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Is this AS?  Or is it something else?  This is so extreme...... please tell me what you think, my dh is ready to take our son to the hospital.At 3:30 I went to pick up my older girls from school and he had to go with me (he only goes for a few hours in the morning).  He said he didn't want to go, which is what he usually says.  He actually had a very good day at school this morning and was doing well when he got home.  We got to the school and he told me he wanted to watch Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles on TV tonight.  I said no because it starts at 8:00, which is his bedtime.  Believe me, I said it as gently as possible and tried to bargain, telling him I would put it on Netflix.  I feel like I'm always walking on eggshells with

him.When his sisters got out to the van, he would not let them in, so we all just stood there waiting for him to get over it.  He didn't, unfortunately, he just kept getting more wound up.  He tried to break the van door and the front seat and started punching at the windows and SCREAMING and swearing at me.  Then he got out of the van and ran to the corner.  I didn't chase him because I know he will run if I do that, so I just watched him from a distance.  He kept inching farther and farther and when he got out of sight, I had to follow him.  I had to leave all the other kids alone in the van.  The oldest is 10 and the youngest is just a baby-- 16 months.  Thank goodness I have my 10 year old.  For 40 minutes I followed him and fought with him. When I was able to grab him, he kicked and scratched me and tried to put me in wrestling holds.  He is 8 and very very strong.  I couldn't believe no one stopped and said

anything, we were on the sidewalk of a very busy street.  I was afraid he would run into the road.  I literally could not get him back to the van.  I'm not strong enough.  A cop drove by and just looked.  I waved, but he ignored me.  Thanks a lot buddy.I had to promise him that he could watch the movie.  It was the only way I could get him back to the van.  Then he wouldn't buckle up and he kept screaming and calling me names.  We had to stop at the bank.  I have to make our car payment-- I HAD to do this!  Otherwise, believe me, I wouldn't have today.  We just went through the drive through and the whole time he was yelling that he was going to kill me and other variations on that theme.  Then he climbed into the back of the van-- the storage area and wouldn't get back in his seat.When we got home he was still going.  I was supposed to work tonight, but I can't because I see clients at

my house.  I had to cancel at the last minute because they surely would have wondered about the screaming and swearing and thumping coming from the basement!  This is not good for my business.  We are supposed to go to my sister's wedding three hours away tomorrow and I don't know if we can.  I hurt my back wresting with him on the sidewalk, I have a bruise on my shin where he kicked me, and scratches that are bleeding on my hand.  He hasn't been this bad for a while.  A couple months.  Is this AS?  It seems so extreme.  Nothing helps.  Nothing.  Is this something else?If someone can offer me a medicine that will work, I am at the point where I will give it to him.  All of our lives stop when this happens.  I don't even know what I could have done.  What can I do when he runs away and we are out?  He just now has settled down.  It lasted 2.5 hours.  I'm

exhausted.Jen