How do ya'll deal....?

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I was just wondering how many parents have the problem of their children being just completely HATEFUL to them. I swear, I think my son really hates me when he says he hates me. He was diagnosed with ODD a year ago, before he was dx'd with ASD, but ODD doesn't even come close to how I feel he acts. Something as small as, "nicolas, please get down from there" if we're in the store, and he climbs on the racks. and he screams "you never let me do anything, because you hate me"...that is just one example of about a million. And it happens all day everyday. "No, you can't have a toy, you haven't earned the points for one this time"(he earns points throughout the day, and so many points equal different privleges) he says "oh yes I will" and if I say no to that, he starts to push me or hit me.

Is my child displaying typical behaviors of an Aspie? He only became like this recently (like the last month) and it has escalated even more since I've been staying with my mom (temporarily), because he gets EVERYTHING he wants from her, because she thinks that everything he does should be excused because he has a "disability". I'm pretty patient with my son, but it gets to the point where he talks down to me so much, I just ignore him while he bashes me, because if I speak to him, I'll get even more upset.

I love my son so much, and fight for him daily, while I watch him treat me like dirt. I feel like there's nothing I can do to make him happy with me, unless it's obey his every command. I asked what he wanted to do for his george washington project, and he said "nothing, you're going to do it for me". I didn't even know what to say to that. We used to be best friends, and no matter how he acted at school, he was my little buddy. Now, I don't even want to be around him sometimes. I hope I'm not the only one who is going through this.. I definitely need help!