Re: Desparate for help. please anyone

[Guest guest]

Hi Karla,

I have full understanding of what you are going through. Sometimes I want

to give myself the time-out because I can't stand it anymore!!!

Our little one is 10y.o. I am not really sure what to do with her either.

I am looking at a range of things:

~ new psych to look at anxiety

~ possible ABA therapy

I feel so angry about the rudeness and I know that is because it wasn't

how either my partner or I am or how we were raised. We have really

firm thoughts on what is acceptable or not. I am trying not to be

rigid but hard to 'give a little' as I really believe that if I let it

go today tomorrow it will be expected that the same behaviour is

acceptable.

At 10 - I am finding we have a periodic sit down discussion about manners

and being 'nice' to one another. I find that modelling or repeating

nicely after she has said something rude doesn't do anything but make

her angry.

My cat has also had a very hard time - how about some balancing on her

head or a magic trick of her in a bag???.... BUT the cat always

comes back for more unfortunatly. We are working on the whole it isn't

fair because she can't escape!!!!

We use fish oil each day which has reduced the physicalness of the

tantrums but not the frequency. Still lots of yelling but no hitting

biting or kicking. I see this as a positive

Have you heard of the book the red beast?? Its about anger - a picture

book written for kids with asp.

I don't think any of that will be helpful except to say your not

by yourself (neither are your dogs ) with this stuff.

Tam.

[Guest guest]

thank you

>

> Hi Karla,

>

> I have full understanding of what you are going through. Sometimes I want

> to give myself the time-out because I can't stand it anymore!!!

>

> Our little one is 10y.o. I am not really sure what to do with her either.

> I am looking at a range of things:

> ~ new psych to look at anxiety

> ~ possible ABA therapy

>

> I feel so angry about the rudeness and I know that is because it wasn't

> how either my partner or I am or how we were raised. We have really

> firm thoughts on what is acceptable or not. I am trying not to be

> rigid but hard to 'give a little' as I really believe that if I let it

> go today tomorrow it will be expected that the same behaviour is

> acceptable.

>

> At 10 - I am finding we have a periodic sit down discussion about manners

> and being 'nice' to one another. I find that modelling or repeating

> nicely after she has said something rude doesn't do anything but make

> her angry.

>

> My cat has also had a very hard time - how about some balancing on her

> head or a magic trick of her in a bag???.... BUT the cat always

> comes back for more unfortunatly. We are working on the whole it isn't

> fair because she can't escape!!!!

>

> We use fish oil each day which has reduced the physicalness of the

> tantrums but not the frequency. Still lots of yelling but no hitting

> biting or kicking. I see this as a positive

>

> Have you heard of the book the red beast?? Its about anger - a picture

> book written for kids with asp.

>

> I don't think any of that will be helpful except to say your not

> by yourself (neither are your dogs ) with this stuff.

>

> Tam.

>