Can the school keep a rap sheet on my Asperger son. minute by minute?

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I am so upset right now. My 11-year-old son had a bad school day (well, every

school day is bad, even though I don't seem to have much problem at home, unless

when I get too upset with his school days and aggravate him). He has close adult

supervision all the time.

Then I found this " rap sheet " in his school bag. I am not sure if that is meant

for me to see. But it really does not matter. The " rap sheet " keeps records of

everything my son did or said that is inappropriate, minute by minute. It has

all the details, with all the bad words, and not so bad words (10:10, said

" shits " 3x; 10:10, screamed out " Hey " ; 10:11, threw pencil at me).

I made it clear at IEP meeting that I didn't want them to put all these explicit

bad behaviors / words on his daily behavior chart (my son likes reviewing his

own behavior charts on the bus home and often find those explicit comments

funny). So most of the time, the staff have been emailing me the explicit

details of the incidents, and just mark lots of 0's on his behavior charts. But

nothing in the email was as detailed as this, to the minute, multiple records

for the same minute!!!

So the helper's job is to keep record all the behaviors, to the exact details,

by minute? I thought s/he is supposed to prevent behaviors from happening or to

mitigate the problems when they are happening? If he is busy keeping records,

when does he actually work on helping my son? My son also said that he knew that

the helper was keeping records and, quite a few times, he got in trouble for

tearing up the helper's sheets.

What should I do? It really gives me such an ugly feeling that all the school is

doing is to establish evidences how bad my son is. But he is not bad at home at

all! Even his 7-year-old sister is following him around, calling " big brother,

come here, check out this and check out that " .

I really wish I could afford to homeschool him now.