Hi - newbe to the Group

June 5, 2010

Hi - I'm new to the Group and am desperate for some help. I have 3 boys and my

eldest, my 10yo, I suspect is on the Autistic spectrum. I tried to get him a

diagnosis last year after a particuarly difficult time - but as he responded in

the 'right' ways from their 5 minues chat with him (ie made appropriate eye

contact, knew how to wait his turn in conversing and had no unusual fears)

'they' the so called professionals did not think a diagnosis was worth pursuing.

However his behaviour is getting more frequently agressive when he is not

getting what he immediately wants and I have no clue what to do. To the outside

world he appears very sweet, caring and well balanced. But at home he is very

different is very vindictive toward his brothers and has what can only be

described as 'meltdowns' - his eyes roll and he becomes very defiant and

destructive. Any help outthere? or books that I can be recommended on how to

deal with all this?

Thanks

Jo

June 5, 2010

I think you need to consider a re-evaluation. Who did the first one? An evaluation involves more than 5 minutes observation. Your description makes me think the school did that one. You may have to start with your pediatrician if you're not sure where to turn for an evaluation. For the meltdown behavior, I would read a book by Dr. Ross Greene, " The Explosive Child. " That book is spectacular and will give exact guidance on how to deal with the behaviors you wrote about. You may want to check out the OASIS website for information as a quick read. You may want to go to your local library and check out books on Asperger's before you buy one. There are many and some may speak to you better than others.

On Sat, Jun 5, 2010 at 4:57 PM, Jo <j.feakin@...> wrote:

Hi - I'm new to the Group and am desperate for some help. I have 3 boys and my eldest, my 10yo, I suspect is on the Autistic spectrum. I tried to get him a diagnosis last year after a particuarly difficult time - but as he responded in the 'right' ways from their 5 minues chat with him (ie made appropriate eye contact, knew how to wait his turn in conversing and had no unusual fears) 'they' the so called professionals did not think a diagnosis was worth pursuing. However his behaviour is getting more frequently agressive when he is not getting what he immediately wants and I have no clue what to do. To the outside world he appears very sweet, caring and well balanced. But at home he is very different is very vindictive toward his brothers and has what can only be described as 'meltdowns' - his eyes roll and he becomes very defiant and destructive. Any help outthere? or books that I can be recommended on how to deal with all this?

ThanksJo

June 6, 2010

we had several sessions before finally diagnosed - we are helped a lot by diet

and it is not as obvious. they weren't convinced until we ate a meal rich in

natural chemicals and they saw us both affected greatly - my son wouldn't make

any eye contact at all, and was doing strange things like rolling around on the

floor instead of chatting in his " professor " voice, and I was really intense and

didn't smile once. This was including all the letters from school and videos I

provided

Miranda

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> >

> > Hi - I'm new to the Group and am desperate for some help. I have 3 boys and

> > my eldest, my 10yo, I suspect is on the Autistic spectrum. I tried to get

> > him a diagnosis last year after a particuarly difficult time - but as he

> > responded in the 'right' ways from their 5 minues chat with him (ie made

> > appropriate eye contact, knew how to wait his turn in conversing and had no

> > unusual fears) 'they' the so called professionals did not think a diagnosis

> > was worth pursuing. However his behaviour is getting more frequently

> > agressive when he is not getting what he immediately wants and I have no

> > clue what to do. To the outside world he appears very sweet, caring and well

> > balanced. But at home he is very different is very vindictive toward his

> > brothers and has what can only be described as 'meltdowns' - his eyes roll

> > and he becomes very defiant and destructive. Any help outthere? or books

> > that I can be recommended on how to deal with all this?

> > Thanks

> > Jo

> >

>

June 6, 2010

Hi! I have a 6 year old aspie and it took three years for us to get a

diagnosis. He was just recently diagnosed. We went through three

pediatricians, two social workers, two psychologists. We received a variety of

diagnosis' before finally ending up where we are. If I were you, I would seek a

second opinion and ask lots of questions. One of the social workers we went to

for three months specifically asking about an Asperger's diagnosis, and at the

end of the three months she said she thinks most of his problems are sensory

related. When I asked if the sensory problems could be caused by an underlying

disorder, she said she thought it might be Aspergers but she is unable to make a

diagnosis like that and was unable to refer us to someone who could. I thought,

then why are we waisting our time and money? She only admitted that she

couldn't make the diagnosis when I pushed the issue. So my advice is ask

questions, push the issue, ask why they are specifically ruling it out and what

else they think could be causing the problems. And ask around for

recommendations to a good developmental psychologist. We wasted time with

social workers whom we were referred to by our pediatricians whom apparently had

no idea who could and couldn't help us with a diagnosis. I finally ended up

asking out OT who some of the other kids she saw went to for a diagnosis and

ended up getting a wonderful referral.

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> Hi - I'm new to the Group and am desperate for some help. I have 3 boys and my