Guest guest Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Today, we took the kids to the Wisconsin Dells to an indoor water park to burn off some energy and I got to see Ian (14) in a way that I haven't seen him in a while. It crushed me, in a way. Now, first, I have to say that he is a good kid. No cruel intentions in him. Sure,,,,,he's almost 15, so of course, aside from how the AS " lets " him know everything, he's a teenager, but man,,,,,,,,,, I was going around checking on the kids and found him in the whirlpool with his 10 yr old brother and I just watched. There were like 5 other adults and 10 other younger kids. No one said anything, but they all kind of looked at him and then would look away, while Ian would splash his younger brother......laugh really loud....then splash again. Then, he'd try to dunk him as playfully as he could. My younger son would say, " Stop Ian " or " knock it off, Ian " and Ian would just keep it up and laugh and laugh. I was so crushed. I was embarrassed....cause I knew I had to stop him.....but I was so crushed. He just didn't get it. Didn't get it. Didn't get it. Sigh. SO,,,,,I finally motioned for my younger son to come to me.....which made Ian notice him leaving, so he came out, too. I told him a lie. That the manager was very angry about him splashing his brother which was making others get splashed, too. And that if he did it again, he wouldn't be able to play at the park anymore. He was really sad. Made me mad at myself. I had him come back to the table with me. He was so remorseful. Anyway, we talked about how " if you dont' see others splashing, you shouldn't splash " . I asked him if he heard Jack telling him to stop. He said, " No " ..........good GOd. And, yes, I know this doesn't sound like much, but it got me thinking. Am I going to always have to be there.....by him....telling him what's appropriate? Motioning to stop? I wonder how the hell is he going to get a job? There are days when he thinks it's funny to " poke " on of his siblings. To really stand there and " poke " them while saying " poke " . They are all younger and will get so angry at him. We all yell and tell him to stop.........then he says how sorry he is, says he doesn't know why he does things like that......then we have a chat about things to do or not do....blah blah blah. Maybe I'm just tired. Sounds like a lot of us are, lately. Robin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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