Informing K teacher about meltdowns?

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Over the past month+, our daughter's meltdowns have gotten worse than they've

been for years (she was diagnosed at 2). Basically, very little patience or

ability to cope with disappointment and crying and whining. As soon as she

started Kindergarten, lots of things got worse including sensory.

My daughter's fragmented reports are that she is getting very upset in class,

recently one time hysterical, and she is told to just sit and she is ignored.

Students who came over to comfort her were shoo'd away. I got similar reports

from her teachers first hand (except no ignoring). My daughter doesn't realize

what 'ignoring' is but what she described was just that but she doesn't know

that it's not a good thing so it was not like she was 'telling on' the teacher.

So no reason to lie I mean. I feel that comfort isn't the same as 'giving in.'

My daughter seems like a total brat to them I'm sure (and sometimes to me!) and

her crappy " behavioral plan " basically says she is " bossy. " I don't think they

are helping and may be hurting the situation. Not sure what to do or say.

Her regular K teacher is very open to any information I might have to give her

about Asperger's or sensory processing disorder. Does anyone have any links to

something I can print up for her? She says she's read " all cats have aspergers. "

I've never read that but it doesn't really seem like it's enough.

But I have to say that I think DDs special ed teacher is actually the one making

things worse for my daughter but I can't be sure of what is going on! I want to

be fair here.

My daughter is so high functioning that they spent a huge part of the IEP

meeting saying " oh all kids to that " or " MY kid does that. " I did put them in

their place as much as I could, but still I know what their view is now. She's

just a brat.

Thanks for advice and any info!

6yo Aspie girl