Guest guest Posted March 8, 2011 Report Share Posted March 8, 2011 I agree with you on the video games . My son loves to play but gets very upset and aggravated if he looses. I limit the time he can play them. I am confident that you feelings are correct. My soon to be ex does nothing that my son enjoys except for watching wrestling. I try to get him outside as much as possible. He only has 2 friends and I try to take him out with a friend to other places kids may be like burger king or the park. I find after a while he starts to interact with other kids or at least respond more. One thing I am insistent on is that none of the games he plays on the game systems are violent. All his games are rated e. I think you will find as the divorce finalizes that things will improve. It won't be easy, but it will get better. You will be able to get him in a more consistant routine. You will still have rough days but things will eventually get better . The biggest problem you encounter is what his dad will let him do at his home. Asberger kids are bright and even though he says you are the bad guy, he really knows what you do for him and respects it. My husband left me for someone else and my son actually responds and reacts to his dad better than me. My husband now wants to come back and my son says "oh well mom he left, he got what he deserves". So I'm a mess and he is ok. I believe that you will find someone for you that will be great to you and your kids . There are still a few decent guys out there. Don't know if you belong to a church or not but if so you may be able to find a male role model that will make an effort to take your son fishing or let him take part in some activities he enjoys . Maybe even try big brothers/big sisters. You are in my prayers. I know what you are going through. Please don't ever hesitate to message me. I would love to share stories and swap and share advice with each other. TamiSent from myTouch 4G----- Reply message -----From: " Connie " <csjohnson70@...>< >Subject: ( ) Curious......Date: Tue, Mar 8, 2011 12:32 am Hi, I was the one that posted the 'Curious' note on Aspergers forum, and just wanted to reach out to you after reading what you wrote, as I feel like we have so many similarities. (I hope that is okay.) I am always cautious as to what I post, as I don't want to offend anyone or say anything that may be taken the wrong way. I found it interesting as you seem to be experiencing the same situation with your son's father, as I am, with my husband. My husband has one complete day off every week, during the week, and, even in the summertime, would prefer to stay indoors and play video games (I live in MN so we usually take advantage of nice weather in the summer). My personal thought, though some video games could be fun and interactive (guitar hero, wii games), the games he chooses to do is usually less interactive games and when he plays with my husband, they don't interact. I just feel this doesn't help social skills. I try to plan weekends where we go to the Y and have some fun, taking my boys sledding, bowling, etc, just to get them out and about. I think it is great your BF is so good with your son, and it takes someone special to have the patience needed with an Aspergers child, I hope I can be that lucky once my divorce is final. I'm sorry if I am rambling, but am just glad to have someone that shares the same thoughts as I do, and would love to swap experiences or ideas with you. Thank you ~ Connie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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