New to group-need help with my 25yrd old son w/AS anger & depression

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Hello,

My name is Becky and I am new to this group but not to Aspergers. I have two

adult children with AS diagnosed 11 years ago in Junior High.

My concern right now is my son. He is 25 and has come very far. He graduated

from college and is now working on his Master's degree. He works out of our home

doing web design for a man who owns his own company.

has been on so many meds I can't even remember. He is currently on Efexor

for depression, Gabapentrin for anxiety, Gabitril for anxiety and Lithium. He

has a lot of problems:

1) Sleeping: He can't get to sleep before 1 or 2am. We have tried every sleep

medication out there. He is-and always had been-extremely hard to get out of

bed. Right now I can get him up because I am out of work-on disability but that

is another story. Lately he has been sleeping past noon which barely gives him

enough time to get his 8 hours in for work. He then has to work on the weekend

to make this up. Any ideas/thoughts/experiences with sleeping problems in your

AS child?

2)Anger: He is under a lot of pressure with me not working and, since this is

his first " real " job that was not at the college, worrying about losing his job.

We would be in big trouble financialy if he did. His boss is a real AH who

constantly complains that things aren't going fast enough or that he isn't

really working the hours that he invoices. My son has always been really

accurate and fast in academic classes and got straight A's all through school

except for Junior High when he started to have real problems with his AS so I

don't believe that his is slow and I know he is only invoicing the hours he

works because I help him keep track of them. Because of all of these reasons he

loses his temper easily, pounds the wall-I just found a hole-, pounds the table,

screams at everyone and walks out the door and says he is never coming back.

Anyone have any answers/thoughts/ideas concerning how I can cope with his anger

or maybe some other medication would be helpful?

3)Depression: He is depressed about the economy and says that it will never get

better, only worse. He is depressed because of his AH of a boss. He is depressed

because he feels that he is not good enough to have a good job and that he is

making mistakes and taking too long. I have tried to explain that I have had a

lot of bosses that treated me and everyone else the same way but I don't know if

that helped him. He is depressed because he feels that he should be able to live

alone at his age but our money situation with me not working is keeping me from

even trying to get him out on his own. We tried twice in College to have him

live on campus and they were both disasters. He ended up sleeping all day,

missing classes and shutting down.

Sorry this is such a long post. I just wanted to see if anyone had any ideas

that would help.

Becky