social stories, social cues, etc. I still have to remind my 9 year old to say hi and bye when someone says it to him!Guess I'm just having a guilt induced, feel bad for myself kind of day!!Thanks for listening!

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that is amazing the post is exactly like at my house only add some agressive

outbursts and hes only 6 and thats my life i feel like even people i know think

im a bad parent ist good to hear some one say what im feeling your not alone wg

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> You wrote in your last couple of paragraphs EXACTLY what I too am feeling.

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> Lynne Banks

> www.americanadoptioncongress.org

> South Dakota State Representative

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> www.adoptionscams.net

> Ask me how to protect yourself from being scammed in adoption!

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> [sPAM] ( ) Disrespectful Comments

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> Guess I'm wondering how common this is or if my son is just being

disrespectful. He constantly says things that are rude and inappropriate and I

often believe it is the AS, but am I just making an excuse? Do I baby him too

much and have not taught him to be respectful? Manners have always been a big

deal with me and I have worked on this constantly from the time he could talk. I

try my best to practice the manners I want my son to see.......yet the things

that come out of his mouth are often appaling!

>

> For example......we were on our way to church last night and I was driving.

My boyfriend went to sit in the front passengers seat, but for some reason the

seat would not move up. We were running late so he said he would just jump in

the back seat with my ds. He instantly started to protest and says, " Mom, why

can't he just ride in his own car? Why does he have to ride with us? " . The other

day while in the mens restroom with my boyfriend and yells, " boys are weird " .

Just doesn't even make sense. I try to explain to him what he says is

inappropriate or rude, but he either wants to argue his point or it goes in one

ear and out the other.

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> He is almost 9, so I think there is less tolerance for this type of behavior

from others than there was when he was 3 or 4. I myself am losing tolerance. He

gets straight A's and is soooooo smart and it can be hard to understand. I

sometimes wonder if he does it on purpose and knows just what he is doing. Am I

just using AS as an excuse?

>

> Yesterday I got mad and smacked his leg when he was being rude in the car.

After dealing with his hard headedness all day, I guess I had enough! I felt

terrible after and hate this state of constantly feeling frustrated, embarrased,

tired, guilty. etc. It's like an endless battle. I watch people with their

children and it seems sooooo easy. They tell their child something and they

listen. They don't cringe waiting for whining, arguing, disrespect, etc. I feel

like other people must think I never teach my child anything, when in all

reality I probably teach him more than most parents (with little or no results).

It is frustrating. It must be nice to be able to spend time with your child

without getting stressed or frustrated! Am I the only one feeling this way?

>

> People close to me compliment me on my patience, but quite honestly I don't

feel very patient. It's hard to be patient when it is the same thing, day after

day!! And I feel bad, because he has improved in many areas........it just seems

like there is always something I will have to work on while others just get to

play with and enjoy their kids. I get to work on eye contact, social stories,

social cues, etc. I still have to remind my 9 year old to say hi and bye when

someone says it to him!

>

> Guess I'm just having a guilt induced, feel bad for myself kind of day!!

>

> Thanks for listening!

>